Kamikrazy Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 I have not gone out on one date and I am almost twenty years old. Is this a problem? I just haven't had the courage to ask girls out. I asked a girl out once and she gave me this long (written) spiel about how I am such a great guy but she wasn't ready to date yet. This happened several years ago and was the first girl I ever asked out. I was heartbroken and didn't ask any girls out for several years. No girl I have yet asked has said yes. I don't know what I can do to get girls to go out with me. Do I just need to roll the dice more often by asking a greater number of girls out?
HoldOn Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 I don't know what I can do to get girls to go out with me. Oh yes you do know! You have to ask them. Do I just need to roll the dice more often by asking a greater number of girls out? Yes, asking out more than one girl should help your success rate. Is there any one you would like to ask out? You could start slow and just suggest studying together or hang out with a group of coed friends. Like inviting a girl to a party or something. Maybe you need to get to know more girls. is there a co-ed sports league in your town you could join? Or a church group? Or after-work get together? You've got to get out there in order to meet people!
Author Kamikrazy Posted April 14, 2005 Author Posted April 14, 2005 Thanks for the input. I forgot to mention that I asked a girl out today who I'm attracted to (obviously). She said she had a prior engagement but she would love to study with me (we are in the same college class). I will definitely set up a study group with her and ask her out again at that time. The way she responded to me makes me think she is interested. To answer your question: I feel like I am constantly in a routine of going to school, going to work, coming home, eating and sleeping. BORING. I need to spice up my life but find that I am just too lazy to get out there and try anything new socially.
HoldOn Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 I asked a girl out today Well, hey hey, there you go. The way she responded to me makes me think she is interested. Oh I'd say definitely. what day did you ask her out for. Was it far enough in advance? The study group thing sounds good for starters, but you soon have to move it to one-on-one dates. How exciting though! ahhh love. I feel like I am constantly in a routine of going to school, going to work, coming home, eating and sleeping. Yeah, I know what you mean. I am in law school. and here I am at my desk studying till midnight, like usual. They say next year will be easier. Anyway, do you have any time for an extra curicullar (sp)? Even doing something once a month or once a week can help. Sometimes I make a summer list, or something. Of all the fun things I want to do that summer and then I plan which weekends I will do them on. (Like sailboating, going to the zoo, taking a dance lesson... whatever.) Or plan a road trip or something.
Author Kamikrazy Posted April 14, 2005 Author Posted April 14, 2005 I asked her out tonight....for tonight. Maybe I should have given that one a bit more thought. LOL.
HoldOn Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 ....for tonight Ooops! Oh well. Next time, just give her a couple days to clear her schedule for you! I'm sure she'd go out with you if you gave her some warning... And it is a weekend night that you're asking for, you should ask 3-4 days in advance. Good luck!
Colleen Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 Congrats on getting a yes as a reply...keep in mind that not every girl will turn you down..u gota keep trying and dont get discouraged easily..
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