Natalie_Briana Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 So basically, I have really started to like my coworker. I have a gut feeling that we both like each other but I start to pick apart every detail and then I start to believe that he doesn't like me back. Im 21 and he's 25. He's very much the strong silent type but he has a great sense of humor. He will avoid my eyes many times if we pass each other yet he will tease me and joke around with me pretty much everytime he sees me. One time when he realized that I was walking behind him, he deliberately put something in my path to trip me up. It was completely a joke and we both laughed about it. We often joke back and forth and banter. Again it is a behavior that he exhibits with everyone, but he does it differently with me. Most of the time, when I ask him for help, he goes above and beyond what I asked him to do. However, that could mean that he's just a very nice person and a good worker. I interpret him as someone who doesnt mess around with someone unless he has a reason. What makes me second guess his interest is that he doesnt really show a lot of typical male signs of interest such as looking at me excessively or breaking the touch barrier. He did accept my facebook request and has liked a few of my status' and photos. However, he avoided my eye contact up until recently. I was stunned when he actually held my gaze as we walked by each other. One of the times he made a silly frown face. When I am talking to another guy in his department, he will butt in with some sort of comment or joke even though the situation didnt call for it. Again, what has me second-guessing is is that he has a dry but very active sense of humor so I assumed up until recently that he was just being funny. I just need some second opinions or possibly maybe some other signs that I could look out for. Am i overreacting because I have a crush on him? Or do my assumptions carry some weight? Thanks for reading and I look forward to everyone's opinions!
chelsey Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Since you work together could you have lunch together? It might be a good way to feel each other out. Just ask "hey when are you going to lunch" and it won't be too intimidating. I would try to talk more outside of work, either just chat or texting to start. He's probably thinking the same things and doesn't want to screw up his working environment if he's misread you. Show him you want to communicate outside of work and let it grow from there. You could also try mentioning this to a trusted coworker and hoping the rumor gets back to him to move things along. 1
Strength in Healing Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 No, you are right. You should go to the mall and buy a ring and propose that the two of you get eloped. Tell him it's his destiny, and you're in love with him. Kids are in the picture. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 No, you are right. You should go to the mall and buy a ring and propose that the two of you get eloped. Tell him it's his destiny, and you're in love with him. Kids are in the picture. :laugh::laugh::laugh: Haha.. This made me laugh out loud. SIH can be a dick, but it's always so entertaining. 1
Author Natalie_Briana Posted April 3, 2015 Author Posted April 3, 2015 That makes sense...thank you for the second opinions...I'll let it play out and see what happens
DoesntGetIt Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 That is how is started for a female coworker and myself. I felt I had a better read on her than you do for him, but there were still days where I thought maybe I was reading more into it than it was. Then I finally said we should get a drink, we made plans, and also had sex that night. There was no touching, no sexual innuendos, or any other typical signs for the two of us. Just us joking and talking back and forth everyday. In my opinion, ask him if he wants to go do something sometime and just see what happens. 1
Author Natalie_Briana Posted April 3, 2015 Author Posted April 3, 2015 I probably will ask him to do something. Another question of mine would be..if he doesn't like me why would he go through all of this to get my attention? He doesn't look at me really that I know of but often he will tease me when I didn't even know he was there. Many times I have been minding my business doing my work and he has said something to ME. His sense of humor is what made me start to like him. I tell jokes at work but never directly at anyone that I don't know very well. So what would be a good reason for his behavior toward me if he is not interested?
preraph Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Well, just remember, there's a lot of flirting in the workplace that happens specifically because the flirter has no intentions to wreck his/her job by actually acting on it. Once both parties feel secure that neither is going to ever do anything about it, it can almost become a game. 1
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