theseaofred1982 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Shes going through divorce when we started seeing each other. We had such great chemistry but all of a sudden she stopped communicating. We work in the same facility so we still greet each other from time to time. I know she's still going to divorce her husband. She stopped texting me three weeks ago to sort out her feelings. She told our mutual friend she misses me. She texted me twice before I respond. She ask how I was doing and hoped doing well. I told her I was doing well and hope the same for her. She said I'm sorry and I pretended to not know what she's apologizing for and asked her what it was she's sorry about. Haven't hearted from her since. I don't get it.
Strength in Healing Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Eh, happens to the best of us. There are no mistakes. Now you've learned a little more not to reply.
Author theseaofred1982 Posted April 3, 2015 Author Posted April 3, 2015 Does nc rule even apply to my situation since we see each other at work and say hi? If she text asking how I'm doing should i just completely ignor her? She texted for the first time last night and I ignored it. When I got to work she mentioned to me that she texted me last night but I changed the subject. Today she said texted me and said hey you never answered my question last night. So I finally answered. Can someone please explain to me how this nc rule work?
TunaCat Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 If you work with her, the best way to apply NC is to do a modified NC where you keep all conversations strictly work related & do not talk about personal things at all. You will never truly heal if you and your ex talk about personal stuff during NC.
Ruby65 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Block her number on your phone. She shouldn't be able to call or text you at home at night if you're keeping all conversation on a strictly professional level and at work. It's about creating boundaries. They're not hard to set up, but you have to want to put them in place. If you leave the door open for her to be in touch, she'll continue to contact you. Is that what you want?
Cinnamonstix Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Sounds like she is on the rebound. Best thing you can do is give her space (NC) and let her sort things out. If you stay on good terms, maybe a long while from now you two can be more than friends. I would suggest reading lots and lots about rebound relationships so you can avoid being one again in the future, whether with her or someone else.
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