ImASensitiveGuy Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 Coming here for some advice on how to work with the fact that my parents don't quite respect my decisions, or at least the decisions which they do not agree with. I know it's a common theme for college students to feel like adults (>18) and therefore want to be treated like adults (at least in some respect, since we're always somebody's kid). So here's my situation. Really the only pressing issue at the moment is that, because my parents are ultra Catholic, they don't exactly fancy my choice in staying over at my girlfriend's college while in school, and highly oppose it when I come home for breaks. Mind you, I'm still religious, but I'm also a realist and trust myself. My girlfriend and I do not have sex, and having been dating for 5 years this month without a kid, I feel like there isn't the level of trust required from my parents. Cue Happy Easter! Tomorrow night I am driving up to my girlfriend's college (about an hour drive) for a fundraiser event she's running and other school activities. Afterward, I'll be staying the night and will be driving her back home for Easter weekend. It makes sense because I don't want to drive an hour all the way back and then again an hour in the morning to pick her up, and then an additional hour to drive back. And I want to stay the night simply because it gives us time we don't normally have at home. Rewind to this past winter. My girlfriend had to go back to school a day earlier, and so I told her I would drive her back. While I was at her school, the weather got really bad (high winds, pouring freezing rain, ice) and I told my parents that I was going to stay the night to be safe (I already have bad experience driving in icy conditions so I was honestly trying to keep myself alive). After I told my parents via phone, they railed me a new one and flipped out - they were furious and told me how scandalous I was being and how horrible of a decision I was making, and to be fair they told me it was my choice...but I was guilted into coming back home (Yes I know, I chickened). So I want to know how I can (1) avoid chickening out again - I want to stand my ground albeit respectfully, and (2) how I can deal with this issue in the future, especially if my girlfriend and I decide to go on a vacation together or on spring break together, or whatever it might be. I hope I touched on enough, I don't want to make this too long. But hopefully you get the general idea.
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