bangooo_man Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Ok, thanks in advance for reading this, i will try to keep it as short as possible, i am 26y old, been dating for almost 8 years, and all my life i have never met someone so much compatible with me, and me to her, and we both loved each other so well, and had plans for marriage, we have been dating for almost a year now, when suddenly her ex who abused her emotionally and physically called her parents (she is from a very closed minded family) and called the cops to accuse her of selling drugs, and he sent a friend in common between them to stash it in the house, she was taken away for 2 weeks by cops, her family physically abused her after bailing her (everyone will say let her leave her family, but where we live doing so can put you in jail it is not possible to do until you get married, again it is such a closed minded community), now 2 months after all that happens, and ever since and she have been distancing herself, she has been very cold, she seem to have hard time in even loving herself, her mom doesn't stop abusing her emotionally, and she can't leave or use the phone without being spied on by her parents (being in a relationship is also prohibited in our community and can put us in jail), now last week she called me and told me she doesn't love me, and that she can't see us as a married couple, and that she just needed someone to be by her side at the time, so i wonder is it better to give her space? or is this just her mindset because of the trauma she has been in that she doesn't see the love, because we had so much passion and intimacy that i never had before, we truly are meant for each other, and she believed it more than i did, so if i will give her some space how long till i contact her again, or should i refuse and stay by her side? i would like to hear everyone's opinion on the matter and what would you do if you were in my place and why would you do it? thank you:(
d0nnivain Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Given your syntax, I'm guess English isn't your 1st language. The only reason I mention it, is that I don't know if certain social services available in English speaking countries are available to you. Has this "mutual friend" confessed to planting the drugs? Where is the status of your GF's legal troubles? If her family is abusing her, can she report them to the authorities? Physical abuse is not appropriate under any circumstances but not all non-western countries see it that way. Are their shelters available you can take her to?
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