Quiet Storm Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 (edited) >>"This is me, I appreciate hot women, I'm not changing for anyone, if she don't like it, she can kick rocks."<< ------- Appreciating hot women is not the issue. I have no problem with that. It's bringing it to my attention that is the issue, and I would deem any man incredibly insecure for needing to do that. I would also deem a man who made such a comment ^^ (even to himself) as insecure. It indicates a complete disregard and lack of respect for women = misogynistic. And contrary to popular belief, misogynistic men are VERY weak men, and insecure! I think some men are like that, but others are just being their dickish selves. You see it as "trying to get a reaction" because it got a reaction out of you. Some guys are just aszholes and are just being their normal selves. They make comments about hot women whether they are home watching TV or out on a date. They don't feel the need to censor themselves or change their behavior for anyone. I don't think that's insecure. I think it's inconsiderate, rude and selfish. If it's just a glance or an occasional comment, some women may genuinely not mind that or feel disrespected by it. If all women that men like this came into contact with were emotionally healthy, assertive and unwilling to tolerate them, it may alter their behavior because they'd never get past the first date. But there are plenty of women who date guys like this and there always will be. Edited April 3, 2015 by Quiet Storm
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted April 4, 2015 Author Posted April 4, 2015 FYI I already stopped dating him before I started this thread. It didn't get a reaction from me except feeling annoyance and thinking "deal breaker". I actually doubt that this guy wasn't that into me. He complimented me too, constantly. I do think he was immature/insecure and socially clueless. It's completely fine and normal for guys to think those things to themselves but when they say them out loud, especially within the first few dates, it tells me a lot abut their character 1
katiegrl Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 I think some men are like that, but others are just being their dickish selves. You see it as "trying to get a reaction" because it got a reaction out of you. Some guys are just aszholes and are just being their normal selves. They make comments about hot women whether they are home watching TV or out on a date. They don't feel the need to censor themselves or change their behavior for anyone. I don't think that's insecure. I think it's inconsiderate, rude and selfish. If it's just a glance or an occasional comment, some women may genuinely not mind that or feel disrespected by it. If all women that men like this came into contact with were emotionally healthy, assertive and unwilling to tolerate them, it may alter their behavior because they'd never get past the first date. But there are plenty of women who date guys like this and there always will be. Too bad (for him) it wasn't the reaction he wanted!!! :bunny: The reaction he wanted was for me to become insecure (like him!) and start trying harder to "win" his attention. Sadly, many women (not on this board..haha) do just that which sends them the message that the douchier they behave, the more more women will want them... Ugh. Nope. I just politely excused myself and got up and left...which had HIM chasing ME for the next few weeks..until he finally got the message I wasn't interested.... 1
Leigh 87 Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 Ew. I'd finish the date and leave. I'd say thanks but no thanks I know it's near impossible to find men who think I'm gorgeous or anything special but I'd rather remain single and dateless than to date a man who wished he could be doing better than me..... 2
edgygirl Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 (edited) Disgusting. It shows both insecurity and poor lack of self control as well as lack respect to the woman he's with. I met a guy through a dating site and we didn't go officially on a date but met at an event we both frequented regularly before. He's 50 and put 40 in his profile. He has 4 children from 2 women and had told me the last woman he dated was "really jealous" and they had to break up. At the event I understood the reason she was jealous: he would stare at all the passing hoe-looking women with mega high heels wearing 2 lbs of makeup. I was both disgusted and laughing inside. I wondered if I should tell him my impression to help him in the future in dating (I was definitely turned off and uninterested). But I never talked with him again. Edited April 4, 2015 by edgygirl 3
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