Jenu88 Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 I talk to this girl on phone for hours, go on dates, and I know she is physically attracted because we make out all the time. But she never responds to my texts. I hate double texting especially if they dont respond the second time. I thought all girls loved texting?
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 I guess not all girls do. Just be careful that you're not being too clingy/needy with her. 1
GTR King Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 Some girls are not big texters.... Just wait till she texts you etc...
katiegrl Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 I talk to this girl on phone for hours, go on dates, and I know she is physically attracted because we make out all the time. But she never responds to my texts. I hate double texting especially if they dont respond the second time. I thought all girls loved texting? I think her not responding is a clear message to you that she doesn't like texting, and would prefer to talk on the phone and/or talk to you in person...on dates.
Strength in Healing Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 (edited) LISTEN. Not just you, but ALL GUYS. PLEASE for your own sake listen. TEXTING IS NOT GOOD FOR BUILDING ANYTHING EMOTIONALLY, ETC. Texting is good for setting up dates. PLANS! Phone calls are far better (can express tone, etc.) but should also be kept relatively short and for the purpose of making plans. Once you're in a relationship for an extended period, texting is whatever, but you do it too much you'll STILL fry your relationship. Phone calls, again, are better, but should not be a real substitute to person to person interaction. But the beginning is especially crucial. Can't tell you how many studies I've had to deal with on how texting/social media is wrecking relationships. Our brains aren't nearly evolved enough over time to adapt to make this faulty, half-assed communication acceptable/attractive. DON'T MAKE THIS MISTAKE. 101. Edited April 2, 2015 by Strength in Healing 1
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 Texting is good for light flirting, showing interest, and making plans. It should only be used sporadically.
Vintage79 Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 OP - I don't see why this is complicated - she clearly likes you and clearly does not like texting. Just stop texting her if she never responds and call her instead...problem solved. I don't see why you'd start sending her several duplicate-ish texts if she never responds to any of them...all of them are effectively going into a black hole - a classic definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results - basically, you're walking a fine line. If you honestly think you can make an accurate generalizing statement, such as, "all girls like texting", you're destined to be sorely disappointed on several occasions. Just read the positive signs and pay attention to what she responds to (i.e. not texts), and follow what you learn - you'll be fine.
fitnessfan365 Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 (edited) Gotta say man. You sound really NEEDY. I mean you're already showing to be over eager as is spending hours on the phone (bad move BTW). However, then on top of that, you're chasing after her with text messages. If she's already spending hours talking with you on the phone as is, as well as dates in person, she probably needs a breather and doesn't want to spend all day texting too. A key factor in keeping attraction levels high is allowing a woman space to miss you and anticipate seeing you. If you're always in her face, she'll eventually feel smothered. Learn how to use push and pull. Example. I saw my GF Tues night. Called her last night pushing my interest to see her again with a great 20 min call and setting plans for Sat. Why only 20 mins? She's already in my life and I don't have to convince her to like me by spending hours on the phone. Then I'm pulling away for the next few days to give her space and allow her to anticipate seeing me. If she texts me in the next two days, I'll respond. But other than that, I don't need to chase after to verify how she feels. Plus, you should have other things in your life to occupy you outside of her. When you spend hours talking on the phone and text her all the time, it communicates that she is all you have going on. A woman wants to feel like she compliments your life, and not that she defines it. Edited April 2, 2015 by fitnessfan365 2
LifeandPerseverance Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 I talk to this girl on phone for hours, go on dates, and I know she is physically attracted because we make out all the time. But she never responds to my texts. I hate double texting especially if they dont respond the second time. I thought all girls loved texting? Not all girls are the same--okay, that's a lie, we pretty much are. XD But I digress: Not everyone loves texting. When I read the title of your post, I figured she just wasn't into you, BUT then you said she talks to you ON THE PHONE FOR HOURS, and keeps going on dates with you. Those are marks of someone--male or female--who is interested. There are exceptions, of course. Here's a question: Are you forcing her into the phone calls? I know for me personally, I had a guy I didn't like (AT ALL) who would call me, and try to talk for hours if allowed--I didn't like him, but he was bored and liked me (and he was very selfish), and thought since we hung out I was obligated to take his phone calls. It wasn't that I wanted to be on the phone with him--it was more I felt sorry for him. That was years ago--I know enough now to hit the "send to voicemail" or block a lifesucking vampire caller. Who's initiating your phone calls? Anyways, yes, some girls are not into texting. Me personally, if I really like the guy: I'm into texting. Or if it's a really close friend. Otherwise...Oops, I forget.
Kayakingking Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 You should never text her that often especially when she is not really texting you back. Some girls don't text as much, for instance in my case, I don't text a lot, and I don't even look into my phone for hours and hours even if I'm not that busy. I'm just doing something else. And I later find out that someone has sent me a text and I reply to that 5 hours later, 10 hours later, or 24 hr later. It bugs me when somebody texts me multiple times just because I didn't reply the person back because I was doing something else. I feel pressured that I need to reply to the text timely, while I just want to spend some time doing my own stuffs other than texting. Even if the girl had feelings for you, if you continue texting her as frequently as you are doing now, it will be a huge turn off. SO Don't do it. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 (edited) You should never text her that often especially when she is not really texting you back. Some girls don't text as much, for instance in my case, I don't text a lot, and I don't even look into my phone for hours and hours even if I'm not that busy. I'm just doing something else. And I later find out that someone has sent me a text and I reply to that 5 hours later, 10 hours later, or 24 hr later. It bugs me when somebody texts me multiple times just because I didn't reply the person back because I was doing something else. I feel pressured that I need to reply to the text timely, while I just want to spend some time doing my own stuffs other than texting. Even if the girl had feelings for you, if you continue texting her as frequently as you are doing now, it will be a huge turn off. SO Don't do it. Good post and solid advice. Just because you want to talk to a person, doesn't mean they're on the same schedule and attached to their phone. That's why people need to exercise self control and let a person get back to them. So many people lose their $hit when someone doesn't respond in 2-3 hours and start getting paranoid, needy, sending multiple texts, etc.. Patience PAYS. Ex - Held off on sex with my GF until we became exclusive. Never done that before, but her company was enough. So now that we'd been exclusive a bit, I knew that the timing was right for Tues night. That morning I sent her a text to work her up "Major fantasy unfolding with you as my leading lady". She never responded. But did I freak out, get paranoid, and send needy follow up texts? Nope. That night when she came over, she apologized and explained her hectic day. Then she asks "What was on your mind this morning?" I simply said "I'd rather show you" and I took what I wanted. It absolutely ROCKED her. Now if I had been a paranoid, needy, b**ch, it never would have happened. However, since I have emotional self control, it resulted in the "best sex EVER" (her words). But based on how many "multiple moments" she had during, I just smiled and told her that I had a feeling she'd say that. She laughed, and then started to giggle burying her head in my chest. Let me tell you guys, when you have an experience like that with a woman you genuinely care about, it doesn't get much better. Edited April 2, 2015 by fitnessfan365
Gaeta Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 I talk to this girl on phone for hours, go on dates, and I know she is physically attracted because we make out all the time. But she never responds to my texts. I hate double texting especially if they dont respond the second time. I thought all girls loved texting? Why not just ask her instead of assuming wrong. If you talk that often and spend that much time together surely you can ask her about not getting replies to your text. Who knows maybe she is the only person on the planet without an illimited text plan.
Gaeta Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 Let me tell you guys, when you have an experience like that with a woman you genuinely care about, it doesn't get much better. Can you erase that big grin off of your face lol
fitnessfan365 Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 Can you erase that big grin off of your face lol I earned that grin woman. Haha 1
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 Can you erase that big grin off of your face lol Haha, made me grin a bit also lol. 1
preraph Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 Not everyone likes texting. She doesn't like texting much. You've contacted her. Now wait and see if she contacts you back -- and if so, from then on, just call her.
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