nab0610 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 OK so I've been dating this girl that I met online for about 2 months. 3rd date was 2 weeks ago ended up kissing making out, holding hands, and goodnight. Went for brunch a couple days later before she had to go to work same type of stuff went smoothly ended with a long kiss and good bye. She was telling me about this april fools joke over brunch, about how they took a bunch of candy mixed it all together in a bowl so that when you went to eat the candy you'd think u were getting chocolate but instead bite into something sour. Anyways so she texts me that evening asking about my day and back and forth its kind of late and she has said she doesnt want to text me after 11 because I go to bed early. She then tells me about how she ate too much of the april fools candy. So i texted her back joking about how all the flavors mixed together must have been to good to be true and won out in the end. The secret is i the surprise of what you bite into. No response. I figured I pushed some insecurity button so the next night when we usually chat after work, I attempted to initiate and said hey beautiful hope your day went a little better today and mr candy monster didn't suck you in haha . No response again? Totally confused at this point and haven't attempted any more contact. I'm assuming she took the jokes that she initiated personally, but honestly don't know. Thoughts?
PearTree Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 I'm not sure how she could have taken them personally. There was nothing offensive in those jokes at all - they were cute! Unless she's insecure about looking greedy by eating too much candy, but in that case she wouldn't have told you that she'd done it. You've done nothing wrong, she's either playing hard to get or she's not into you any more.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 OP, you're being needy/insecure. Who cares if she responds or not, honestly go out and do something. By sending consecutive texts, you're killing any attraction she might have for you. Just stop thinking about **** and go do something, if its meant to work out it will and you won't have to constantly worry if she responds or not.
Author nab0610 Posted April 3, 2015 Author Posted April 3, 2015 Idk ive been out of the dating game for a couple of years. Same thing seemed to happen with the last girl. Just confused she initiates then texts me with some playful banter. Late in the day and i heard nothing back so i follow up 24h later abt her day. Dont really see how thats needy but maybe it is. What do u suggest i do text her and ask her out again directly this weekend?
d0nnivain Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 I don't get it. I don't even understand what you said or what you meant so I'm having trouble understanding why you think it somehow offended her. I also don't "get" texts. I need the non-verbal cues like intonation to understand other people. Can you call her & ask her for the date? It's already Friday & it's a Holy Day -- Easter -- so she may have family obligations. I can't imagine that she's available for a last minute date this weekend.
Vintage79 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Yeah, nothing wrong with the jokes, at least in the offensive department. I'm not sure how old you are - but the jokes seem like they'd maybe be funny to a teenager - if you're 20s or 30s, or older, they likely came across as pretty lame and may have brought into question your sense of humor - I know that if I got those types of messages from someone, I don't think I'd respond. As someone else stated - they're coming across as trying too hard, a bit desperate and needy, and as I suggested - at least to me, boring, desperate humor. Just give her a few days and try contacting her again with either something that is genuinely funny, or interesting, but thereafter, don't send anything else unless she responds...
Author nab0610 Posted April 3, 2015 Author Posted April 3, 2015 Nope family lives out of town and shes leaving on monday for a week long trip with her mother we talked over brunch didnt mention any specific plans.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 OP, you don't do ANYTHING until she initiates contact with you. The ball is so far in her court, if you push it any further it's going to be out of the court entirely
angel.eyes Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 It all sounds good...jokes, banter, regular communication...until the radio silence. I take it you communicate every day? If so, there was nothing wrong with sending a followup text or, better yet, calling. Rarely texts don't go through. It's unclear why the sudden silence. Your joke was cute...and a shared one. Nothing offensive in the content. Maybe she misplaced her phone? Who knows? If you still haven't heard from her, I would send her a text or call her just before she leaves to wish her a fun trip. She'll either get back to you (and you'll find out what happened) or she won't...and you can then assume she lost interest and disappeared. 1
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 It all sounds good...jokes, banter, regular communication...until the radio silence. I take it you communicate every day? If so, there was nothing wrong with sending a followup text or, better yet, calling. Rarely texts don't go through. It's unclear why the sudden silence. Your joke was cute...and a shared one. Nothing offensive in the content. Maybe she misplaced her phone? Who knows? If you still haven't heard from her, I would send her a text or call her just before she leaves to wish her a fun trip. She'll either get back to you (and you'll find out what happened) or she won't...and you can then assume she lost interest and disappeared. No.. There's no reason for a followup text ever. If the person wants to respond, they will respond. You shouldn't have to force their hand.
SawtoothMars Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Nope family lives out of town and shes leaving on monday for a week long trip with her mother we talked over brunch didnt mention any specific plans. It's good to be persistent, but not every day. Instead hit her up every couple weeks for a while.
BlueIris Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 I wouldn’t worry about it. People's phone batteries die, leave their phone in the car and don't realize it, fall asleep, get absorbed in something, etc etc.
Gary S Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Ease up on the texting and call her for a date when she gets back in town.
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