markleymassraff Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 Is it the case that one should ALWAYS block out of his or her life someone who he/she likes but who doesn't seem to like them? Romantically, I mean? When is it okay to block them out of your life and when is it okay to keep them in your life / on your radar? What circumstances for each? What are your thoughts and experiences?
Gary S Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 The problem is, if you love someone but they don't love you back, if you continue to be around them, you live a life of quiet desperation. It's not fun. Maybe someday when you get another lover and get over them, then you can be Friends.
Redhead14 Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 Is it the case that one should ALWAYS block out of his or her life someone who he/she likes but who doesn't seem to like them? Romantically, I mean? When is it okay to block them out of your life and when is it okay to keep them in your life / on your radar? What circumstances for each? What are your thoughts and experiences? It OK to block anyone out of your life if you don't want them in your life. If it's someone you have strong feelings for and they are not returning them, it might be difficult for you to maintain an "arm's length" relationship with them at least. In which case, unless they've hurt you or mistreated you in some way, you could simply be friendly with them. You can keep someone like that in your life, if you are able to maintain an arm's length relationship. You wouldn't block them unless they've done something to hurt you or isn't treating you well in general.
preraph Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 Keeping them in your life will keep you from moving on. 1
d0nnivain Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 If your crush isn't reciprocated, trying to hang on to the slivers will only hurt you. How masochistic are you?
Author markleymassraff Posted March 31, 2015 Author Posted March 31, 2015 i know, it really sucks. i am like sooo attracted to this guy. probably more attracted to him than i ever have been to anybody in my life. not even kidding. and he's attracted to me too but not enough for a relationship. we've had sex several times in january. he claims to still want to see me, but i know he sees other women too. we also live in cities 2.5 hours apart, but he has a lot of ties to my city so it's not crazy for him to come here. but he's emotionally unavailable. he truly takes NO woman seriously right now, as he's 6 months out of a divorce. been married for 12 years. i'm still connected to him on social media. part of me wants to not be, but then i'd miss him like freaking crazy. ugh.
Author markleymassraff Posted March 31, 2015 Author Posted March 31, 2015 I wouldn't say he's holding me back or that I refuse to live life though. I've gone on two dates recently. They're just truly not attractive to me. And that's not even just "in comparison" to him. Even without him, they wouldn't have been attractive enough to me. It's not that I don't think I'll give other guys a chance with him around. It's that...damn I want him. It's frustrating not having him.
Hopeful30 Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 I think it depends on how much you can tolerate. A little disappointment when you see them? That's okay, but heartbreak, that's not. I'm into one guy on my street, but if he wasn't so cold suddenly, I would continue to be friendly with him. Because hey, you never know where life might go. Some time from now he could be single and we could hit it off.
Author markleymassraff Posted March 31, 2015 Author Posted March 31, 2015 We are not in direct contact with each other, which I think is good, because there's sexual tension between us that I want to stay. I don't mind us being friends as long as we're not truly friends -- we're ex-lovers who stay on each other's radar. He talks about other women in a group that I am also in. But it's purely in a "they're meaningless to me" way. So...it's minimally bothersome. I mean, I am also meaningless to him, but I think a little less meaningless, lol, than the other women who he hasn't known for as long. I'm in "yeah it sucks" mode. It doesn't kill me to still have him on my radar. It's frustrating and a little anguishing. I think it'd be worse if I had worse self-esteem though. I'm actually pretty confident; also attractive. So...it makes the "pain" of all this...less.
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