throwaway__123 Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 Started dating a girl these last two weeks, knew she had feelings for me for awhile but only recently acted on them. Before we started dating, I laid out the groundrules with this chick. Said I wanted to take things slow and see what happened, but also mentioned that I was leaving uni soon and didn't know if whatever we had at that point would continue as LD if it came to that. I was just honest basically. Seems things have moved fast however, the girl still has V plates and hasn't had a serious relationship prior to me it would seem which could explain things. Her mates are asking when we're going to make things official and i'm all like So I basically need to sit down with this girl ASAP (won't see her for 2 weeks) and tell her I like her, and what we have, but there's an expiry date fast approaching and state my reasons for this. Any advice in how to go about doing this? Like I said, it's been 2 weeks and I don't think I've lead her on...We've stayed at each other's like twice, grabbed a film and a drink or two, but nothing to make me think it would seem we're on the brink of a relationship...
Buddhist Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 Like I said, it's been 2 weeks and I don't think I've lead her on...We've stayed at each other's like twice, grabbed a film and a drink or two, but nothing to make me think it would seem we're on the brink of a relationship... Then why do you think you have to sit her down and give her a chat? Who cares what her friends say? What has that got to do with anything? Since you've already laid your ground rules in concrete here, there shouldn't be any need to further establish that you're not up for a relationship at all and are just jonesing for sex. I think she gets that and given that she's got her 'V plates' on she probably won't be giving you sex anyway in light of your declaration that a relationship won't happen. You may as well cut your losses now.
preraph Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 You need to break it off with her right now. Tell her you're leaving soon and remind her you talked about it. She will be crushed. But do it now and break off all contact with her so she'll have no choice but to move on sooner. And do not be specific where you're moving to or this girl will show up on your doorstep with her bags packed.
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