Luna1 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 This is the final time I am asking, after this, it's decision time. So I ll quote about my boyfriend " I have a boyfriend of 2 years. He's a struggling theatre and television actor.He is 32 years old". You must know about us by my last posts about him and our relationship. 2 weeks ago, I admitted I must stay hidden, non existent for the sake of our relationship. But things have taken a new turn. He is doing a new show in which he is the lead actor. Once again he was asked by the press folks whether he is single or seeing someone and he once again claimed "he has been married for quite some time". He also said his "wife" is not from the industry and he seriously does not want to talk about it since he dislikes talking about his personal life and he is working hard on being an actor so people should talk about that. But he had been very friendly with his co actress who is paired opposite him. She posted a pic of them answering questions and has started favouriting tweets related to them. My boyfriend, today also Instagrammed two pictures with her and two other pictures with the entire cast, which were taken at the press screening. One photo was the same, she posted. The actress has no fans of her own, all those people who are liking her are my boyfriend's followers. She also started following him on Instagram, after nearly 2 months of shooting though he hasn't followed her. It seems they were not exactly friends but after the press screening and photo sessions, she noticed the fanfare she received because of him so followed him. I am at wits end. Is this only related to work? Or he has started liking her? And about his lies again, what does it mean?
ExpatInItaly Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 This is the final time I am asking, after this, it's decision time. So I ll quote about my boyfriend " I have a boyfriend of 2 years. He's a struggling theatre and television actor.He is 32 years old". You must know about us by my last posts about him and our relationship. 2 weeks ago, I admitted I must stay hidden, non existent for the sake of our relationship. But things have taken a new turn. He is doing a new show in which he is the lead actor. Once again he was asked by the press folks whether he is single or seeing someone and he once again claimed "he has been married for quite some time". He also said his "wife" is not from the industry and he seriously does not want to talk about it since he dislikes talking about his personal life and he is working hard on being an actor so people should talk about that. But he had been very friendly with his co actress who is paired opposite him. She posted a pic of them answering questions and has started favouriting tweets related to them. My boyfriend, today also Instagrammed two pictures with her and two other pictures with the entire cast, which were taken at the press screening. One photo was the same, she posted. The actress has no fans of her own, all those people who are liking her are my boyfriend's followers. She also started following him on Instagram, after nearly 2 months of shooting though he hasn't followed her. It seems they were not exactly friends but after the press screening and photo sessions, she noticed the fanfare she received because of him so followed him. I am at wits end. Is this only related to work? Or he has started liking her? And about his lies again, what does it mean? Honestly, I don't really believe you. You've been asking the same questions over and over, and getting the same responses. What are you hoping to hear? Why can't you make a decision by yourself after all this time and all these problems? What exactly are you waiting for? 1
elaine567 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 He, by saying he is married and he is wanting to remove you from the press's gaze, is a good thing. Married = stable, LTR, no scandal, no juicy stories. Full stop. Leading lady following him on social media is a good thing too for her. She can tap into his friends and contacts - it is called networking and social media can be used for marketing too. She and he, will need to sell themselves constantly. It also scorches any rumours that they do not get on well. All actors want to portray happy working relationships. YOU either accept what he does, or you leave. Simples
Author Luna1 Posted April 3, 2015 Author Posted April 3, 2015 He, by saying he is married and he is wanting to remove you from the press's gaze, is a good thing. Married = stable, LTR, no scandal, no juicy stories. Full stop. Leading lady following him on social media is a good thing too for her. She can tap into his friends and contacts - it is called networking and social media can be used for marketing too. She and he, will need to sell themselves constantly. It also scorches any rumours that they do not get on well. All actors want to portray happy working relationships. YOU either accept what he does, or you leave. Simples then why is he posting pics with his co actor if he wants to stay away from scandals?
elaine567 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 then why is he posting pics with his co actor if he wants to stay away from scandals? Because they are linked at the moment due to the new show, and as you say it is photos of them answering questions and with the entire cast. Hardly worrying stuff.
d0nnivain Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 He doesn't to be involved in a scandal but he's perfectly happy to enjoy the publicity that follows from the hint or an idea that a scandal exits. As I have repeatedly told you, you are not secure enough to date an actor. He will forever be linked to his co-stars & you can't handle that. Why do you continue to ask the same Q?
Author Luna1 Posted April 3, 2015 Author Posted April 3, 2015 Because they are linked at the moment due to the new show, and as you say it is photos of them answering questions and with the entire cast. Hardly worrying stuff. One pic is a couple photo of just both of them.
Blade96 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 I was in a long distance relationship with an actor for 6 months. We're still friends. They always have lots of pics with co stars, fellow actors and whatnot. It most likely doesn't mean anything. Trust me, what he is doing is normal for an actor. lots of pics with co stars and fellow actors. 1
elaine567 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 He doesn't to be involved in a scandal but he's perfectly happy to enjoy the publicity that follows from the hint or an idea that a scandal exits. Yes. As leading man material, he is going to have to spend lots of time with women co-actors, make up artists and other crew members, as that is his job. You are going to have to start trusting him or end it for your own sanity
Blade96 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 also, actors have to sell themselves. And their work. and this is one of the ways they do it. I have several actor friends. I don't consider myself any great expert on actors (only met my first actor friend ever in 2013 and never knew actors before then - but what your actor friend is doing is what all my friends do as well. Seems very normal to me
Blade96 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 (edited) btw one of my good actor friends, if he has a gf or anything he won't say either And I don't ask him. If he wanted his fb friends to know he would tell us. some of these celebs guard their personal life like a conservative religious person would guard their virginity Don't worry so much. He most likely likes you. btw I thought this was a good answer I found in one of your other threads. "I was in the music industry for many years. I will tell you that standard practice is that it's not good business for rockstars and entertainers to flaunt their spouses unless their spouses are famous in their own right. It can detract from fan enthusiasm, and that's a simple fact. No one wants you marketed alongside him because it really is not good business for entertainers and most particularly ones who are trading on their sex appeal. Even local musicians quickly learn to try to not looked coupled up at a gig. Besides fan enthusiasm, wives and girlfriends can really cause conflict and get in the way on set or on tour. Someone is paying these performers to perform. They didn't sign up for a package deal to keep the family happy too. Did you know that a huge part of a personal manager's job is to alert everyone when a wife or girlfriend shows up unexpectedly and buying them time in case they have anything to hide? It's not good for a celebrity's image to look like they have so much time on their hands that they have nothing better to do than post family snapshots on their social media. It looks corny. Again, you will mostly only see it if both people are celebrities, and that's intentional. Most of the posting on celebrities' social media now is done by whoever they're under contract to, to make sure they don't take a wrong step. The few you hear about who do their own are forever embarrassing themselves. I don't know your man or his culture, so I can't say what his ethics are, but I want to prepare you for a simple truth. When men become famous or rich, they begin to attract what they will consider to be more attractive women, and very few of them will pass up the opportunity to upgrade when that happens. Your priorities here are telling. What you're having the biggest issue with is not being included in his newfound fame. If your biggest issue with him is sophomoric stuff like him not tagging you in social media, consider yourself lucky." " Edited April 3, 2015 by Blade96
Author Luna1 Posted April 3, 2015 Author Posted April 3, 2015 (edited) But he never posted any pic with female actors & she has reposted the pic he posted of them Edited April 3, 2015 by Luna1
ExpatInItaly Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 But he never posted any pic with female actors & she has reposted the pic he posted of them You've more or less refuted every post. What is the point of the thread, OP? Are you wanting people here to tell you he likes her and wants to be with her, and doesn't like you, so you should leave him? I am confused.
smackie9 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 omg they just work together....and people in this industry connect with others to further their careers. It's obvious she is using his popularity and fan base to get herself more recognized.....jeeeeezzzzzzzzzzz!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Author Luna1 Posted April 4, 2015 Author Posted April 4, 2015 omg they just work together....and people in this industry connect with others to further their careers. It's obvious she is using his popularity and fan base to get herself more recognized.....jeeeeezzzzzzzzzzz!!!!!!!!!!!!! how are you so sure?
scorpiogirl Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 how are you so sure? You're right. You should feel threatened. Actors leave their girlfriends/ wives for co-stars all the time. Look at Brad Pitt. Now if even poor jennifer Aniston didn't stand a chance, then there's no hope for you, I'm afraid. No need to ask again. I've just answered your question. By posting the picture he's trying to send you subliminal messages so that you're not shocked when the tabloids finally catch them red-handed. Also when he says "wife" maybe he's not talking about you. Are you sure he doesn't actually HAVE a wife? :rolleyes:
smackie9 Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 omg they just work together....and people in this industry connect with others to further their careers. It's obvious she is using his popularity and fan base to get herself more recognized.....jeeeeezzzzzzzzzzz!!!!!!!!!!!!! Just because they have the parts that fit doesn't mean they are going to use them. It would be no different saying all men will rape women because they have a penis to do it. He is in a type of industry that he will be working with models, and attractive women all the time, but it doesn't make him a cheating rat bastard. Schmoozing, making connections, getting his photo taken with other actresses, female celebrities and female fans is the norm. You cannot change what is going on, so that being said....if you are constantly paranoid about every female that is near him, then you need to breakup the relationship and find a guy that doesn't work in the spotlight. 1
smackie9 Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 You're right. You should feel threatened. Actors leave their girlfriends/ wives for co-stars all the time. Look at Brad Pitt. Now if even poor jennifer Aniston didn't stand a chance, then there's no hope for you, I'm afraid. No need to ask again. I've just answered your question. By posting the picture he's trying to send you subliminal messages so that you're not shocked when the tabloids finally catch them red-handed. Also when he says "wife" maybe he's not talking about you. Are you sure he doesn't actually HAVE a wife? :rolleyes: This would be a great reason to dump his ass!!!! you better do it now before you are made a fool of! You don't want to be like Jennifer!
elaine567 Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 Just because they have the parts that fit doesn't mean they are going to use them. It would be no different saying all men will rape women because they have a penis to do it. He is in a type of industry that he will be working with models, and attractive women all the time, but it doesn't make him a cheating rat bastard. Schmoozing, making connections, getting his photo taken with other actresses, female celebrities and female fans is the norm. You cannot change what is going on, so that being said....if you are constantly paranoid about every female that is near him, then you need to breakup the relationship and find a guy that doesn't work in the spotlight. The trouble here for the OP is that shock horror! Men work with women all the time, so it is not only actors that she need worry about being attracted to other women. Very, very few men work in women free zones. If he is a rat, then he is a rat, she cannot control that and if she cannot cope with the worry that he may be, then just leave him. BUT, if he is a good guy being labelled a rat, that is not fair and is more to do with her insecurity than his morals. Men, if they are so inclined will cheat with all sorts of women, so just because this co actor is good looking, doesn't mean she wants to hook up with him, nor that he is even attracted to her.
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