bob20 Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 So the simple question here is, should I give her a call? The story(sorry if it's long sometimes it sucks being a guy cause no one to talk to about this) : *I am old fashioned and I have had relationships in the past, two of them were well over 5 years each but things did not work out due to things out of both our hands, So its safe to say I know how to deal with a girl and at least close to understand them in things. So when I say I never believed in love at first sight, I mean it until I met this girl.. well about a year ago this girl and I started speaking. I knew her when I was *living in a different state many years ago and I am close to her brother. We talked for a good few months through fb and such, but I was dating someone at the time so I never tried to talk to her anymore than as friends at the time. She got with a guy a few while after, it was serious and so we stopped talking completely. Three weeks ago she wrote me asking how is things and such. We started talking again , through out the conversation it seemed like she was trying to hint that things did not work out. So i asked her flat out and she told me ya they broke it off about 8 weeks ago and now shes trying to do what her heart desires (Which is traveling and poetry ). She asked if I was seeing anyone, I told her I wasnt and that it broke off a few months ago because the family wasn't being reasonable. This was all in chat and I noticed after I would write back and such it would take her a long time to get back to me, sometimes even a day later. She later told me she is horrible with online chatting and FB, and told me to give her *a call. Later on the next day I gave her a call but she canceled and then texted that she was with her father and will call me later. Through out that time she would sent me texts on what I was up to, how I should pick a leaf for her (sometime into our conversation we found out we had a similiar habit of collecting leaves and such). I mean she was showing all the signs she was really interested. she called back we talked for awhile, next day she text me saying to call her so I did and we talked for close to 2 hours. after that we texted often. All this was about 4 days ago. The last real text I got from her was 4 days ago that she was busy all day but that we should have "another one of our phone dates again" the next day. The next day I tried calling but she didnt answer. I wrote her a text with a picture of one of my trips to Istanbul she wanted see during one of our phone calls. She replied saying "we are going to work on your camera skills together, it sucks". i replied with a joke and then told her I tried to call her for the phone date but she never answered. She saw the text but hasnt replied, this was 3 days ago. Shes been posting on facebook and twitter and such but yet has not even called or wrote back. *Friday shes leaving for an event in Turkey and then Malaysia and Im sure I wont hear from her for awhile until shes back. We talked about her trip a lot and even shared places she has to visit when she gets there (cause I already been there before and was giving her tips). I feel like everything was great but suddenly she seems to be either too busy to reply back or ignoring me. I sense its the latter because cmon no matter how busy someone is they would at least get back to them after awhile. So not sure what I should do. Should I try giving her a call again one last time before she leaves? I made her this beautiful calligraphy design with her signature "spirit animal" that she loves and was going to give it to her before she goes as a fareaway present, but I dont want to be creepy (she knows I was working on it before and she,in her words, cant wait to have her breath taken away). shes old fashioned as well, doesnt date unless its serious, and unless her family knows, etc. Do you, girls I mean, feel that sometimes you are too busy and forget to get back to someone you like? How should I handle this? Much love to all! (p.s. It sucks being a good guy sometimes and actually caring for someone)
Vintage79 Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 She doesn't sound that interested - it's super rare for someone to be genuinely interested and not respond in some way. That said, if you really want to (i.e. you think you may regret not having called again), just call her again and if she doesn't answer, forget about her until she responds (i.e. don't call her again until she gets back to you - but don't tell her that).
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