Ladies if you like a guy would you still expect him to make the first move?

[My lover]

Should men make the first move? and approach a woman?.

[Michelle ma Belle]

As progressive and open as I am in just about every aspect of my life, I still tend to lean more towards the traditional end when it comes to dating and relationships.

 

Having said that, now that I'm older, wiser, chalk full of experiences and more self assured then ever, making the first move or approaching a man I'm interested in isn't completely out of the question.

 

I don't think very many women will deny they enjoy or even prefer that men make the first move but sometimes a girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do

[jen1447]

As progressive and open as I am in just about every aspect of my life, I still tend to lean more towards the traditional end when it comes to dating and relationships.

 

Having said that, now that I'm older, wiser, chalk full of experiences and more self assured then ever, making the first move or approaching a man I'm interested in isn't completely out of the question.

 

I don't think very many women will deny they enjoy or even prefer that men make the first move but sometimes a girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do

 

I actually prefer doing it myself. I know what I want, and it weeds out the no-chance types. Plus, if it's with a woman, one of them has to make the first move anyway. That said, I do like bold women, so it's a catch 22, haha.

 

Really, it's great that there's no clear cut method or answer for a lot of this stuff. Making your own way is part of the fun.

[GemmaUK]

It would be nice if they did, however the guys I have liked a lot haven't done so soon enough so I have stepped up.

 

 

To be honest the men I have gone for have been far better RS's than those who have stepped up to me.

 

 

I am going to try OLD again very soon - which is a whole different entity - but I never feel invested at all before I meet them so it's a different attitude entirely than meeting someone IRL.

[d0nnivain]

Yes, I still prefer if he makes the 1st move but I will manipulate the situation so he gets the clear message that I am interested & if he takes the risk to ask, he will be "rewarded", not shot down.

[PrettyEmily77]

I love approaching a guy I'm attracted to, I find it fun and exciting. I really enjoy seeing the look of surprise and little ego boost it never fails to give, and once the guy is over the little shock, I find the whole experience to be a lot more natural than the other way round, mostly because I'm in charge.

 

 

I have also found guys who are cold approached to be very appreciative, polite and gracious in my experience, even when they are not single and / or are trying to let you down gently, and I seriously encourage all women to do it!

[bene]

Of course everyone can do whatever the hell they want and what works for them but in general women expect the guy to make the first move. You will miss out on opportunities if you wait for girls to approach you.

 

Also, people can have different definitions of "making a move" and for some girls smiling in your general direction already is making a move.

 

I support not playing games and doing what feels right but that said, nothing good has ever come out of me making moves towards the guy when I don't have a clear signal of his interest. So just in my personal experience I believe that even a quiet or shy guy will make a move when he's interested.

[No Limit]

I was able to watch a friend of mine get rejected very rudely - guy even gossiped a little the day afterwards, "ugh she's ugly I just want her to leave me alone" and the like during recess - she had only written him a single message on Facebook by the way, nothing else. Guy didn't even have the manhood to respond and deny her via message instead of laughing her out in front of a crowd - no first moves from me, sorry.

[Toodaloo]

It has never worked out when I have made the first move.

 

It has worked when I have been as subtle as a brick and flirted even more outrageously than normal but let them ask the question!

 

Men I have found, like to be manly and wear the trousers, hence make their own minds up (even if they have some help with that!) on who they want to date.