mrgrey33 Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 (edited) So this is quite a long story but hope you read it I was seeing this girl/dating her for a few months, she was extremely beautiful and i really fell for her. In the middle she broke up due to long distance and said we should figure things out once i'm back home as she couldnt handle the distance as I was studying in another country. She still spoke to me during this month as she wanted to get back together once im home for the vacation. I kept asking her whats the difference between getting back after a month or now, the distance didn't matter to me atleast but she didn't listen and broke up but spoke to me like we are still dating:o:o During the one month she broke up with me i hook up (Just kiss) with this really hot girl in my college and my ex finds out as a friend of mine who i told about my hook up went and told my ex. My ex gets really upset and stops talking to me. I go back home for vacations and i meet her and apologize to her but i find out that she hooked up with this other guy when she found out about me and the girl in uni, just to get back at me. (Stupid of me to kiss that other girl but i was really drunk and technically i was single as my ex broke up/took a break or whatever). However i let that go and so does she. We start talking and things get back and we are seeing each other. Not in a relationship as she had a phobia against a serious relationships apparently due to her messed up past. I go back to uni after vacation and things are going great and i start liking her a lot lets say loving her. I do really sweet things for her like sending her tons of gifts back home and by being an extremely caring guy. However I kept bringing the topic of being in a serious relationship and to define the relationship with her and she always said its good like it is lets not define it and wait. She tells me she really loves me and shes not felt like this about a guy since a long time and that im very special to her but she wants to give it time until i'm back home to define us. But In the middle this dickhead guy starts talking to her who wants to get laid with her (As she's been with loads of guys before so everyone thinks shes easy, which is quite true tbh). This guy told my friend he wants to hook up with her and my friend calls me and tells me this. I tell my ex this and she laughs saying are you mad he doesn't have a chance i love you and blah blah and he doesnt have a chance cuz hes ugly. 2-3 weeks later i find out shes talking to him and i confront her and she says its causal and friendly, i tell her to stop talking to him and she says ok. She suddenly starts acting cold and i was getting insecure and i tell her that i want to define our relationship especially if im putting in so much effort and time even though im thousands of miles away. She says no and says she cant take the commitment as shes really busy and then tells me she cant do this anymore and breaks up again and i was shocked where this is coming from. I Didn't talk to her for 2-3 days then i drunk call her and tell her i miss her. Then again i dint talk to her for a couple of days as she said she needs space but again i drunk call her. I ask her if shes broken up with me because she likes that other guy and shes like no we are just friends and i don't have time for a relationship. We speak for a day or two and then when i tell her i miss her and i love her and want to get back she says lets not talk i need my space. She says its hard for her to get over me as she still loves me but she just doesnt have the time in her life for a relationship. We dont talk for a week or so but within a week i find out through common friends that shes dating that guy who wanted to hook up with her. Whats surprising is that they she is not just casually seeing him but like in a proper serious committed relationship ie. Boyfriend/girlfriend and out in the open in front of friends which she wasn't with me.I'm just really hurt that she did this especially within 1-2 weeks after ending things with me. we were together for 7-8 months and it took her a week to move on. plus she never went out in the open with me and wanted it to be a secret and she never defined us a 'couple' but with this guy she is the opposite. My common friends tells me that apparently she really likes this guy and that she is serious about him. Havent spoken to her in about a month and 2 weeks but i keep hearing about her and that guy from friends. I have blocked her from every social media platform and deleted her number and pictures. I dont ever want to get back with that but Im just really hurt and i hate her. how do i get her out of my mind? Ps- Im not one to judge but i havent mentioned that shes been with a lot of guys for a 21 year old (a large number). She's cheated on one of her ex's before me and even left this guy for another guy. Which is what she sort of did with me. Edited April 3, 2015 by mrgrey33
PinkDotsXOXO Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Tbh I've been in a similar situation. I would suggest you start to date other people, go out with friends, cultivate a new hobby, join a club, start a project you've never had time for before. For me, distraction has always been key it's time to take care of yourself now and move away from this girl who isn't worth your time or effort.
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