My lover Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 Someone please help me. I've asked this question before but didnt get many replies. How do I get over the fear to get the courage to ask for a woman's number?. I just freeze and can't. Does this mean I could be single for a while?. Unless I over come it. I don't know why I find it so difficult. Has anyone got any helpful advice and tips. Thankyou.
d0nnivain Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 It's one of the last things you ask after the conversation has been going for a while. You either say, can we meet for coffee later? Great can I have your # to confirm. Or you say hey, I really enjoy talking to you. Can I have your # so we can continue the conversation? Even if she says no, she is only 1 person. Her rejection is not an indictment of you as a valuable human being.
JuneJulySeptember Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 Someone please help me. I've asked this question before but didnt get many replies. How do I get over the fear to get the courage to ask for a woman's number?. I just freeze and can't. Does this mean I could be single for a while?. Unless I over come it. I don't know why I find it so difficult. Has anyone got any helpful advice and tips. Thankyou. In all honesty, hundreds of rejections will get rid of that fear. I'm not exaggerating or putting myself down either. The stages go like this: 1) I was afraid to talk to certain women. 2) I was afraid to ask women for their phone #. 3) I was afraid to call women once I got their #. I remember going down into the garage and smoking cigarettes because I was so nervous to call women. But it was all dumb. Because IT DOESN'T MATTER WHAT YOU SAY. If you are going to get rejected, you are going to get rejected. In all honesty, I still do probably get a little bit nervous still of saying the wrong thing, but I try and block it out. Anyway, it's something you learn from experience.
Author My lover Posted March 31, 2015 Author Posted March 31, 2015 Thankyou. But when I think of saying can I have your number I just can't. I'm so desperate to be able to. What's wrong with me?. How can I block out the fear?. Please help. Thankyou.
Author My lover Posted March 31, 2015 Author Posted March 31, 2015 I wish I could walk up to a woman and say something like I think your very beautiful and if your single can I have your number.
Author My lover Posted March 31, 2015 Author Posted March 31, 2015 I have tried hypnosis and it worked once. It was great I just asked but didn't get. I couldn't keep the hypnosis up. It was costing to much money and no real improvement.
Imported Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 I wish I could walk up to a woman and say something like I think your very beautiful and if your single can I have your number. 99.9% of the time, don't ever do that. Just talk to her like a person about what ever is relevant. Get a feel for her interest and if it seems good, just tell her you'd like to get to know her better and get her number or ask her out on the spot.
alphamale Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 Someone please help me. I've asked this question before but didnt get many replies. How do I get over the fear to get the courage to ask for a woman's number?. I just freeze and can't. Does this mean I could be single for a while?. Unless I over come it. I don't know why I find it so difficult. Has anyone got any helpful advice and tips. Thankyou. become spiritual and belief in a higher power will give you confidence to do almost anything
Author My lover Posted March 31, 2015 Author Posted March 31, 2015 Thankyou Imported. If their other people around I would be to embarrassed to talk to her let alone ask for her number. How do I know if she's flirting with me by her body language?. Also can you please give me some pulling tips.
EngnimaticResponse Posted April 1, 2015 Posted April 1, 2015 Here's what I recently told a mid 20's FB friend who was having trouble with his approach. You younger people have a new one to use. "Could I get your number so we can go stare at our phones together some time?" Should at least elicit a smirk. 1
SupportiveGuy Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 If you just want to hook up, ask for her number, she's just a piece of meat to you anyways. If you're that type of person, try practicing on women you aren't interested in. If you want a longer relationship, you should really be going to regular events and meeting her and working on her each time until she's really into you. Eventually it'll just feel natural to talk to her, and meet up somewhere, etc. The truth is that rejection affects everyone differently. Some people get over it, and some people don't. If your mind is healthy, you should eventually adapt.
trevzilla Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 I was painfully shy when I was younger. I think it's something that you get over with time as you get more comfortable with yourself. The best advice I can think of is, don't fantasize about a particular woman or put her on a pedestal. Before you get to know someone, what you think about them is just a part of your personality being projected onto them. What I'm saying is don't get too hung up on one girl as there are lots more out there when you're young. If you just think of her as a potential girlfriend that you want to get to know better and don't build her up in your head, you won't be as anxious about rejection. I used to take it really personally when a girl declined my advances, but now I realize that everyone has types and are at different places in their lives. You might not be her type, she might be gay or have a boyfriend. It's not that big a deal, there will be women who dig you so you just keep plugging away until you meet one. If you don't ask, you are guaranteed to never go out with her. If you try at least you wont' have any regrets regardless of the outcome my friend. Just go for it.
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