Anthonyl Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 So it has been 1.5 months since my ex and I broke up. I texted him yesterday b/c he had a death in the family and I told him "Hey. I know we haven't spoken in a while but I just want to send my condolences. I am sorry for your loss. Don't if you need anything." He texted back hours later saying "Thank you. It really means a lot to me. I am sorry for the delay - I just needed a day without my phone." I said "You're welcome. I understand. I did the same thing when my grandmother passed away. Anyways, like I said if you need anything, I am here." He said "Thank you." I said "You're welcome" It was civilized. I don't know if it was appropriate to contact him. He and I had initially broken up in early February. It was a mutual break up. He still follows me on social media but I don't follow him on anything anymore. He initially said that he wanted to be friends but he's made zero effort to do so. I still like him.....a lot.
BC1980 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 So it has been 1.5 months since my ex and I broke up. I texted him yesterday b/c he had a death in the family and I told him "Hey. I know we haven't spoken in a while but I just want to send my condolences. I am sorry for your loss. Don't if you need anything." He texted back hours later saying "Thank you. It really means a lot to me. I am sorry for the delay - I just needed a day without my phone." I said "You're welcome. I understand. I did the same thing when my grandmother passed away. Anyways, like I said if you need anything, I am here." He said "Thank you." I said "You're welcome" It was civilized. I don't know if it was appropriate to contact him. He and I had initially broken up in early February. It was a mutual break up. He still follows me on social media but I don't follow him on anything anymore. He initially said that he wanted to be friends but he's made zero effort to do so. I still like him.....a lot. Was it really a mutual breakup? I find that difficult to believe since you say you like him a lot. Also, it's almost never a mutual breakup. I don't really know what to say in regards to contacting him about a death in the family. I probably would have said not to do it because I think you have some sort of ulterior motive that you might not be willing to admit or even recognize. Are you asking us if you should try to stay in contact with him for a second chance?
BC1980 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Okay, so I read your other thread, and he's been trying to let you down easy. He's trying to be nice and not cut you off, but it's clear that he's not interested and hoping you will take the hint. Don't contact him again with condolences. You dated for two months, so you don't owe him that. Go NC, and move on.
I_Give_Up67 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 I too read your original posts too, and I will also tell you that he is not interested in getting back together with you from what you described. Don't sit around wait on him to call or text you. It is time for you to move on and try to put him behind you. He offered you the lets be still be friends line to spare your feelings somewhat, and he may have meant it at the time. But I think he sees that being friends will not work because you obviously still have feelings for him.
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