Eternal Sunshine Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 If you went on a few dates with some guy and he was often commenting how other women are hot. Like we would watch a movie and he would say "god damn she is hot" or he would talk about a co-worker and how gorgeous she is. Or a random woman would pass by and he would say "I bet all the men want her". I dunno, I am not actually jeloaus of these women, just find the behaviour tacky :S 1
kadya Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 If you went on a few dates with some guy and he was often commenting how other women are hot. Like we would watch a movie and he would say "god damn she is hot" or he would talk about a co-worker and how gorgeous she is. Or a random woman would pass by and he would say "I bet all the men want her". I dunno, I am not actually jeloaus of these women, just find the behaviour tacky :S Very tacky. My ex checked out women in front of me and made comments about their looks very often. Long story short, we broke up because of trust issues. He was constantly texting other girls and asking for nudie pics from a stripper.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Yeah... Unless it's something you both enjoy (rare), its best to keep those comments to yourself... And avoid turning your head when a hot girl walks by.
carhill Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 I dunno, I am not actually jeloaus of these women, just find the behaviour tacky Indeed, and I wouldn't expect any woman I ever dated to even last the date with that kind of behavior. 2
ZA Dater Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 If you went on a few dates with some guy and he was often commenting how other women are hot. Like we would watch a movie and he would say "god damn she is hot" or he would talk about a co-worker and how gorgeous she is. Or a random woman would pass by and he would say "I bet all the men want her". I dunno, I am not actually jeloaus of these women, just find the behaviour tacky :S Would irritate me a lot and based on this I would move on, clearly he doesn't have much class or much consideration for how his comments will make you feel. He sounds immature, how old is he?
Kamille Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 I usually find that kind of behaviour juvenile. I read it as immaturity and game-playing. It amuses me more than it annoys me, but I tend to lose interest in the guys who do this.
katiegrl Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 If you went on a few dates with some guy and he was often commenting how other women are hot. Like we would watch a movie and he would say "god damn she is hot" or he would talk about a co-worker and how gorgeous she is. Or a random woman would pass by and he would say "I bet all the men want her". I dunno, I am not actually jeloaus of these women, just find the behaviour tacky :S I once went on a date with a guy who did this. My response? I politely excused myself, got up and left! He continued to call and text; I just ignored him. I have no use for men that behave this way and you shouldn't either. 1
SunnySide0418 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 If you went on a few dates with some guy and he was often commenting how other women are hot. Like we would watch a movie and he would say "god damn she is hot" or he would talk about a co-worker and how gorgeous she is. Or a random woman would pass by and he would say "I bet all the men want her". I dunno, I am not actually jeloaus of these women, just find the behaviour tacky :S Yes, it's very disrespectful. He sounds insecure.
d0nnivain Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 I could probably get past it if I noticed his eyes following an attractive women but constant comments would bug me. It just feels as though the underlying message is the woman he is with (me) doesn't measure up.
Vintage79 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Tacky if it's happening all the time, in particular on the first few dates. Acceptable/passable if it's infrequent and you've been dating for a little while.
Omei Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Wouldn't bug me usually im the first to comment on a girl before the guy haha I love woman they're so beautiful and so much more fun to look at than men (no im not a lesbian) I love hair, makeup, fashion everything if a girl who is rocking her socks off hot walks by im usually the one to pipe up and say "Look at that girl!" to the guy im with. I don't mind my partners looking. Now if a guy was to flirt with them say like a waitress then we'd be having some problems lol But saying she's hot and looking.....well it just might be the truth hahaha I can see how it could be seen tacky tho, when you're on your first couple of dates you want the attention entirely on you.
angel.eyes Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Indeed, and I wouldn't expect any woman I ever dated to even last the date with that kind of behavior. ^^^^^This! 1
Frank2thepoint Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 It's more than just tacky. It's disrespectful. If you went on a few dates with some guy and he was often commenting how other women are hot. The boldfaced stood out to me. Why would you tolerate going out on more than one date with a guy that does this? 3
amaysngrace Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 It would make me feel like he's not that into me if every other random female was getting his attention. Pass.
carhill Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 I'm chagrined to admit that, and OP can confirm, it's usually socially powerful guys who can have a wandering eye and still command dates and interest from women. I think LS calls these 'high demand' guys. Why do they do it? Because they can. As I often comment, men are pragmatists. They throw stuff at the wall until things stick. Socially powerful guy simply have a more attractive wall.
katiegrl Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 It would make me feel like he's not that into me if every other random female was getting his attention. Pass. It didn't make me feel that way. Hardly. I think guys do this to get a reaction.... *they* are the insecure ones, hoping to get an *insecure* reaction from YOU. He *wants* you to think he's into the other girl, why else would he say it? Such guy is insecure and immature. I don't play that game, so like I said, when the one guy did it to me on the first date, I got up and left. 1
SawtoothMars Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 If you went on a few dates with some guy and he was often commenting how other women are hot. Like we would watch a movie and he would say "god damn she is hot" or he would talk about a co-worker and how gorgeous she is. Or a random woman would pass by and he would say "I bet all the men want her". I dunno, I am not actually jeloaus of these women, just find the behaviour tacky :S Tacky isn't the word I would use. I would instead call this Tactless. If I must comment on a woman's attractiveness in front of my wife, I do so in a cold and clinical way... As if describing an artistic painting or sculpture. These instances are rare.
amaysngrace Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 I'm chagrined to admit that, and OP can confirm, it's usually socially powerful guys who can have a wandering eye and still command dates and interest from women. I think LS calls these 'high demand' guys. Why do they do it? Because they can. As I often comment, men are pragmatists. They throw stuff at the wall until things stick. Socially powerful guy simply have a more attractive wall. You mean money? Yea there's plenty of men (and women too) that that's their best feature. Take away their money and they'd be nothing.
mammasita Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 You made it past the first date with him acting like that? YUCK. Way immature and annoying. 3
amaysngrace Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 It didn't make me feel that way. Hardly. I think guys do this to get a reaction.... *they* are the insecure ones, hoping to get an *insecure* reaction from YOU. He *wants* you to think he's into the other girl, why else would he say it? Such guy is insecure and immature. I don't play that game, so like I said, when the one guy did it to me on the first date, I got up and left. I don't know why it didn't make you feel that way when he was clearly not giving you his full attention but I'm guessing it didn't make you feel all warm and fuzzy since you got up and left.
Blade96 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Tacky yup. It's best for him to save those comments for his buddies. Goes for girls too - save your guy gazing for girls' night out. cause it's disrespectful to who you're dating to say it when you are with them.
Gary S Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Yup, you just found out why that guy is single. Men should not look at other women and talk about them when on a date. Ginormous turnoff. Most guys can't stop looking, but that's why we have mirrored sunglasses But for Pete's sake guys, don't talk about other women in front of your date. You can't talk to a lady like you do your guy friends, it's not romantic.
carhill Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Socially powerful men generally have a combination of factors and I'd put charisma above looks or money. Why? Because charisma and the ability to make people feel good about giving one what one wants is an art which both puts a 'sizzle' on one's looks and brings more money into one's coffers because, well, people just feel good about giving it. Had the OP posted up this thread about her first date and this guy acting this way and she leaving after excusing herself, I might have opined differently. The OP also has been involved with or interested in high demand men over the years so that reality also has some play, though I tend to focus on the particular interaction and the apparent 'few' dates in it. Lastly, IME men who are unremarkable get no threads posted about them here. It's the remarkable ones who are frustrating and annoying who get the threads, so that also fits into my response regarding socially powerful men. It's not so much that this man has such apparently annoying behaviors, rather that he's attractive enough to both keep the OP in the milieu with a relative stranger and after her substantial life experience with men, but also garner a discussion of the matter. He's 'worth' it. That's power.
katiegrl Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 I don't know why it didn't make you feel that way when he was clearly not giving you his full attention but I'm guessing it didn't make you feel all warm and fuzzy since you got up and left. Because I am secure and confident. And the reason I left was because it turned me off!! I also have good insight into people and I KNEW the reason he was pulling that crap was to throw me off balance ...and get a reaction. So why would *I* feel "not good" enough?? HE is the one who is not good enough for me! 2
Bobbi7 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Yes it would! Not only that it's plain rude. He is on a date with YOU. I know he eyes are to look, but checking out other women and drooling over them is dumb. I was on a date once and the guy checked out this girl for a good 10 seconds. He told me that she had something on her face and still continued to stare at her from behind. Apparently, she was wearing a miniskirt. Well, next time I'm going to be wearing a tight short dress with my who-ha showing so that my date will only look at me. He even admitted men are visual creatures.
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