wing81 Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 Over the past couple of months I have gone to the park with my dog and would pass this one girl just about everyday. I finally got up the courage to say more then "Hi, how are you?" when i passed her and asked if my dog and I could walk with her. She said sure and we walked and talked for what I am assuming was about 20 minutes. As she was getting ready to leave I asked for her number and she was more than willing to give it to me. I'm not really sure how to go about part 2. I haven't had much experience so I don't really know who to go about it. What is the difference between asking someone to hang out and asking someone on a first date? Also I'm not too sure about etiquette, especially for a first date; who pays? pick up or meet? dressy or casual? ect. I can get so worried about trying to fit into what the person wants that I end up being very indecisive, I know i just need to grow a pair and make a decision, I'm working on getting better at that. I was also wondering what some other ideas where for a first date are, the only ones I can think of are the typical dinner and a movie. Any other advice would be greatly appreciated.
HoldOn Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 Well, the proper thing to do would be to call her, ask her for a date on a specific day and time, at least 2-3 days in advance. Ask her to dinner and pay for it. You can meet her there, since you are basically strangers: but otherwise you should be picking her up. Wear nice pants and a shirt. Tie not required. I know dinner is the standard and some might think it is boring. But you can make it interesting by taking her to a nice place she's never been before. Do you have any interesting places in your town. How about Japanese place where they cook it at your table. Or a Fondue restaurant or one of those Argentinian steak houses. You should make the decision about where to go for dinner and then ask her to meet you there. Also, you should pay. If she offers, don't let her! This is a first date... Your time to wooo! her. If you are going to ask a girl out, you've got to have a plan. You can give her some options, but basically, you should be the man and have the plan! We love that. So, when you call her. Make some small talk and then say. "I was wondering if you'd like to go out to dinner with me?"... Then ask for specific date and time. Don't leave her hanging or tell her you'll call back later with more details. have it all ready to go, don't make her do any planning work. Again, be the man! You can do it! I'll tell you. girls love a man with a plan! This will impress her I promise. If she gave you her number, she likes you and wants you to ask her out! Don't wimp out now.
Linlin Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 Good advice. Can't really add to that except don't wait too long to call. Girls hate it when they give their number and the guys take forever to call.
alphamale Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 Originally posted by wing81 I'm not really sure how to go about part 2. call her this weekend and say "Hi, next Friday nite I am going to take you for a nice dinner at restaurant X. I'll be picking you up at 8:00. How do I get to your place?"
HoldOn Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale call her this weekend and say "Hi, next Friday nite I am going to take you for a nice dinner at restaurant X. I'll be picking you up at 8:00. How do I get to your place?" She'll probably swoon over that! (But acting simply confident rather than grossly OVERconfident will probably do the job)
Author wing81 Posted April 14, 2005 Author Posted April 14, 2005 We are both going to be out of town this weekend so i was thinking abot calling her on monday or tuesday if i don't see her before then at the park. Is that too long to wait? I was considering asking her to lunch, would dinner be a better idea? Thanks for all the advice so far.
alphamale Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 Originally posted by wing81 We are both going to be out of town this weekend so i was thinking abot calling her on monday or tuesday if i don't see her before then at the park. Is that too long to wait? I was considering asking her to lunch, would dinner be a better idea? Thanks for all the advice so far. calling her early next wk is fine. and don't ask her to lunch, what, are we still in grade school here? take her out for a proper dinner at a middle-of-the-road restaurant. and remember that you are the MAN so act like it.
HoldOn Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 and don't ask her to lunch, what, are we still in grade school here? Absolutely! I also agree, be a man. Ask her to dinner. And not to Chilis or Applebees or seomthing. A real place. But it doesn't have to be super expensive.
HoldOn Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 And yes, calling on Monday or Tuesday for next weekend is fine. Good Luck!
Mary3 Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 Its more than * dinner * here. You want to be confidant with her at the dinner table. When you take her out , be the alphamale thats hidden inside. Take charge of the dinner and the evening. Make her feel like a princess Speaking for myself, I like a man in charge on the date, who knows where to go , what meal suggestions , the whole experience. If you act overly nervous or lack confidance , you leave a lasting impression which is not favorable for a second date. Practice with someone in your family on how to treat a date with a mock date. I only suggest this because you seem like you might need the extra push to make for a fantastic date !
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