Vixen32 Posted April 1, 2015 Posted April 1, 2015 Ok, I've been dating a person for a few months and things are generally good. We see each other 3-4 times/week, and usually spend the night together when we get together. Given that that translates into seeing each other essentially every other day, I'm wondering what kind of contact should be expected on the days off? Should contact/communcation be daily or just on the days when we see each other? Should we text/call/email? Or say nothing? I realize it's situational and a function of the people involved, but what has been your experience?
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 1, 2015 Posted April 1, 2015 Hmm every/every other day probably sounds fine for how much time you spend together.
d0nnivain Posted April 1, 2015 Posted April 1, 2015 I always needed / wanted / demanded more space then most. At the 3-4 month mark with your level of togetherness, at most in between I would only require confirmation of the next in person meeting. Most people aren't like me & would want at least a phone call or a long drawn out text exchange in between
Author Vixen32 Posted April 1, 2015 Author Posted April 1, 2015 I always needed / wanted / demanded more space then most. At the 3-4 month mark with your level of togetherness, at most in between I would only require confirmation of the next in person meeting. Most people aren't like me & would want at least a phone call or a long drawn out text exchange in between D0nnivain, given that I suggested that we see each other effectively every other day - does that mean you would effectively want daily contact? Basically - call/email/text on the off day, see each other the next day, call/email/text the day after to confirm meeting for the following day, etc.
kayla73 Posted April 1, 2015 Posted April 1, 2015 In my experience, there was always some kind of communication on any given day that we weren't going to be together. Even if it was only one or two short text exchanges.
d0nnivain Posted April 1, 2015 Posted April 1, 2015 D0nnivain, given that I suggested that we see each other effectively every other day - does that mean you would effectively want daily contact? Basically - call/email/text on the off day, see each other the next day, call/email/text the day after to confirm meeting for the following day, etc. It would depend. If we parted on Monday morning with the idea that we were having dinner on Wednesday, somewhere around Wednesday after noon I'd want a heads up on the location / time or at least confirmation that we were still on. My daily scheduled can't be predicted with 100% accuracy so confirmation is important. In fact DH & I have a standing Friday date but he still texts me with a time when he gets out of work on his train home because it changes week to week. I would not need a whole conversation -- voice, text, e-mail, IM, FB whatever -- on Tuesday.
losangelena Posted April 1, 2015 Posted April 1, 2015 My BF and I, who see each other 3/4 days a week, tend to at least say "hi" over text once a day, or send each other silly photos or inside jokes. It's not a ton of contact, though, and frankly I don't need more. If you communicate all the time when you're apart, what are you supposed to talk about when you see each other? 1
edgygirl Posted April 1, 2015 Posted April 1, 2015 In my last relationship at the 3-4 months mark it bothered me when he didn't at least say "hi" by text or email on the days we were not meeting. I guess some people are more needy than others? My sisters live abroad and we always Whatsapp at least a few times a day talking nonsense or inside silly jokes. I like daily communication but I get some people need more "alone" time in communication. It seems men prefer to communicate less than women do.
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