What percentage of relationships fail from cheating

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If my wife said that to me I would see a lawyer tomorrow plus the fact that she has actually done it before.

[SearchingForMyself]

Give 50% to the relationship and see how that works.

 

Say that when you're working long hours and you're super tired trying to feed her and house her and her various wants.

 

One instance of her feeling neglected and you're a cuckold.

 

Where are your balls, man? She should have been Begging for an apology after that! You should have walked away, said "that statement didn't make me happy, I think I'll throw you out and go find another, and not say a word to her. Not a single word.". Then act single.

 

Jesus, I thought I was a nice guy but at least I have the balls to walk away.

[elaine567]

This is an unwinnable situation, YOU won't really know where she is on the happiness scale, and YOU will not find out till you find her cheating.

She may gobble up all you have to offer her and still cheat, because she was "unhappy".

 

She is not a woman who on a ONS gave into drunken lust. She is not a woman who in 2 weeks of madness, had a fling. She is not a woman who suffered years of loneliness/abuse at the hands of an incompatible husband, and finally grabbed some happiness by having an EA turned PA. These reasons are not excusable but are somewhat understandable, things just happen sometimes, but your wife appears to be a cheater with intent; premeditated cheating.

 

In addition, she does not seem to be a woman gripped by guilt and remorse saying she will never do that again.

 

She is admitting to YOU that she cheated on husbands, plural.

 

Because of all of that, you are on a hiding to nothing.

[Auspecial]

My wife put it very simple the other day.

 

She said:

 

"If I am unhappy, I will cheat. I have cheated on my past husbands, and I will do it again. So you better make sure that I stay happy."

 

So which would cause the divorce? Being unhappy or cheating?

 

 

What a big baby, she.

[Friskyone4u]

Good question but the answer depends on what your definition of marriage failing is. Since most of what I have read indicates that MOST cheating is not actually caught and that MOST cheating does not end in divorce the statistic soukd probably be lower thN in reality.

What infidelity DOES do is kill the old marriage even if the marriage survives. If you ask the question of how many marriages infidelity ruins and include how many stay for the kids or finances , or just stay And be miserable with a partner they never will trust or love the same, then infidelity ruins a much greater percentsge.

Just look at how many post on these forums whose marriages technically have "survived" the discovery and shock but who are still not happy after years and years.

I believe most people , men and women, in today's society do not actually deep down believe that their cheating will actually end in immediate divorce. I think most cheaters actually believe that they will be able weather the storm and that they will get another chance.

Just look at how many threads on here say "I caught her/him and I went immediately to divorce. Not too many .

Easier to take that first step into an affair if you are not convinced it will be fatal to your relationship.

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It doesn't take much for these types to be unhappy. They change emotions like people change clothes and one time that you breathe wrong will be used against you to make herself look like the victim. It is a complete utter exercise in futility trying to make somebody like this happy.