He asked me out but didn't bring it up to set a date yet or talk about it , why ?

[saraxsa]

met this guy about two weeks ago at the gym we spoke twice with him speaking first on both times. However the second time was his last day at the gym he was transferring over to another gym , he ended up asking me out i said yes but we didn't set a day.

 

Two days later ( last Thursday ) I decided to text him since he already made a move twice we texted a bit.

 

Yesterday I texted him in the morning asking how his weekend was he ended up replying in the evening saying sorry for the late reply I wasn't feeling well , we texted a bit then he said he was going to sleep since he's still feeling sick and that he'll catch me tomorrow ( which is today) he didnt text me today

 

I keep thinking that he's no longer going to bring going out up , I mean he did ask me out .

[SunnySide0418]

Don't text him again. If he wants to go out he knows your number. You've already initiated twice.. No more IMO.

[fitnessfan365]

First let me say that it's awesome a woman was actually receptive to being asked out at the gym. So many women consider it a cardinal dating sin. In fact, one of my favorite forms of irony, is when fit women that hate being approached in gyms, complain about out of shape men they meet online. If they'd be more receptive at the gym, maybe they'd meet a guy who's actually in shape..LOL

 

Unfortunately some guys are clueless. Any guy that's good with women would automatically know that you reaching out is your way of saying "ask me out", But instead of cutting to the chase and asking when you're free like you want him to, he wants to text endlessly with you. Why some guys do this is beyond me. I mean he has a hot woman contacting him, and he'd rather play with his phone.

[DoesntGetIt]

He's either lost interest for whatever reason, or is keeping you just close enough to call you up sometime when other options don't work out.

 

 

Don't bother with him.

 

 

And the wasn't feeling well combined with getting to bed early are the two things that I use as a fallback for when I don't want to be texting someone.

[d0nnivain]

I'm leaning toward giving up on him for being clueless but I'm more direct then that. So even at the risk of him being turned off my forwardness, I'd reach out & say,

when we last spoke you mentioned going out. Since you haven't set a date, I'

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wondering what you are doing on ______ . Would you like to meet me at _________ for a drink? My treat.

Since you are asking this time, you pay.

[katiegrl]

You already initiated two texts. How many has HE initiated? None.

 

Stop texting him. If he wants to go out with you, HE will get in touch and set a date and time.

 

Your over-zealousness this early on (before you have even had a date) may have turned him off ....

[d0nnivain]

You already initiated two texts. How many has HE initiated? None.

 

Stop texting him. If he wants to go out with you, HE will get in touch and set a date and time.

 

Your over-zealousness this early on (before you have even had a date) may have turned him off ....

 

 

While all of that is probably true, it's maddening. Some guy who thinks 2 texts initiated by a woman -- who he asked out without specifics -- is hardly over zealous. If he does think that he's not much of a man.

[Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646]

First let me say that it's awesome a woman was actually receptive to being asked out at the gym. So many women consider it a cardinal dating sin. In fact, one of my favorite forms of irony, is when fit women that hate being approached in gyms, complain about out of shape men they meet online. If they'd be more receptive at the gym, maybe they'd meet a guy who's actually in shape..LOL

 

Unfortunately some guys are clueless. Any guy that's good with women would automatically know that you reaching out is your way of saying "ask me out", But instead of cutting to the chase and asking when you're free like you want him to, he wants to text endlessly with you. Why some guys do this is beyond me. I mean he has a hot woman contacting him, and he'd rather play with his phone.

 

Oh god.. There's so much truth in this

 

OP I would just ignore him, you've showed your interest, apparently he's lost his.

[Gary S]

You are better off playing hard to get, it doubles attraction. So don't initiate texts, you have to wait for him to contact you for best results.

[katiegrl]

While all of that is probably true, it's maddening. Some guy who thinks 2 texts initiated by a woman -- who he asked out without specifics -- is hardly over zealous. If he does think that he's not much of a man.

 

I think it is considering he had not texted her even ONCE ....

 

I think sending one text is fine...and wait for him to respond back. If he doesn't oh well.

 

But to text him AGAIN?

 

Too much, and considering they had "just" met and had not even gone out yet...could be interpreted as over-eager and over-zealous.

 

JMO...

[mammasita]

It takes like 30 seconds to text. My thought is he's already involved/has a girlfriend. I'd let it go. If he was truly interested, you'd be hearing from him ALOT more.

[katiegrl]

It takes like 30 seconds to text. My thought is he's already involved/has a girlfriend. I'd let it go. If he was truly interested, you'd be hearing from him ALOT more.

 

ALOT more? She has not heard from him at all.

 

She texted him twice, and he essentially blew her off in the second.

 

To say he lost interest (if he ever was interested in the first place )..is an understatement.