Bobbi7 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 I took a break from OLD, now, I'm thinking on getting back on the dating scene after a 1 month break. I'm 33 and don't want to "wait" until I'm 40. While I'm still semi-young, I sure as heck need to take advantage of dating. If it means going on 50 first dates..so what. If I have a bad date, I'll complain about on here. I just need to grow thicker skin.
SycamoreCircle Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Decide what you want. Be clear about that on your profile. Be honest with yourself about who you are and who the other person is. Be a worthwhile person and you will attract worthwhile people. 1
Author Bobbi7 Posted April 3, 2015 Author Posted April 3, 2015 So, its wise to put that I'm looking for relationship? Also, should I put that if I start dating someone-they should at least take their profile down? Because that always pissed me off when I start going a the first few dates-only to find they are active and updating their profile. Of does that only apply -if there is a relationship officially established?
SycamoreCircle Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 These questions you have---ask them of yourself. That will give you the answer you seek. If you go to a job interview and the employer asks you do you ever plan to steal from the company, how would that make you feel? Would you want to work for this person or company? Likewise, if you start a relationship by laying down rules and expectations borne out your own disappointments and fears, would anyone want to date you?
fitnessfan365 Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 Have your profile focus on who you are, and traits that you're looking for in someone. It seems counter-intuitive but leaving off that you want a relationship will help you size up men better. I mean any guy can read that a woman wants a relationship and sweet talk her to get into her pants. But if a guy doesn't know what to expect going in, he'll represent who he is by his actions. Does he plan dates in public? Does he not push for sex? Does he follow through on what he says he will? When you go into each situation focusing on the individual, and their actions, that will tell you all you need to know. Plus, keeping things natural and not being so "relationship focused" from the get go will allow you to build chemistry and keep things organic. The problem is that a lot of women have your mindset going in. They're frustrated they haven't met the right guy yet, so they think OLD will get them a boyfriend. So they turn first dates into interviews and try to rush. Just focus on meeting new people, taking it date by date, and focusing on a guy's actions. 1
Pinkdisney Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 It really depends on what you are looking for, but the worst part of OLD for me used to be the people who just messaged me "Hi" or "Send me a nude pic". I would be honest what you are looking for in your profile, put up recent and realistic profile photos, what your absolute deal breakers are (if you hate smoking, aren't looking for a pen-pal, etc...) Honestly i'd not post anything about the fact you will take down profiles, but you could say that you are relationship minded.
Gaeta Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 I've been doing it on and off for 3 years. I have survived it with my self-esteem intact because I don't take it too seriously. If a guy disappears after a couple of dates 'oh well' there are 10 more waiting in line. When it doesn't work it's just another story to tell Monday at the office.
Jessie1231 Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 Yes, exactly what Gaeta said. It is fine to go in looking for a relationship and during your search you'll at least get some funny stories to tell along the way.
Anela Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 I took a break from OLD, now, I'm thinking on getting back on the dating scene after a 1 month break. I'm 33 and don't want to "wait" until I'm 40. While I'm still semi-young, I sure as heck need to take advantage of dating. If it means going on 50 first dates..so what. If I have a bad date, I'll complain about on here. I just need to grow thicker skin. I'm almost forty, and still semi-young. Why would you "wait" until you're my age, anyway?
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