Grinning Maniac Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 Strange day... I just ran into my ex-gf a few minutes ago while working in the wooodshop/sculpture lab here up at school. Just the normal friendly "how do you do" conversation as usual, but also, as usual, something was amiss... Ever since we broke up talking to her has been so strange. I suppose it could be naturally how things are between exes, but conversation with us seems so wooden and awkward now. She always seems...down. Not how I remember her at all. I remember knowing this funny, happy girl who I really enjoyed talking to. Now she seems to have become this stern, slightly condescending, all-business type of girl whom I feel like I don't even know. ((If any of you are fans of "24", you could easily compare the difference in character between "normal" Michelle last season and hardass "Head of CTU" Michelle this season...lol)) Perhaps that's who she was deep the whole time we dated and I just couldn't see it, perhaps there's something depressing her now that she won't tell me about, perhaps talking to me gets her down(which would surprise/sadden me since we split on friendly terms)...I have no idea. I knew things would be different between us after we broke up, but wow..it's like night and day. I suppose that's just the way things are going to be...but it's depressing in a way. Over the last few months I've realized that we *are* fundamentally different people and it's probably best that we did break up. I honestly don't feel any sort of regret about anything. I'm glad we went out, I'm okay with it being over, and I hope that someday she finds someone more like her to make her happy. What I lament...is how it seems that the wonderful girl I used to know is dead. The girl who I went out with was a person who actually did not disgust me. That's saying a lot, since most women that I meet get on my nerves and seem like complete babbling idiots. She was very different and I considered her to be my equal in many ways. I really respected her and enjoyed her being around. But now it's like she has been replaced by some total stranger...and this world seems a little less bright.
bubblygrl5 Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 GRINNING - A run in with the ex is always a little awkward unless enough time has passed for it to really be NO BIG DEAL for both parties. There could be a lot of reasons she's acting aloof - she could still be hurt/she could not be over you/she might not want to get too friendly and risk feeling something again/ or maybe she just feels awkward and doesn't know how to be your FRIEND and not your GF. I personally have an ex that never wanted to even see me after! I didn't understand why...still really don't...but I just accepted that ppl deal with things in different ways. I guess as long as she knows you are there for her IF she did need anything, you've done your job in being her EX. My current bf and I broke up once for 6 months. I broke up with him, but on occasion we HAD to be at the same events for whatever reasons. He would sort of act like a robot - just dead set on not slipping back into familiar territory, and that was fine. Obviously, it didn't work!!! So, she's probably trying super hard. Just my opinion. G-luck! Bubbly
guitarplayer Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 sounds like she got infected by the "bug" dude.Maybe if she did'nt watch so much MTv the "BUG" would'nt have attached its self to her brain.....just kidding dude......move on unless she was your first love because if she was,you'll never get over her no matter what you do or who you meet.....get a dog,they will never let you down BUG - [Form of creature]/preys on week minded people/crawls around MTv:/makes you think your a liberal/(known)projected through your TV screen/[warning]This bug can eat up normal thinking brain cells/known for male and female brainwashing/[other]replaces any value's you once had [with orgasm first : then love] i dont know where I find this crap from ...lol....love the net anyways.......
Ladyjane14 Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 Maybe she's feeling weird around you after the break-up. Could be that after some more time goes by, she'll be more like her old self. And if not, be glad that you 'missed the bullet'. It would be sad to find out later on that she had the potential to lose her charm this way...AFTER you had 3 kids and a mortgage. Originally posted by Grinning Maniac since most women that I meet get on my nerves and seem like complete babbling idiots. I'm acting like I didn't see that comment, and wishing you continued good fortune in your future instead. You're a bright young man, and you deserve to meet someone wonderful. May God have mercy on her soul....at least she'll NEVER have a dull moment. :laugh:
Author Grinning Maniac Posted April 14, 2005 Author Posted April 14, 2005 Say LJ, I said that a lot of women *that I've met* give me that impression. I've obviously never met you before....for all you know, you're already the type of girl I can respect. So why are you automatically assuming the worst?
Ladyjane14 Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 Awwww...I'm just teasin' ya a little. I'm tired enough today that I'm loopy with it anyhow. I've reached the goofy part of my day! Besides, "never a dull moment" is a GOOD thing....when applied correctly!
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