irvinmags Posted April 1, 2015 Posted April 1, 2015 So yeah, as the title says I'm on the 2nd month of no contact. So what do I do now? At first or let's say my goal is to at least get over my ex who dumped me. And at the same time there's a part of me that going NC will somehow make her miss me and what not. So I do not know what to do now. Till this day, I still miss her. Like the what ifs are still in my head and thoughts of me meeting her up and telling her what she did wrong and me saying thank you and sorry for her. What should I do now?
Nolan 93 Posted April 1, 2015 Posted April 1, 2015 What do you mean "what do I do now"? You keep doing exactly what you are doing and that's nc, it's that simple. Yes I know you miss her especially if she dumped you I was dumped to by a girl who I thought loved me. Yes I miss her everyday but I've been in no contact for about three months almost four. Do not kid your self cause us dumpees do hope that with Nc they come back, but we should look as it to help us live without them. Continue Nc that's all we can do until they reach out to us. 1
Ruby65 Posted April 1, 2015 Posted April 1, 2015 Some of those "how to get your ex back" systems they hawk online will tell you to go 30 days without contact to make your ex miss you -- and so you can "recover" enough to contact her again. AS IF 30 days was enough time to get over a breakup! So, no -- those stupid programs don't work. They exist for one reason and one reason only: to exploit broken-hearted people and get their money by selling them false hopes. No Contact is a way for you to heal. That's all. Sometimes, if you're able to leave your ex alone, he or she will eventually miss you and change their mind about the breakup, but this only happens rarely. Here's a guide that will help you: http://www.breakuprecoveryguide.com. There's also a great No Contact guide posted on this site. 1
Author irvinmags Posted April 1, 2015 Author Posted April 1, 2015 Well I guess that's that.. Although, I think I haven't fully moved on yet. There is still yearning for me to see her. There are times that I wish when I get out of the house, I would imagine bumping into her. But not talking to her, it's just a part of me that wants to see her again. And that's that. Also, I am already having second thoughts of getting back together since everything won't be the same again as it used to be.
bigfred Posted April 1, 2015 Posted April 1, 2015 Well I guess that's that.. Although, I think I haven't fully moved on yet. There is still yearning for me to see her. There are times that I wish when I get out of the house, I would imagine bumping into her. But not talking to her, it's just a part of me that wants to see her again. And that's that. Also, I am already having second thoughts of getting back together since everything won't be the same again as it used to be. You need to stay in no contact!! ive been on a 25day no contact and this morning i was almost going to contact her via text, pleading her back and didint and feel better now, but the NC rule works!!! keep your head up dont screw it up bc if you do beleive me when i tell u this u are going to feel way worse then before and have to start all over again!!!!! don do it!! post here we all can help you throuh this
ZiggyZoo Posted April 1, 2015 Posted April 1, 2015 Well I guess that's that.. Although, I think I haven't fully moved on yet. There is still yearning for me to see her. There are times that I wish when I get out of the house, I would imagine bumping into her. But not talking to her, it's just a part of me that wants to see her again. And that's that. Also, I am already having second thoughts of getting back together since everything won't be the same again as it used to be. That right there is the NC working. That's what it's supposed to do, give you clarity about what your true thoughts about the relationship are, without the initial panicky need to get right back together so you don't feel lonely. You'll come to realize that there was a reason why you broke up, and it was likely inevitable. And also that this reason is why it won't work in the future. Missing her and having "what ifs" are perfectly normal right now. You had a connection to this person, and those aren't easily broken. But you're starting to get logic seeping in and showing you that you two weren't exactly right for each other. I think you're coming along great. Just stick to the NC, and you'll be fine. 1
marcelo.santos Posted April 1, 2015 Posted April 1, 2015 Keep NC You will learn that if someone loves you she will never let you go as she did - this is something sad but it is the true
Jonp219 Posted April 1, 2015 Posted April 1, 2015 So yeah, as the title says I'm on the 2nd month of no contact. So what do I do now? At first or let's say my goal is to at least get over my ex who dumped me. And at the same time there's a part of me that going NC will somehow make her miss me and what not. So I do not know what to do now. Till this day, I still miss her. Like the what ifs are still in my head and thoughts of me meeting her up and telling her what she did wrong and me saying thank you and sorry for her. What should I do now? I guess you should stick to NC. Get over her, make some changes, and maybe if you cross paths again it'll work out better next time. I don't believe that whole "an ex is ex for a reason" crap. No, an ex is an ex because it just wasn't the best time to be together. But yeah, work on getting over her and feeling comfortable about yourself again.
organizedchaos Posted April 1, 2015 Posted April 1, 2015 So yeah, as the title says I'm on the 2nd month of no contact. So what do I do now? At first or let's say my goal is to at least get over my ex who dumped me. And at the same time there's a part of me that going NC will somehow make her miss me and what not. So I do not know what to do now. Till this day, I still miss her. Like the what ifs are still in my head and thoughts of me meeting her up and telling her what she did wrong and me saying thank you and sorry for her. What should I do now? Live your life?
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