mario_C Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 Well, the OP also lamented that she is frustrated that despite having great looks, she cannot find a man. Leigh was echoing the same sentiment. (Don't know what the OP looks like...I have seen Leigh's pics and she is extremely attractive, so go with that.) For women, the challenge is picking the right men/man out from the throng of suitors lined up night and day (for men, it's being the perfect suitor). I guess that means transcending mentally what men really think and feel, which has nothing to do with what we say Kind of like with women. Hold a man to a higher standard, sure, but understand them much better and you will learn who is going to make you happy and fulfilled with their company...unfortunately that takes practice and good listening skills. Best of luck, you'll need it.
Leigh 87 Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 It's also because good looking women are only really attracted to good looking men. Where as I have been blown away with great chemistry by the average Joe. Short guys, bald guys.... If hot women were more open to average men they would have no issues.
Leigh 87 Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 Even average looking women are just attracted to one in fifty thousand guys. I'm an average looking woman and I have even been head over heels for average and below average looking dudes....because we had chemistry. Great chemistry. I'm not attracted to them all but if they have a kind demeanour and we click, I have fallen the hardest for average dudes. And average and below average dudes in the look department often tell me that they view me as a hot girl. I'm dead serious. Some men out there actually find a woman like me gorgeous. At first site too. They just aren't the men who get pretty girls. Seriously. The men hot women overlook have honestly found me to be a super attractive girl. Men who don't have pretty girls after them tend to find many average girls to be beauties.
h0000 Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 I'm an average looking woman and I have even been head over heels for average and below average looking dudes....because we had chemistry. Great chemistry. I'm not attracted to them all but if they have a kind demeanour and we click, I have fallen the hardest for average dudes. That sounds good. You two have chemistry,he is happy, you are happy. What's the problem here?? Men who don't have pretty girls after them tend to find many average girls to be beauties. Yep. You got that part right.
Leigh 87 Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 If I were a good looking woman I would still prefer men who were just the average Joe look wise. And who have the kindest hearts. The average Joe's are the ones my good beauty queen friends go for. They are absolutely enamoured with me attractive friends. My friends want an average man with the best personality as well as mutual chemistry which doesn't require a partner to be hot. Even after my nose job, when u become an attractive woman, I'll always prefer the average or below average looking dude who thinks I'm a stunner to the 7/10 looking blokes who think I'm nothing too special and who feel they could do slightly better........... I happen to need men to be super nerdy and or adventurous and or super cheeky AND for them to make me laugh. THEN I'll fall hard despite their looks and as long as we have chemistry. If you open up your mind and your heart you can learn to feel real chemistry with men who you wouldn't have previously found attractive. It has changed my life. It's why I know I'll find what I'm after. I've shifted my perception and altered the types of men who I feel chemistry with. Plenty of normal looking guys who look unassuming initially yet who have the best personalities and the kindest hearts, would totally worship a hot girl with a pleasant personality.... The men who are hot and have their pick of pretty women are simply less likey to think your special.
Leigh 87 Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 That sounds good. You two have chemistry,he is happy, you are happy. What's the problem here?? Yep. You got that part right. You probably don't believe me when I say that some men actually do find me gorgeous. Normal 7 and 8/10 men too. I declined them in favour of the average Joe. I am serious, you said that you don't believe I have what it takes to generate lust at first site with many men. Wrong.... I have generated instant lust with many men. Again though, I fall hardest for average men with the best personalities. And they always feel so lucky to have me. So challenge you in your notion that you don't think it's realistic of me to expect a man to fall for me and be all gaga over me at first site. I can find a romance that has the instant fireworks. Why is it realistic for me to find a mate who thought I was instantly gorgeous? Well, because I aim for 4s or 5s who are shorter than me or who I know don't have pretty girls after them. I shifted the way in which I feel chemistry. At a young age. I feel instant sparks now, for the 4 and 5 /10 men who have a cute smile and I just feel instant chemistry with..... That is why I am not going to settle for a man who thinks I'm nothing special initially and who won't ever look back and say " well it wasn't exactly fireworks with my wife like it was with prior girls " I can find a partner who thinks I'm stunning and who will treat me well because I am REALISTIC........ There are stand up, decent men who will fall hard for me. I just know instinctively the ones that will. They won't be pretty boy types who get all the women.
Leigh 87 Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 The two men I went gaga over are average Joe's. One is shorter than me. One isnt super nerd who is a little arrogant but who treats me and actually tell me I'm beautiful on a daily basis. He's amazing. The other guy is shorter than me but from moment one I felt mutual fireworks. His personality INSTANTLY drew me in. Turns out, he is a cancer survivor... He has such a beautiful outlook on life and he really loves living.... Both of these " average " looking men got my panties more wet that much hotter looking men........instantly through talking to then. Their intelligent and lovely demeanour and the fact they genuinly found me beautiful. Unlike what the hottest men would find me. They both think I'm gorgeous. I can only imagine how well they would receive a genuine hotter. I think good looking women would really benefit from aiming for the average Joe who has the best personality and kindest heart..... Or maybe not. I want those men for myself so frankly I want the pretty women to back off haha or else I'll have no options hahahahahahaha
smackie9 Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 I have dated unattractive, attractive and average men. From my experience the attractive guys I had relationships with, dated, etc, turned out to be nothing special, and were more of a problem than anything. Also they were not that great in the sack. So be careful what you wish for.
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