jsm789 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 I am an American guy who recently met a beautiful Mexican women on a dating site. She is a single mother. We live very far apart but with plans to see eachother and further plans, if things go well, to live together. That would be very far down the road, a year or two, because we need to get to know eachother and be for certain it would work out. We have known eachother for a while now and have gotten to know a lot about eachother. If we were together in person it would be a magical time. The issue is keeping this thing rolling until we get that moment. I haven't tried dating in two years because of my trust issues from past girlfriends. She is the first in a long time who I feel has been very honest about everything. This is why I am even giving her the time of day to try making this happen. Recently something seems off. I cannot tell if what is happening is that the relationship is fading away, or if she is just maintaining. She seems much less talkative lately. We used to talk daily, throughout the day. Now it seems as if we are just quickly checking up on eachother. When I tell her goodnight, before I go to work each night, she doesn't even respond anymore. What throws me off is that every single day I wake up to a "Good morning handsome" message. Then maybe a few messages back and forth in the afternoon. The occasional evening message. She isn't 100% blowing me off. If I was to message her she will definitely respond. I never initiate though. She still initiates the conversation every single day. It's just that the quantity has nosedived. If she didn't message me good morning everyday I would know this is over. That part confuses me. I know how to act with American women, but Mexican women throw me off. I am sure to tell her daily that she is beautiful to me. I have expressed my feelings to her, and we have in depth talks about sex and relationships issues from our pasts and what it is we are looking for. She would make a good mate because she is very open and honest, when every girl before her that I knew would lie. I have only gotten one minor red flag from her. That is very good compared to the rest in my past. Am I being paranoid, or do you think that things may be taking a turn. In my own opinion, I know that I am putting too much stock into her. I know I should be focusing less on her. It is always hard when you like that one person so much that you focus a lot on them and their detailed actions. I haven't gave her a clingy vibe. I am good at keeping these feelings internal. She does know that I am highly interested in her. My instincts say to follow what everyone the internet says, which is go cold on her but I think that would turn her away quick. Then again, maybe not. It's so hard to tell.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Um have you ever met her? Otherwise you're way too intense right now for someone you haven't met. Can't do LDR if you've never met lol. Why not date someone closer?
Diana.dellala Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Could you playa trip to Mexico or invite get to the States? That would be getting it to the next level You could ask her what's going on and tell her that you have a feeling that recently something seems off. See what she says. What red flag? It might be important, especially, if she started acting like that after that red flag... It depends Or you could disappear for a couple of days and not answer her at all and see her reaction
Teddius Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 The deterioration in substantive dialogue between you two is perhaps due to your constant failure to reciprocate her level of effort to converse with you. Keep in mind, for now, that this is one of the very few ways she judges your interest in her. Seriously, you do not honestly expect her to maintain the level of enthusiasm in interacting with as she initially had, while you continue too carry on as such, do you?
Redhead14 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 I am an American guy who recently met a beautiful Mexican women on a dating site. She is a single mother. We live very far apart but with plans to see eachother and further plans, if things go well, to live together. That would be very far down the road, a year or two, because we need to get to know eachother and be for certain it would work out. We have known eachother for a while now and have gotten to know a lot about eachother. If we were together in person it would be a magical time. The issue is keeping this thing rolling until we get that moment. I haven't tried dating in two years because of my trust issues from past girlfriends. She is the first in a long time who I feel has been very honest about everything. This is why I am even giving her the time of day to try making this happen. Recently something seems off. I cannot tell if what is happening is that the relationship is fading away, or if she is just maintaining. She seems much less talkative lately. We used to talk daily, throughout the day. Now it seems as if we are just quickly checking up on eachother. When I tell her goodnight, before I go to work each night, she doesn't even respond anymore. What throws me off is that every single day I wake up to a "Good morning handsome" message. Then maybe a few messages back and forth in the afternoon. The occasional evening message. She isn't 100% blowing me off. If I was to message her she will definitely respond. I never initiate though. She still initiates the conversation every single day. It's just that the quantity has nosedived. If she didn't message me good morning everyday I would know this is over. That part confuses me. I know how to act with American women, but Mexican women throw me off. I am sure to tell her daily that she is beautiful to me. I have expressed my feelings to her, and we have in depth talks about sex and relationships issues from our pasts and what it is we are looking for. She would make a good mate because she is very open and honest, when every girl before her that I knew would lie. I have only gotten one minor red flag from her. That is very good compared to the rest in my past. Am I being paranoid, or do you think that things may be taking a turn. In my own opinion, I know that I am putting too much stock into her. I know I should be focusing less on her. It is always hard when you like that one person so much that you focus a lot on them and their detailed actions. I haven't gave her a clingy vibe. I am good at keeping these feelings internal. She does know that I am highly interested in her. My instincts say to follow what everyone the internet says, which is go cold on her but I think that would turn her away quick. Then again, maybe not. It's so hard to tell. She is the first in a long time who I feel has been very honest about everything You have no idea if she's being honest. You don't KNOW her. All you know about her is that she can type. If you're feeling that "attracted" to her, meet her Period. But don't invest yourself in it yet. Don't project into the future with her, just go on a date first!
Gary S Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Only one in 1,000 long distance relationships work out. Plus, you don't even know her, we are strangers until we meet. You are being catfished. Try dating some local women. If they are not with you, how can you kiss? What fun is that?
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