PearTree Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 If a guy asks you to go on a date the next day, is it a good idea to respond with 'Sorry, I'm busy then. You should have asked earlier if you want to see me ' Or does it look too much like I'm 'playing a game' (which I totally am, but of course I don't want to appear that way.
Buddhist Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 No thats not a good text to send. It makes you sound high maintenance. 4
Author PearTree Posted April 3, 2015 Author Posted April 3, 2015 No thats not a good text to send. It makes you sound high maintenance. What do you mean by that?
Diezel Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 I hate texts like those. "You should have asked earlier." It sounds like you are messing with him. Answer back with, "Already have plans, but how about Thursday?" That's much better. 9
fitnessfan365 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 I hate texts like those. "You should have asked earlier." It sounds like you are messing with him. Answer back with, "Already have plans, but how about Thursday?" That's much better. THIS! Now of course it's better when a guy asks in advance OP. But some guys are clueless with stuff like this. However, there's a chance that he'd still be a good fit if you give him a little direction. So as Diezel said, recommending a future time you're available lets him take the hint about planning in advance. But the text that you suggested sending comes off as rude and a bit spiteful in my opinion. You're essentially lording it over the guy that he missed out on seeing you. 5
elaine567 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 If a guy asks you to go on a date the next day, is it a good idea to respond with 'Sorry, I'm busy then. You should have asked earlier if you want to see me ' Or does it look too much like I'm 'playing a game' (which I totally am, but of course I don't want to appear that way. I guess you might get no response from sending that text, unless this is someone you know really well. Best not to mess around with arranging dates. It takes some men a lot of courage to arrange a date. They can be sensitive, if you are seen to making fun out of them for asking. Play games all you like, but if you like him and want to go on a date with him, make sure you have the date in place first. 2
Author PearTree Posted April 3, 2015 Author Posted April 3, 2015 Ok I shall never ever send it ever. 1
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 No thats not a good text to send. It makes you sound high maintenance. This!! Glad you're not sending it OP, I would just say that You've already made other plans with friends tomorrow or something. Do you WANT to go out with him at all?
kadya Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 If a guy asks you to go on a date the next day, is it a good idea to respond with 'Sorry, I'm busy then. You should have asked earlier if you want to see me ' Or does it look too much like I'm 'playing a game' (which I totally am, but of course I don't want to appear that way. No no no no no. Don't. I have a girlfriend who plays games like this and she can't hold onto a man to save her life. Tell him you're sorry, you have plans, but maybe some other time? That text makes you sound like a b_tch and no one wants to date a b_tch.
Vintage79 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 If a guy asks you to go on a date the next day, is it a good idea to respond with 'Sorry, I'm busy then. You should have asked earlier if you want to see me ' Or does it look too much like I'm 'playing a game' (which I totally am, but of course I don't want to appear that way. If you want to sound like a b$tch, high maintenance, and ugly it's perfect.
katiegrl Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 If a guy asks you to go on a date the next day, is it a good idea to respond with 'Sorry, I'm busy then. You should have asked earlier if you want to see me ' Or does it look too much like I'm 'playing a game' (which I totally am, but of course I don't want to appear that way. If your desire is to actually go out with him, no don't send cause it makes you sound like a self-entitled bytch. On the other hand, if you want to turn him off and have him go away thinking he just dodged a major bullitt, then yes by all means send it...
d0nnivain Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Agree. You should have asked earlier is wholly inappropriate for all the reasons stated. I'm sorry. I already have plans. How about _____? (you suggest an alternative).
Kamille Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 "You should have asked earlier" is needlessly preachy. Besides, it's already implied in the "I already have plans". He's an adult. Treat him like one.
Gary S Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 That's not playing hard to get, that's over the top, high maintenance. I'm the biggest advocate of playing hard to get, but you don't want to go over the line and be a bad girl... you are going to end up with a guy who is a wimp with no self-esteem if you do that. Here are the rules: - Asking for a date at least one day in advance is reasonable. Same day is a no-go, that's like a booty call. - don't make dates while you are still on a date - Don't contact him after a date until he contacts you first - Don't ask for dates, let him do it - If he asks you for a day you can't go, counteroffer with another day. You should not just turn him down. - when he's in love with you after a couple months, ease up on playing hard to get.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 OP, if you don't want this guy to keep bothering you, do send it though!
Author PearTree Posted April 3, 2015 Author Posted April 3, 2015 I was only joking that he should have asked earlier. It was meant to be playful and teasing - hence the winking face. I suppose it doesn't come off like that if you take it seriously though. I'm too sarcastic.
Author PearTree Posted April 3, 2015 Author Posted April 3, 2015 - Asking for a date at least one day in advance is reasonable. Same day is a no-go, that's like a booty call. - don't make dates while you are still on a date I've heard some people say the exact opposite of these...
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 I was only joking that he should have asked earlier. It was meant to be playful and teasing - hence the winking face. I suppose it doesn't come off like that if you take it seriously though. I'm too sarcastic. Sarcasm is a TERRIBLE idea via text most of the time unless you're very good at making sure it isn't misconstrued. It's hard to gauge tone/seriousness via text.
d0nnivain Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 I'm too sarcastic. Sarcasm & jokes don't always translate in Text. Emoticons do not overcome the lack of context. Be aware of those limitations when communicating in that medium.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 I've heard some people say the exact opposite of these... I'd say at least 2 days before to plan a date. You can plan a date at the end of a date if it went really well. If it's a first date and it just went OK (I'll be honest first dates usually suck, people warm up more on 2nd,3rd) then it can be good to wait.
edgygirl Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 Google "passive agressive". Men (or anyone really) hate that s***. Also, why are you playing games? Sounds immature. Why can't you just go on the date if you're free? We don't have to play games with the right person. I was only joking that he should have asked earlier. It was meant to be playful and teasing - hence the winking face. I suppose it doesn't come off like that if you take it seriously though. I'm too sarcastic.
fred123 Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 Why do girls act like bitches to guys? Thats a nasty message to send especially if the guy likes you. Why do you want to treat people like this? Imagine its the other way round and a guy sent u that. I guess its ok for you to be have a go but not him.
katiegrl Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 Google "passive agressive". Men (or anyone really) hate that s***. Also, why are you playing games? Sounds immature. Why can't you just go on the date if you're free? We don't have to play games with the right person. All this is moot anyway.. since she started a new thread saying that he officially dumped her. Sorry PearTree...head high!
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