Author Ifonlyihadknown Posted April 2, 2015 Author Posted April 2, 2015 Quote: Originally Posted by Ifonlyihadknown View Post We met in hospital just over 5 years ago. I had struggled so badly breaking up with my ex wife I had tried to end it all. She was in there for the same reason but hers was down to financial issues that pushed her over the edge. She was married, I was divorced yet looking back now we connected on the very fact we had both been in the same pit of despair and tried to make a exit from it all. Her husband was ok with our relationship, I even lived with them for a year before I could take no more. It all seemed so wrong! Yet she remained with him and saw me on the side. A crazy crazy situation which caused a lot of stress but she always told me how much she loved me and that we were soul mates. stupidly I believed her. But now I know her and her husband were operating together, to get whatever money they could because of the desperate situation they were in financially. I really have seen things in life that have baffled me beyond all belief with how people can treat other people, only have to look at the news to see how badly people can be towards eachother. How money can be more valuable than a human life always unsettled me deeply yet I did what anyone else would do and simply didn,t give it any thought as all that does is destroy your faith in mankind. But then I got in a relationship with one of these people, and never ever again will I get in another relationship for the rest of my life!!! Wow!! The reasons you got yourself into that f'd up situation are irrelevant because it happened and you cannot turn back time. But you must learn from it. Clearly that was not a real relationship so saying you'll never get into another relationship ever again is just silly. What you should be saying instead is that you'll never get into another relationship with a woman who is married or involved with someone else! The good news is that MOST people are good! You happened to find some really bad ones. Learn from it and move on! You will find a good person who cares about you but to shun all people because of this one person (and her husband ugh) is just ludicrous! Go live your life and don't let those two steal your joy! Life is way too short for that It gets worse, way worse. Where I live is owned by her and her husband, a few days ago I went to stay at my sisters but had to come back because my sister is struggling in her own relationship and I knew I was adding stress to her situation. My ex owns this boat I live on with her husband, I have absolutely zilch money to get away from here, I have no other family and the only option I have to get out of this complete nightmare of a mess is to go and live rough on the streets. I haven,t seen her for over a week now, tomorrow she is coming here to talk to me about how we go forward. I,m in a seriously messed up situation here and I can,t find a way out whatsoever. Hence my earlier post ch1t just got real.
d0nnivain Posted April 2, 2015 Posted April 2, 2015 It's not your fault -- you aren't blameless because you made choices but blame isn't going to fix your current predicament. First, get yourself a job if you don't have one. Get a 2nd job, if you have a job. You need money to move & to pay rent on a new place. To the extent that you are speaking to your landlords, give them a time by which you will be out . . .end of the month if possible. Then move heaven & earth to make that happen. Good luck.
Author Ifonlyihadknown Posted April 2, 2015 Author Posted April 2, 2015 I,m in a serious situation here and I don,t know what the f<%k to do. 3 months ago she agreed to end all of this for me if I helped her clear the financial situation she and her husband have. I know I got myself into this, I just have no clue how to get out of it!!!
Author Ifonlyihadknown Posted April 2, 2015 Author Posted April 2, 2015 When I say end it all, I mean accidental death, A love making session that results in accidental death as long as I fix the financial problem first, I agreed to it as well, that,s how low I feel inside, but then. I thought how could someone that's supposed to love you that much able to strangle you with a cord whilst making love. I,m seriously in a mess here, my fault I know completely, not trying to pass the blame at all cuz it was my choice to get involved with her. I just don,t know how to get out of this at all?
lauri Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 When I say end it all, I mean accidental death, A love making session that results in accidental death as long as I fix the financial problem first, I agreed to it as well, that,s how low I feel inside, but then. I thought how could someone that's supposed to love you that much able to strangle you with a cord whilst making love. I,m seriously in a mess here, my fault I know completely, not trying to pass the blame at all cuz it was my choice to get involved with her. I just don,t know how to get out of this at all? They're willing to use you for their financial issues and then strangle you while making love? Man, I don't want you to give them another penny or even let them do this to you. Is there somewhere else you could go to escape them? I know things are tough but I'm deeply concerned about you. Change your number and/or block them from contacting you. Don't stress about love and another relationship right now. Your focus should be on you and helping yourself. Keep posting here and keeping us informed - but I suggest seeing a doctor for yourself too.
organizedchaos Posted April 3, 2015 Posted April 3, 2015 When I say end it all, I mean accidental death, A love making session that results in accidental death as long as I fix the financial problem first, I agreed to it as well, that,s how low I feel inside, but then. I thought how could someone that's supposed to love you that much able to strangle you with a cord whilst making love. I,m seriously in a mess here, my fault I know completely, not trying to pass the blame at all cuz it was my choice to get involved with her. I just don,t know how to get out of this at all? Don't know whether to believe this story or not. But seek professional help.
Author Ifonlyihadknown Posted April 3, 2015 Author Posted April 3, 2015 I know how crazy this all sounds and I,m starting to wish I had never started this thread through fear of being labelled paranoid or suicidally depressed. When we met in hospital I was homeless, she offered me a home and convinced me she was totally in love with me. I stayed in a bedroom next door to her and her husband, this alone rang massive alarm bells but I was completely trapped because I was homeless and believed her when she said she would leave him and we would be together soon. That soon never happened so I moved out and lived in a caravan on her brothers property for the next year. The way of paying the rent was that I worked for her family for nothing, I,m a builder and done up there houses. 3 houses in total!!! People that were there friends came and went daily, these friends were of a spiritual nature claimed to be able to channel messages from beyond the grave and even gave me messages that my mom was giving as she died 19 years ago. Still I never saw the warning signs and just put it down to a caring nature, I would laugh it off if you like and say that if she was trying to connect with me then she wouldn,t do it through them. I believe I have been caught up in a cult, and my only way out of this is to literally leave where I am asap. I don,t have an address so seeing a doctor is a no go. Also when we met I had a company on the sidelines that I had set up 9 years ago,, it sold sportswear that I imported from India. She was concerned my ex wife would come after my company so I signed it over to her and her husband right back at the moment we met. My only option is to get out of here fast, yes I,m completely depressed but NOT paranoid, this thread is all true, and I wish I hadn,t started it now because there are no answers to this mess, but at least I realise I have to get away from here fast... Thanks for listening and thanks for caring, I won't be commenting any further on this thread but one day I hope to return and give an update which is positive.
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