Omei Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 (edited) Okay so I went on the date with the 25 year old who loves books in the nice collar shirt and glasses, he's cute....def my type looks 20 at 25. He can talk so much more than me and has a lot to say (never met anyone who has more to say than I do lol) he works for a internet company and is in law school. He talks about his friends a lot, showed me some pic's of his bro's and him. I like him he's a great match so far. We did the date real casual we decided to just meet at the mall go with the flow, looked around talked a bunch we ended up at the pancake house a food joint, I got a taco salad (omg yum) and he got steak and eggs when the bill came he said together and I said separate he asked if I was sure I wanted to pay for myself I said yes I didn't want to make him pay for me. He asked if next time he could pay for me lol I said sure. We also went to the largest book store in town looked around and spoke of many books I read too! not as much as him but he showed me many books he thought id enjoy We went for a long walk after talked for hours, he told me he liked me so far and grabbed my hand and we walked holding hands, eventually it got too cold so we ended up in a bar had a few drinks (he insisted he pay this time) so we had a few drinks (Like two we didn't drinky drink) talked some more I learned hes close to family but he's from all kinds of places so they're spread out. He's actually born American, moved to Australia now living in Canada for the last 5 years sometimes an accent on words slip out its pretty darn adorable. Anyway after the bar I said it was getting late we should call it a night he agreed he waited with me at the bus stop but while we were waiting he said "im going to kiss you now" pulled me in and gave me a huge smooch when I showed my clear like for it he did it again We talked about meeting again next weekend and then I went home and he met up with his friends. I had a really great time, I hope date two happens. I haven't found anything that is a deal breaker or that I couldn't stand he seems like a very well put together guy. The only thing that's a little odd is he has the same name as one of my previous ex's but it's a mega common name you know, but that's okay it doesn't bug me one bit. (and of course i didnt tell him that) Hope for me guys! im gonna stay positive see where this go's! Edited April 3, 2015 by Omei 11
Frank2thepoint Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Congratulations. Hopefully the guy calls to confirm for date two. Make sure to send him a "thank you" text for the date. The only thing that's a little odd is he has the same name as one of my previous ex's but it's a mega common name you know, but that's okay it doesn't bug me one bit. (and of course i didnt tell him that) Don't mention this to him. At all. He might get the notion that you are hung up on your ex. 1
Author Omei Posted April 3, 2015 Author Posted April 3, 2015 Congratulations. Hopefully the guy calls to confirm for date two. Make sure to send him a "thank you" text for the date. Don't mention this to him. At all. He might get the notion that you are hung up on your ex. Oh yeah no never. That was an ex before another ex so its very in the past there's no need to mention. Good idea I plan to send a ty text in the afternoon.
preraph Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Yay! A real guy with outside interests and serious aspirations! And he's a good kisser. If this works out, we'll be asking you to encourage him to clone himself for us. 2
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Good luck Omei Hope it works out for you. Sounds like a good catch. 1
GorillaTheater Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 He asked if next time he could pay for me lol I said sure. Good move. Congrats and good luck, Omei! 1
Mrin Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 I've only partially been keeping up with your OLD tales but congratulations and enjoy. 1
Author Omei Posted April 7, 2015 Author Posted April 7, 2015 (edited) Just updating We're still talking and texting on a regular basis not too much tho he works nights and I work days so when im awake hes sleeping so we really only text for an hour or two in the evenings but really that's all I need. We plan to meet on Sunday im going to bus to his end of town (like a hours ride) to meet him at some kind of hip and trendy cafe/bar place I don't know ive never been there but he likes going there so I said id try it out. This 2nd date will be the first time ive made it to a 2nd date though OLD Edited April 7, 2015 by Omei 5
central Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 Normal? Why, that's not natural! Good luck, and I hope all goes well.
Author Omei Posted April 10, 2015 Author Posted April 10, 2015 Well it didn't go so well, I guess. We spent everyday talking and shared mutual excitement about our second date all the way up till last night he talked to me about our date this Sunday, the date he personally planned for us. But at lunch time I got "You're not what im looking for good luck" I find this unusual since he initiated it all from the first msg to the kiss to making the second date, I would initiate texts sometimes. I can only think that maybe he thinks he found someone better and that's why the sudden cut and dry whoooooooooo knowsssssss
Mrin Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Well it didn't go so well, I guess. We spent everyday talking and shared mutual excitement about our second date all the way up till last night he talked to me about our date this Sunday, the date he personally planned for us. But at lunch time I got "You're not what im looking for good luck" I find this unusual since he initiated it all from the first msg to the kiss to making the second date, I would initiate texts sometimes. I can only think that maybe he thinks he found someone better and that's why the sudden cut and dry whoooooooooo knowsssssss Ya sounds like an ex came back into the picture or he was multidating and it got serious with one of the others. But I agree - it definitely sounds like a clear the decks wave off. I've done my fair share of those but usually I tell them I want to focus on a single woman that I met. Next! 1
Author Omei Posted April 11, 2015 Author Posted April 11, 2015 (edited) Ya sounds like an ex came back into the picture or he was multidating and it got serious with one of the others. But I agree - it definitely sounds like a clear the decks wave off. I've done my fair share of those but usually I tell them I want to focus on a single woman that I met. Next! He was a nice guy seemed very stable and had his stuff together I cant help but feel a little disappointed but ill be okay. I mostly keep thinking about now how it sucks I don't get to wear my new shirt and earrings out this weekend.....i might take myself to dinner. If he comes back suddenly im totally not being a second choice hes had his chance. Edited April 11, 2015 by Omei
Frank2thepoint Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Oh damn Omei. Sorry to hear nothing came out of it. There's no way to tell why he ended it, but at least you're not being strung along, so you have some closure at least. Hope you get your spirits up soon so you can go back to toiling away at a new prospect. Dating is just like George Orwell's 1984.
Author Omei Posted April 11, 2015 Author Posted April 11, 2015 Oh damn Omei. Sorry to hear nothing came out of it. There's no way to tell why he ended it, but at least you're not being strung along, so you have some closure at least. Hope you get your spirits up soon so you can go back to toiling away at a new prospect. Dating is just like George Orwell's 1984. yeah thanks I def wont let this stop me from finding the right guy :-) 2
KatZee Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Well it didn't go so well, I guess. We spent everyday talking and shared mutual excitement about our second date all the way up till last night he talked to me about our date this Sunday, the date he personally planned for us. But at lunch time I got "You're not what im looking for good luck" I find this unusual since he initiated it all from the first msg to the kiss to making the second date, I would initiate texts sometimes. I can only think that maybe he thinks he found someone better and that's why the sudden cut and dry whoooooooooo knowsssssss And THIISSSSS ^^^^ is why I hate OLD. This should be posted on the "I hate the fakeness of OLD" thread. So typical. 2
Weezy1973 Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 If nothing else, you at least know decent guys are out there, and you had an amazing first date! Those are rare.... 1
Author Omei Posted April 11, 2015 Author Posted April 11, 2015 And THIISSSSS ^^^^ is why I hate OLD. This should be posted on the "I hate the fakeness of OLD" thread. So typical. I had a mean customer at work that took 20 mins of my time complaining about our store.....book guy sent me the text during my lunch break, I ripped my finger open on a peice of metal, got home finally glad the weekend is here, friend ditches our plans tonight and im called into work for tomorrow..... Can I cry now? I swear one more thing today and I just might allow myself a little pitty party
KatZee Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 I had a mean customer at work that took 20 mins of my time complaining about our store.....book guy sent me the text during my lunch break, I ripped my finger open on a peice of metal, got home finally glad the weekend is here, friend ditches our plans tonight and im called into work for tomorrow..... Can I cry now? I swear one more thing today and I just might allow myself a little pitty party It's gotta be something in the air. I just saw a friend post something on Facebook about how there's a funny feeling in the air, and a ton are agreeing. Full moon? I had a date tonight too. Got cancelled. 3
Gary S Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Awe, I'm sorry Omei. Don't worry, there are lots of single guys out there, you will find an even better one next time! 1
fitnessfan365 Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 That's kind of weird that he'd announce he was going to kiss you instead of just going for it. But sorry to hear that it didn't work out. BTW - Most guys would take a woman insisting on paying for herself as a rejection. So only insist on paying for yourself if you're not interested. Even if it feels wrong, let the guy pay if you want to see him again. 2
contact1 Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Sorry it didn't work out Omei I think you are spot on that there must be someone else they decided to go with, you'll have your time I'm sure! 1
Author Omei Posted April 11, 2015 Author Posted April 11, 2015 (edited) That's kind of weird that he'd announce he was going to kiss you instead of just going for it. But sorry to hear that it didn't work out. BTW - Most guys would take a woman insisting on paying for herself as a rejection. So only insist on paying for yourself if you're not interested. Even if it feels wrong, let the guy pay if you want to see him again. I let him pay for our later drinks which surely costs more then our cheap meals at the pancake house he wouldnt let me see the bill. And our kissing and hand holding after the meal....clearly thats not a rejection on my part since I showed my clear like for it. I dont think it was the meal I loved the announcement it was like "im going to kiss you now" giving me a few sec to decide and then he pulled me into his arms and kissed me I was romanced out of my pants, it was like a movie kiss. Confident and in control by communicating without that silent dive in. Edited April 11, 2015 by Omei
Versacehottie Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 That's kind of weird that he'd announce he was going to kiss you instead of just going for it. But sorry to hear that it didn't work out. BTW - Most guys would take a woman insisting on paying for herself as a rejection. So only insist on paying for yourself if you're not interested. Even if it feels wrong, let the guy pay if you want to see him again. I wholeheartedly agree.
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