jittersondate Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 was supposed to have a second date tonight yesterday she was telling me baout how her sinuses were really acting up and she didnt feel good tonight we were gonna go out and after she was gonna meet her co workers at one of their houses to hang out cuz she had plans with them before she made the second date with me but she said shed like to go with me and would just show up late with them today she texted me saying she wasnt gonna be able to do the date as she was going straight home after the date and staying there cuz she feels horrible. i said its no problem and we could try next week and she said she was sorry she continued texting me for about an hour should i worry she bailed on me?
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 Eh no way to know for sure. I wouldn't have texted endlessly with her though, just one or two. I would tell her hey no problem, hope you feel better She should offer to reschedule - if she doesn't then she's not interested. Here is what I would have done in order: Sent her a text "No problem, hope you feel better " Keep texting to a minimum, if she keeps texting I would just fall off.Wait for her to either ask to re-schedule, or wait a day or two.If she re-initiates with me in the next day or two, I would take that as an indicator of interest on her part, and ask her out again and go from there.
Author jittersondate Posted April 3, 2015 Author Posted April 3, 2015 she actually texted me first this morning to...that had nothing to do with her canceling
Gaeta Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Why not believe her? Sinuses can be very uncomfortable and even painful. Not the best to head to a date. She continued texting because she likes talking to you. Having a face-ache doesn't keep someone from chatting a bit. If she was not interested she would not have initiated contact with you the following day. You can't meet up during the week?
kendahke Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 I'd give her a chance. She's still in contact with you and has taken the initiative to be in contact, so that's a good sign. It's spring--my sinuses are acting up right now, too. Once the oak tree out back starts pollinating, I'm going to be miserable.
chelsey Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Let her set up the next date. I have a friend who tried to meet a guy and he bailed 4 times before they finally met. they're married now. just keep up with casual chatting and let her bring up a future date, if she's able to plan it she might be more comfortable. it's really intimidating seeing someone new, she might be a bit scared.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 Let her set up the next date. I have a friend who tried to meet a guy and he bailed 4 times before they finally met. they're married now. just keep up with casual chatting and let her bring up a future date, if she's able to plan it she might be more comfortable. it's really intimidating seeing someone new, she might be a bit scared. I would disagree, a lot of women expect men to plan the first two dates, if he held out he might miss out. That being said he needs to see if she keeps talking to him, and then use that as a sign of interest.. And then ask when she's free again.
Buddhist Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 I'm not a sinus sufferer, but my mother is. Someone who's entire upper respiratory tract rebels because of pollens in the air, is miserable to watch and be around. The incessant sneezing, the puffy eyes and nose. The sniffling. Not fun at all. So having witnessed it first hand I can understand why she might cancel a date if she was having an attack. So I wouldn't immediately write it off as a bull**** excuse. Benefit of the doubt here.
Diana.dellala Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 She texted you for an hour. She texted you next morning. Those are good indicators. Wait and see if she reschedules, if she doesn't reschedule yourself, but only after you wait a bit, otherwise it might look like neediness 1
fitnessfan365 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 (edited) Some women LOVE to keep up appearances because they're too scared to be honest. In the last few weeks alone, there were multiple threads about women keeping up charades. One woman falsely accepted dates and re-scheduled on a guy who was in denial for five years because she couldn't tell him the truth. So her continuing to text means NOTHING. The one thing you have to pay attention to is how she responded when you brought up next week. Did she say sorry and that's it? Or did she acknowledge your invite and say that sounds good, bring up possibilities for next week, etc..? If she didn't at least acknowledge your suggestion and hint at future plans, I wouldn't put much stock into it. What you should do, is the next time she initiates contact is just cut right to the chase. No small talk of any kind. Just simply say "Hey great to hear from you! When are you free to get together?" This will force her to either accept, or not respond/disappear. Edited April 3, 2015 by fitnessfan365 2
Author jittersondate Posted April 3, 2015 Author Posted April 3, 2015 i said "its alright.we can try next week " she said "im sorry :(" she contnued texting me joking around so i take it as a good sign
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 i said "its alright.we can try next week " she said "im sorry :(" she contnued texting me joking around so i take it as a good sign Uhh, I wouldn't say that's a good sign. She didn't confirm whether she was on board with next week. Stop talking to her for a couple days and see if she initiates with you at all. This is important, it will gauge her interest so you don't waste time asking her out again and have her just string you along or bail again. Please read the signals I have a feeling she might not be too interested.
Redhead14 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 was supposed to have a second date tonight yesterday she was telling me baout how her sinuses were really acting up and she didnt feel good tonight we were gonna go out and after she was gonna meet her co workers at one of their houses to hang out cuz she had plans with them before she made the second date with me but she said shed like to go with me and would just show up late with them today she texted me saying she wasnt gonna be able to do the date as she was going straight home after the date and staying there cuz she feels horrible. i said its no problem and we could try next week and she said she was sorry she continued texting me for about an hour should i worry she bailed on me? "should i worry she bailed on me?" -- You should never worry about a date. Just see what happens. 1
Author jittersondate Posted April 3, 2015 Author Posted April 3, 2015 we texted a bit today but nothing major. ony a few times. her familys coming n from out of state tomorrow so im trying not to think its a big deal. ill probably contact her again monday about going out tuesday
d0nnivain Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 If she was that sick, how come she had energy to keep texting you? That is not a good sign. It is a holiday weekend. Reach out Tuesday & see how she's feeling. Hopefully she will contact you before that.
Author jittersondate Posted April 3, 2015 Author Posted April 3, 2015 If she was that sick, how come she had energy to keep texting you? That is not a good sign. It is a holiday weekend. Reach out Tuesday & see how she's feeling. Hopefully she will contact you before that. ive texted when sick 1
fitnessfan365 Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 we texted a bit today but nothing major. ony a few times. her familys coming n from out of state tomorrow so im trying not to think its a big deal. ill probably contact her again monday about going out tuesday 1) You NEVER want to make plans the day before or day of. Always make plans in advance. 2) Stop with all the BS texting. It's bad enough that you're acting like a texting buddy, but you're continuing to pursue a woman that cancelled on you. If she feels so sick, why is she texting you all the time and talking about weekend plans she has? Did she come down with a mysterious case of the 24 hr "get out of a date" flu? She's full of crap IMO. My advice? Don't contact her anymore. Give her some space to get her crap together. Then when she reaches out to you, don't small talk with her. Cut right to the chase. "Great to hear from you! When r u free to get together?" Then make plans for 2-3 days out if you can and talk to her then. Your behavior right now is walking you directly into the friend zone man.
Author jittersondate Posted April 3, 2015 Author Posted April 3, 2015 1) You NEVER want to make plans the day before or day of. Always make plans in advance. 2) Stop with all the BS texting. It's bad enough that you're acting like a texting buddy, but you're continuing to pursue a woman that cancelled on you. If she feels so sick, why is she texting you all the time and talking about weekend plans she has? Did she come down with a mysterious case of the 24 hr "get out of a date" flu? She's full of crap IMO. My advice? Don't contact her anymore. Give her some space to get her crap together. Then when she reaches out to you, don't small talk with her. Cut right to the chase. "Great to hear from you! When r u free to get together?" Then make plans for 2-3 days out if you can and talk to her then. Your behavior right now is walking you directly into the friend zone man. HER FAMILY is flying to see her. she lives out of state and they are coming to see her for easter. i dont see why she would cancel that
d0nnivain Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 HER FAMILY is flying to see her. she lives out of state and they are coming to see her for easter. i dont see why she would cancel that She wouldn't & she can't. Although many of us who are responding to your posts are coming at it from different points, we are all telling you the same thing, back off for a while.
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