Haylsie Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 (edited) I've been in a long distance relationship for 4 months yet, (but known each other for a year and decided to go LDR in December last year) and we have been skyping every day, all hours from morning to night, camming, and fell madly in love with each other, to the point that i don't remember what my life was like before I'd met him, I've been in other relationships, but none like this, we have so much in common, and we can always make each other laugh and every day we'd find different reasons to make each other laugh, smile, and happy, and we've fell more in love along the way. we write long love letters to each other in the morning, and night before we go to sleep, and they're very heartfelt and real. it's been the most amazing 4 months, he brought me unimaginable happiness and I've felt things that i never experienced in my life, and none of my past rs had been able to make me this happy, make me smile as much as he does, and above all love me like he does, we have/had something real, this is/was real, he said he'd fell deeply in love with me,and couldn't imagine living a day without me, and writes endless letters to me describing his love, and how he wants to settle and eventually marry me, I've cried many times reading them, so beautifully written and only made me even more happier and fall even more in love. I felt like the luckiest woman in the world to have found a man so extraordinary, sweet, adorable, and so full of love, he is/was everything good and truly amazing in my world, he changed my life in the most amazing way imaginable, before i met him, i was probably as miserable as sin, he turned all of that around, and I've yet to show him how grateful and thankful i am for everything he's done and given me. Anyway.. =/ yesterday, we were in a skype call, he'd written another letter, and as always i started to write my reply letter, when all of a sudden, he dropped the call, this was at 15:10, no goodbyes or anything, which was not like him at all. So i re-called him and he didn't pick up so i thought maybe he had to go afk and see to his children (he has 2 children who he looks after on his own) , so i left it for about half an hour, then i sent him a message asking if everything was alright, no reply, 2 and a half hours had passed, i started to get a little worried, so i tried to call his phone, and it just rang off, so i got very anxious, and decided to check his facebook see if he had been on there (he wouldn't add me on his facebook, he said he doesn't use it often enough and wouldn't be able to talk to me on it) , and he had in fact been on there last night, writing statuses, playing games, and sharing links, so i could see he was fine =/ but he had not contacted me, and today his skype status is set to away, and he has still not yet replied to me. I'm hurting very badly, i miss him so much it hurts, and it seems he is going about his day just fine :'( , i had a nightmare about the whole thing last night and awoke crying and couldn't go back to sleep through tossing and turning, and i'm dreading going to bed tonight to only have the same thing happen =/ , I'm so lost, and i have not eaten, I've sat at my computer all day waiting for him to reply , i had a panic attack after seeing he had been on facebook and had not bothered to let me know that he was okay, and my mind has been racing with horrible thoughts all day and I've got a headache through it all. has he ran? I don't understand any of this he was perfectly fine we were laughing, and happy and were writing our letters to each other like normal, then he just leaves without a goodbye and doesn't bother to contact me? I'm supposed to be going to meet him on the 13th of this month, and i can't see that happening now :'( i feel so hurt, i love him and i miss him ever so much it hurts, I'm so hurt, lost, and confused, and i don't want to go another day without him. I hope someone here understands, or has been through the same and could give me some advice, thank you xx Edited April 4, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator paragraphs added, grammer corrected. please use paragraphs
Twigyy Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 Hey there. No one really knows if he is running away. I suggest you to give him some space. Love him from a far. If he truly loves you he will contact you soon. Meanwhile you can do things that make you happy. I used to stick to my ex all the time, and I used it as my source of happiness. I was happy every day. We see each other in school everyday, when we reach home we call each other in Skype till we decide to sleep. Until the break up, I realised that I've lost myself. I do hope it doesn't happen to you too. Don't forget about the things that makes you happy before he came into your life. Your hobbies, friends family. He loved you because you were you. Cheers.
ExpatInItaly Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 OP, it's not entirely clear from your post - have you met him in person before? You obviously know he is ok, as he was active on Facebook. His reluctance to add you is not because he hardly uses it, clearly. I think there's more to him that you don't know. In any event, you are evidently in a lot of pain. That indicates you became far too attached to him and pinned all your hopes for happiness on him. That in and of itself isn't healthy for you. No one person should be your sole source of happiness. Having a panic attack upon seeing him active on FB in worrisome. You need to get healthy for yourself, independent of what any man does or doesn't offer you. If I may ask, how old are you both? Have you had much relationship experience before?
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