Ceijai Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 I've recently met a woman at my job, and I feel as though we instantly hit it off. We've only interacted with one another on maybe 3 to 4 shifts, but once we started talking it just seems as though we clicked. I am a lesbian, so it can get hard deciphering when a woman is just being friendly and when she's flirting. However, while I am silly and engage with everyone in a joking manner I do feel that this may be different. She's a lot more touchy feelly than I am or any other female I engage with in this manner. I'm not saying its overtly sexual, but I can't help but wonder if this is flirting or her just being comfortable around me. A few examples: The second day we worked together she ran a credit card down my back, she intentionally stepped on my foot, she asked me to share a dessert with her and when I said no she seemed a little disappointed. One day she came to work after she got off to do something, and came straight over to me to show off her hoodie. The next day we worked the touching became more intense. She started to push me, pull on my hat, and then she hit my ass. I know us girls do this a lot but even a girl that saw her do it looked shocked. Again, she hasn't worked with me long enough I feel to do these things. My other co-worker, asked if we knew each other and we don't. I know this is very long-winded but I would really love some insight on this situation because I've been in the same situation before. It was just over a longer period of time, and when I finally approached this girl she said she didn't see me in that way mine you she gave me her number before she stopped working at my job. Please help. Is this girl really just having fun with me or she interested????
Radu Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Either you remind her of someone she knows/knew who was very close to her ... or she is flirting with you. You might have to talk to her ... straight and to the point ... but i don't think that's a good idea as you two work together. What is company policy on relations between employees ? Is this a company that tries to look progressive with employing LGBT ppl ? Are you out to your co-workers ? 1
zebracolors Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 I know I've heard that women can be very "touchy/feely" when they are genuinely interested in someone, but are not sure how the other feels. I certainly put myself in that category, when Im with a guy I'm really into but not sure what he feels for me yet. However, that said, it could be that she just feels really comfortable around you and does genuinely like you. But you really can't know in what way she likes you until you are straightforward with her. Does she know you are lesbian? That might change how she acts with you, or not. It might even make her feel more at ease with expressing more affection for you. I do agree with Radu though, use caution as you're co-workers.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Agree with above poster. Treat this delicately she might not be lesbian or even know you are.
jen1447 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 I've recently met a woman at my job, and I feel as though we instantly hit it off. We've only interacted with one another on maybe 3 to 4 shifts, but once we started talking it just seems as though we clicked. I am a lesbian, so it can get hard deciphering when a woman is just being friendly and when she's flirting. However, while I am silly and engage with everyone in a joking manner I do feel that this may be different. She's a lot more touchy feelly than I am or any other female I engage with in this manner. I'm not saying its overtly sexual, but I can't help but wonder if this is flirting or her just being comfortable around me. A few examples: The second day we worked together she ran a credit card down my back, she intentionally stepped on my foot, she asked me to share a dessert with her and when I said no she seemed a little disappointed. One day she came to work after she got off to do something, and came straight over to me to show off her hoodie. The next day we worked the touching became more intense. She started to push me, pull on my hat, and then she hit my ass. I know us girls do this a lot but even a girl that saw her do it looked shocked. Again, she hasn't worked with me long enough I feel to do these things. My other co-worker, asked if we knew each other and we don't. I know this is very long-winded but I would really love some insight on this situation because I've been in the same situation before. It was just over a longer period of time, and when I finally approached this girl she said she didn't see me in that way mine you she gave me her number before she stopped working at my job. Please help. Is this girl really just having fun with me or she interested???? Coming from a fellow female bisexual, yes, she's flirting with you. Congatulations. Now the less fun part - you don't know why she's flirting with you. Could be she picked up your bi vibe and she just likes pushing your buttons. There's really not much difference between the sexes that way. All (most) women like to tease, doesn't matter if it's straight women teasing men or gay women teasing women. I wouldn't get too worked up about it. If it was me, I'd push back and see where she went with that.
preraph Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 No telling. She's a lot of fun either way, right? Are you not "out" at work? Because if I were you next time she taps your butt, you should ask if she only taps women's butts or if she's an equal opportunity butt tapper. Or you could just tell her "You do know I'm a lesbian?"
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 No telling. She's a lot of fun either way, right? Are you not "out" at work? Because if I were you next time she taps your butt, you should ask if she only taps women's butts or if she's an equal opportunity butt tapper. Or you could just tell her "You do know I'm a lesbian?" I think the first comment was good, but the one in bold is a bit too forward/direct. Flirting needs a degree of ambiguity.
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