Guitarisgood Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 I've just come home empty handed. To be honest I'm rusty. I spent the summer (over here) M.I.A. and worked on myself and redesigned who I am. The last puzzle of the piece was to get back with the 'boys' crowd and tonight was the night out I'd planned as such and not think about woman. It's funny when things like this happen when you least expect it. Obviously there's this girl I've been interested in and tonight she opened the door for me to shut it myself. But the goals for my night was to get back in with the guys (I'd always been a lady flirt and found it hard to relate more with the lads). Doesn't help that one of the guys is actually in love with this chick (friendzoned but). From the corner of my eye, I could see her eyeing me when she walked into the function centre and finding the opportunity to then talk to me and get physical. There was my opening and I simply walked away from it; I don't know why but it was unconscious. I guess a guy more keen and looking to score would have pulled through and got her. Alas I heard her gossiping with her girl friends that 'he must not like me, we're not each others type'. From then on she opened the gates and I swear, started flirting with every guy present. I could never get close to her since that. Ironically this guy whom I've never been that friendly with started to warm up much more to me post event. I guess I cannot have the best of both worlds. Maybe I gained the respect of the guys, maybe I didn't. But in the process I lost the girl of my dreams.
Redhead14 Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 I've just come home empty handed. To be honest I'm rusty. I spent the summer (over here) M.I.A. and worked on myself and redesigned who I am. The last puzzle of the piece was to get back with the 'boys' crowd and tonight was the night out I'd planned as such and not think about woman. It's funny when things like this happen when you least expect it. Obviously there's this girl I've been interested in and tonight she opened the door for me to shut it myself. But the goals for my night was to get back in with the guys (I'd always been a lady flirt and found it hard to relate more with the lads). Doesn't help that one of the guys is actually in love with this chick (friendzoned but). From the corner of my eye, I could see her eyeing me when she walked into the function centre and finding the opportunity to then talk to me and get physical. There was my opening and I simply walked away from it; I don't know why but it was unconscious. I guess a guy more keen and looking to score would have pulled through and got her. Alas I heard her gossiping with her girl friends that 'he must not like me, we're not each others type'. From then on she opened the gates and I swear, started flirting with every guy present. I could never get close to her since that. Ironically this guy whom I've never been that friendly with started to warm up much more to me post event. I guess I cannot have the best of both worlds. Maybe I gained the respect of the guys, maybe I didn't. But in the process I lost the girl of my dreams. Guitarisgood, you don't know if she was the girl of your dreams. But, the hindsight here is that, if you were truly interested enough in her, you would have gone through that door. Hindsight is 20/20.
preraph Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 Let's not assume she was the girl of your dreams. I'm sure your friend who is crushing on her is happy with you and that is a nice thing to do. However, if he has already had plenty of time to have his shot with her and been shot down, a talk with him about that before trying to see the girl would be best. I'm sure if you wanted you could find her and ask her out and she'd probably go.
Author Guitarisgood Posted April 2, 2015 Author Posted April 2, 2015 Cheers guys, yeah it was good to make an effort and hang with the boys more and that was what the night was about. Every party beforehand I've always gone straight to garnering female attention regardless of what guys were thinking/ doing. So I'm working my ass off to change and not be that 'nice guy' whose addicted to female attention. Maybe it's a lack of opportunities but atleast I know I'm back and rearing to go? 1
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 If you see a girl and think you should talk to her but you're not sure - then you should. And you have about 5 seconds to go and talk to her, otherwise you're just that guy creeping on her from the corner. Lol.
fitnessfan365 Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 I've just come home empty handed. To be honest I'm rusty. I spent the summer (over here) M.I.A. and worked on myself and redesigned who I am. The last puzzle of the piece was to get back with the 'boys' crowd and tonight was the night out I'd planned as such and not think about woman. It's funny when things like this happen when you least expect it. Obviously there's this girl I've been interested in and tonight she opened the door for me to shut it myself. But the goals for my night was to get back in with the guys (I'd always been a lady flirt and found it hard to relate more with the lads). Doesn't help that one of the guys is actually in love with this chick (friendzoned but). From the corner of my eye, I could see her eyeing me when she walked into the function centre and finding the opportunity to then talk to me and get physical. There was my opening and I simply walked away from it; I don't know why but it was unconscious. I guess a guy more keen and looking to score would have pulled through and got her. Alas I heard her gossiping with her girl friends that 'he must not like me, we're not each others type'. From then on she opened the gates and I swear, started flirting with every guy present. I could never get close to her since that. Ironically this guy whom I've never been that friendly with started to warm up much more to me post event. I guess I cannot have the best of both worlds. Maybe I gained the respect of the guys, maybe I didn't. But in the process I lost the girl of my dreams. No offense. But I think you're being overly dramatic on this one. You don't know her well enough for her to be the "girl of your dreams" and just because she looked at you, doesn't mean she had an overwhelming desire to do anything..LOL If you want to be successful with women, you have to be more of a realist.
carhill Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 Anyone ever screw up and the door closes Ha, which day of the week is it? Back in my 30's I came to realize that I had between 5 and 10 seconds to pick up on any rare displays of interest, process them appropriately and act on them without any mistakes or the door was closed. I came to understand this as my version of 'timing'. Everyone's version is different. However, from reading your post, OP, I doubt such events are rare for you so just write it off to 'oopsie' and another one will be by soon. That's how it goes sometimes.
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