MyEvilTwin Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 What do you think of a partner/spouse that wakes you up from naps to mess with you? Tickles or feet or face? What if they know you dislike it...wait, that's too mellow of words--knows you get furious, yet continues to do so?
oldshirt Posted April 1, 2015 Posted April 1, 2015 What if they know you dislike it...wait, that's too mellow of words--knows you get furious, yet continues to do so? The technical term for that is abuse. 2
trippi1432 Posted April 1, 2015 Posted April 1, 2015 The technical term for that is abuse. Not quite sure I would take it that far to term it as that. It seems that partner/spouse is reverting to "little boy on the playground" antics, you just need to find out why. 1
Author MyEvilTwin Posted April 1, 2015 Author Posted April 1, 2015 The technical term for that is abuse. I agree. But I welcome more opinions. 1
Author MyEvilTwin Posted April 1, 2015 Author Posted April 1, 2015 Not quite sure I would take it that far to term it as that. It seems that partner/spouse is reverting to "little boy on the playground" antics, you just need to find out why. This goes beyond trying to get my attention to play, does it not?
Tayla Posted April 1, 2015 Posted April 1, 2015 you have an aversion to that antic.so be it. as the saying goes he who angers , controls. You need to set a strict boundary that its not to be tolerated.
Author MyEvilTwin Posted April 1, 2015 Author Posted April 1, 2015 you have an aversion to that antic.so be it. as the saying goes he who angers , controls. You need to set a strict boundary that its not to be tolerated. Tried that again, today. Just how would you go about setting up such a boundary besides telling the person you don't like it and to stop?
trippi1432 Posted April 1, 2015 Posted April 1, 2015 Well, you stop responding to the antics.......positively or negatively. What they wanted was a response...it's attention-seeking.
Author MyEvilTwin Posted April 1, 2015 Author Posted April 1, 2015 Well, you stop responding to the antics.......positively or negatively. What they wanted was a response...it's attention-seeking. No. He will continue until he wakes me up. Waking me up was the goal. It's punishment. I slept on that couch when we weren't getting along. Now if I take a nap on that couch, he does this. I am quite sure they are related, he's even said so.
PinkElephants Posted April 1, 2015 Posted April 1, 2015 Tried that again, today. Just how would you go about setting up such a boundary besides telling the person you don't like it and to stop? Boundaries have consequences such as "I won't tolerate cheating; if you cheat, I'll dump you" or "I'll wait 10 minutes for you, if you're later than that I'll leave the restaurant and make other plans". What are the consequences for him continuing to act like a spoiled child, disrespecting your boundaries, and disturbing your sleep? If there are no consequences then you haven't set boundaries, you've made idle threats. Fill in the blank: if you keep acting like a child and waking me up then_________ Now stick to it. 1
GemmaUK Posted April 1, 2015 Posted April 1, 2015 The technical term for that is abuse. I agree, in my case it was just one of his many abusive tactics. He did that along with telling me that I shouldn't be tired (after working a full two weeks of 12 hour days instead of the usual 8 hour days).
mrs rubble Posted April 1, 2015 Posted April 1, 2015 My man tells me to wake him up when I go to bed after him....I've tried all sorts and the bugger just won't wake up!!! 2
oldshirt Posted April 1, 2015 Posted April 1, 2015 If he knows it is unwelcome, non consensual and that it infuriates you, then he is doing it for the purpose of infuriating you and to cause you discomfort and distress - that is abuse. It should be treated as such. 2
still_an_Angel Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 I would deliver ONE fair warning. The next time he does it again, he will earn a punch in the face or wherever my hands get to him.
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