HeBrokeMyHeart Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 So I've been speaking to a guy for a few weeks, he shows a lot of interest over text and is very cute. We've hung out twice and things have been great, we cuddled kissed etc . He would walk me to my car and tell me to text him when I got home safely. When watching vines he would say that's 'us' it wasn't typically anything romantic but he used the word us. He tells me a lot about himself & seems very comfortable around me, and says things to do with the future. He also seems to want to impress me with actually getting off his ass and looking for a new job as well as do his driving test. now why everything seems to be going great there's some things that worry me. First off all the last time I saw him he asked if I got jealous, I replied no. He then proceeded with little comments throughout the night to test me if you like. (Not sure if this was to see how I felt about him. He spent half the night asking if I was going to miss him when he went on holiday. I joked and gave him vague answers!) 2) he's a lady mans. He has a lot of female friends, while I was with him he had nothing to hide he showed me everything that went on his phone. 3) the first time I met him he deleted tinder in front of me (which I wouldn't expect him to do anyways) and then when I saw him last he had downloaded it again. 4) our friend set us up, she tells me that as far as she knows him he's not a player & that it's mostly all an act from when his ex cheated on him 4 years ago. He also told me something similar & how people think he's this very confident cocky guy but it couldn't be further from the truth. 5) his responses have taken longer recently I don't know if it's because I like him I'm starting to realise it as before I didn't pay much attention
Buddhist Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 2) he's a lady mans. He has a lot of female friends, while I was with him he had nothing to hide he showed me everything that went on his phone. Does it bother you if he has female friends? 3) the first time I met him he deleted tinder in front of me (which I wouldn't expect him to do anyways) and then when I saw him last he had downloaded it again. Well then you have evidence that what he does as a big show of whatever....really means nothing at all. Remember that piece of information it could come in handy later. 4) our friend set us up, she tells me that as far as she knows him he's not a player & that it's mostly all an act from when his ex cheated on him 4 years ago. He also told me something similar & how people think he's this very confident cocky guy but it couldn't be further from the truth. Be wary about accepting psychoanalysis from well meaning friends. She is probably honestly trying to help you and him, but she also knows jack about it and is biased based on her friendship with him. It's no guarantee he won't do something douchey at some future point in time. 5) his responses have taken longer recently I don't know if it's because I like him I'm starting to realise it as before I didn't pay much attention This is quite normal with many men. They get all insecure and weird after two dates and start playing the no contact game. Only you can decide if you are willing to put up with it. Good luck.
kayla73 Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 I think you are just a little scared and are overanalyzing things because you really like him. He seems to really like you. Don't worry about what other people tell you about him. Judge him on how he treats YOU.
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