Confusion_Reigns Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 Just some background info... The female that my H is cheating on me with is the same female he cheated on me with long ago. I honestly do no beleive he ever really got over her. I personally thinks she's nuts & a slut too. Lol he current boyfriend was in a long term relationship with on of my cousins when he started cheating on her with this female...& he messaged me to let me know he found txts between my h and his gf...and apparently many other men too. After the initial shocks worn off me..I'm thinking that my H is a major idiot. Really. Idk...I suppors the little head is doing his thinking...& what she don't get is that if he really wanted her he would be with her now. What she doesn't understand is that I've been trying to kick him out for the past year & he will NOT leave... It's all one big mess.
Clay Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 What are you plans? Do you want to try to fix you marriage or divorce? Clay 1
I_Give_Up67 Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 Is it possible for you to leave? What's your home life like knowing this new revelation?
purplesorrow Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 Doesn't really sound like you want him to leave.
sweet_pea Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 You're calling her a slut but you're cheating on your husband, too. What is stopping you from leaving, since he will not? 4
Strength in Healing Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 You're calling her a slut but you're cheating on your husband, too. Ouch, owned. 3
sweet_pea Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 By the way, my post was not to call you a slut or anything like that. I was just pointing out he double standard/hypocrisy in your statement. 3
Author Confusion_Reigns Posted April 7, 2015 Author Posted April 7, 2015 (edited) No worries I know what I am & what I am not. Mostly I'm just venting here. IF you want more of my back story you can search it on here I'm not going to rehash it all again. I just don't understand why my H refuses to leave me when he's cheating and has been cheating...probably throughout our entire marriage...lol I asked him how many times he's cheated...including one night stands...& he just didn't say anything. Yes I'm leaving him & he's going to hate her for letting the cat outta the bag...I believe she's caused a Dday in the hopes I'd kick him straight out like I did last time...but I have my own plan that I'm following. He's going to blame her because that's what he does. & I don't see how she can stand it...to be dropped like that again by him...lol but for all I know they're still talking anyway... Edited April 7, 2015 by Confusion_Reigns
thummper Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 Confusion, it sounds like you've got a real prize winner there. Please understand, not ALL us guys are idiots. :-) He deserves all the mess that he's made of his life. Good luck on your own plan for the future.
beach Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 When you serve him the divorce papers he might begin to believe you. The blame is in him; since it's your marriage. Good luck and stay strong.
Sassy Girl Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 (edited) Nah...shes not telling him..because you know...thats something different..that relationship is special....OM is "sooo wonderful" and theyre in "luuuurve"...so you know, facing that she is just like her husband is a bridge too far for CR. The fog is thick. I feel sorry for the kids. How dysfunctional . Edited April 7, 2015 by Sassy Girl 3
whichwayisup Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 I just don't understand why my H refuses to leave me when he's cheating and has been cheating...probably throughout our entire marriage...lol I asked him how many times he's cheated...including one night stands...& he just didn't say anything. Yes I'm leaving him & he's going to hate her for letting the cat outta the bag...I believe she's caused a Dday in the hopes I'd kick him straight out like I did last time...but I have my own plan that I'm following. He's going to blame her because that's what he does. & I don't see how she can stand it...to be dropped like that again by him...lol but for all I know they're still talking anyway... He's no worse or better than you are. You BOTH are having affairs and cheating on each other. Who cares now what happens between them. You said you were leaving, right? You obviously are done with your husband and from what your other thread said, you are happy being with your MM/OM.
Tayla Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 So Mr Pot and Mrs Kettle are getting a divorce. Interesting . 4
Mazerati Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 So Mr Pot and Mrs Kettle are getting a divorce. Interesting . Wish I thought of that one. Classic!! Maz
Author Confusion_Reigns Posted April 8, 2015 Author Posted April 8, 2015 Nice. Go ahead & keep jabbing me ...I'm pretty tough from years of experience lol & how is this supportive? Tell me the bad too but could you try to be respectful while being supportive?
Clay Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 I think it is hard to understand. I mean honestly put aside all the cheating and the hardship from that betrayal alone you are putting yourself in danger. You stated your husband is physically violent and that you live out side of town. You also stated he is friends with all the police. How in the world do you expect not to show up on a tv show years from now of what not do to. It sounds insane to me. On the other side of this why not get out first and take care of yourself. Do you really feel so little about yourself that have to have this other man in your life to make you feel good? I mean don't get me wrong it sounds like your marriage has probably been horrific for the both of you. Why not put yourself first for once. Its really sad to see just how people destroy themselves. Clay
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