bebegal Posted April 13, 2005 Posted April 13, 2005 I have a question. I do not have my pic on their but I tell people when I email them that I will send them a picture. I give them my email address. I also wink at them. Well they wink back but never email me for a picture. There is no point to wink back at someone if they have given you their email, right?? Im just wondering what these guys are doing.. still waiting for an email back( I gave them my hotmail address) confused pls explain
alphamale Posted April 13, 2005 Posted April 13, 2005 match.com is a total scam. someone who was affiliated with them told me they have "operatives" that put up totally fake profiles and pics in with the real ones.
Donut Posted April 13, 2005 Posted April 13, 2005 Are the winks free? Alot of people don't sign up properly and pay the subscription (in case their other half finds out when they look at the bank statement), also alot of the companies will delete e-mail addresses in your messages so you have to pay for the subscription. Maybe that's your answer. Some people would prefer the anonymity of chatting thru the site first, then decide to give out their address if they like you enough. Alot of guys (remember they're visually orientated) and girls won't bother with a profile if it doesn't have a picture on it. I've given up on internet dating myself, too many creepy people out there, or people just playing around for a laugh. I'm gonna do it the old fashioned way.
Spira Posted April 13, 2005 Posted April 13, 2005 I took the eharmony.com personality profile, and it basically told me that I was unfit for everyone in their database. Possibly entirely undatable. How depressing. lol!
willduggan Posted April 13, 2005 Posted April 13, 2005 heh same here, i took it twice even lol. eharmony seems like it doesnt work for us
laRubiaBonita Posted April 13, 2005 Posted April 13, 2005 you have to pay to get any emails. and they NEVER stop sending you spam!
Author bebegal Posted April 13, 2005 Author Posted April 13, 2005 deleting email address.. I didnt think of that..? I wonder if that is why these guys never email back...
josephanthony69 Posted April 13, 2005 Posted April 13, 2005 Messed up the last post. Try and sign up - free - for either ionthunder games or pogo games. Go to the uncensored rooms - check the chat (solitaire is great for watching chat - but watch out for the old timers playing with you and your mind - LOL). The meetings here are no better or no worse than those you might get from and of those "sign up free - meet your perfect match" sites. Those emails are not getting responded to because they end up with one of the "freebies" who can't respond. Intetestingly enuff - yahoo message boards, google blogs and craigslists are also not bad places to review either. All take a long time - but so does waiting. And there is some really funny stuff that goes on Good luck in your searches!!
alphamale Posted April 13, 2005 Posted April 13, 2005 Originally posted by bebegal deleting email address.. I didnt think of that..? I wonder if that is why these guys never email back... i know back a coupla yrs ago match.com would not even let you recieve emails from paying subscribers unless you were also a paying subscriber. don't kno if they still do this or not. their whole operation is smoke and mirrors.
Author bebegal Posted April 13, 2005 Author Posted April 13, 2005 i bet the guys im emailing arent even real people... it sounds to good to be true anyway.but im having such a hard time finding a respectable date these days Ill try anything. We arent as lucky as you alpha recieving so much attention
lost_in_chgo Posted April 13, 2005 Posted April 13, 2005 i bet the guys im emailing arent even real people. There are alot of pretenders just there for kicks. I took the eharmony.com personality profile, and it basically told me that I was unfit for everyone in their database. Possibly entirely undatable. How depressing. lol! Me too. Also I read somewhere that eharmony is a christian matching service that doesn't match non-christians. So if you same your aren't one or don't meet their religious criteria, you are rejected. match.com is a total scam. someone who was affiliated with them told me they have "operatives" that put up totally fake profiles and pics in with the real ones. There are other sites that do that too. Or the have operatives wink/flirt at you so you will sign up to respond. If you sign up with several accounts, the same operatives will message you within 24 hours to every account you create. So they either work for the company, are totally desparate, or are super sluts. Match is also set up for heavy affiliate sales, so you'll see theiur listing on other sites. You'll also see the same people listed twice, often with completely different photos and criteria, but the same text or a variant. The listing are coming from two different systems and ending up on one. Often with double fee payments involved. Then there's the russian mail order bride brokers that list their girls in every suburb of every major city. The internet is overrun with marketing people just looking to manipulate a dollar out of you. For every real person, there's probably a dozen marketing types trying to con you. On the other hand, you run into the occasional local person, just looking for someone to meet.
alphamale Posted April 13, 2005 Posted April 13, 2005 Originally posted by lost_in_chgo The internet is overrun with marketing people just looking to manipulate a dollar out of you. For every real person, there's probably a dozen marketing types trying to con you. about a year ago i responded to this ad. it turned out the chick had started a band and when men would respond she would say "oh, meet me next Friday at such-and-such bar cause I'll be playing there and we can talk between sets" she was just trying to get a following for her band and each nite she played like 10 or 15 guys would show up to meet her all the while buying drinks at the bar and making it look like her band was packing the place in with ppl. what a kunt!
moimeme Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 Boy you people love to believe in myths. I have a pal who's been on match com for a couple of years. She's mostly interested in dating with maybe something more down the road. She's met plenty of genuine men with good personalities and good credentials. As for eHarmony, I seriously doubt it's 'Christian' since it sent me plenty of 'matches' who weren't. I go to these sites and try out their tests because I'm a quizaholic and poke around but never reply (I know - however I doubt anybody's crushed about that) but there are plenty of real people on them. match.com is a total scam. someone who was affiliated with them told me they have "operatives" that put up totally fake profiles and pics in with the real ones. They may invent the 'profiles' in their ads, but why on earth bother having 'operatives' who make up fake profiles when they have a couple million members? I think your 'someone' was the scam. deleting email address.. I didnt think of that..? I wonder if that is why these guys never email back... If you read the agreements for those sites, you aren't supposed to put any identifying information in your emails. Yes, the computer will remove them.
westernxer Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 Originally posted by Spira I took the eharmony.com personality profile, and it basically told me that I was unfit for everyone in their database. Possibly entirely undatable. How depressing. lol! That's hilarious. I hope they refunded your money, Spira. I think Match sucks. Fake profiles, fake pictures... you can get the same thing for free on Craigslist.
lost_in_chgo Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale about a year ago i responded to this ad. it turned out the chick had started a band and when men would respond she would say "oh, meet me next Friday at such-and-such bar cause I'll be playing there and we can talk between sets" she was just trying to get a following for her band and each nite she played like 10 or 15 guys would show up to meet her all the while buying drinks at the bar and making it look like her band was packing the place in with ppl. what a kunt! The extreme form of that is called "undercover marketing" or "stealth marketing". Google it. Basically companies hire people to hang in bars and talk about how wonderful their product is. The guys think they are talking to someone that is actually interested in them. Until her shift is over and she goes home.
Impressive1 Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 I have an ad on match as well. I am not a paying member, but most guys figure out a way to give you their contact information without it being filtered.
brashgal Posted April 15, 2005 Posted April 15, 2005 I tried eharmony for awhile and I am not at all religious and was matched with many men who were not either (but some who were - hard to believe we'd be compatible). I know there are real people on Match.com, I've seen people I work with there - I've been unable to look at them the same way since...
alphamale Posted April 15, 2005 Posted April 15, 2005 Originally posted by brashgal I tried eharmony for awhile eharmony....what a total scam, 29 dimensions of compatability my ass! interntet sites are pretty much 80% bullshyt.
HoldOn Posted April 15, 2005 Posted April 15, 2005 I think your problem is lack of photo. Why don't you want to put one up? I doubt anyone you know will find you. Guys won't work hard to get to know you before they even know what you look like. don't know about match being a scam, but I have a friend who's marrying a guy she met on match. Wedding is in September.
Vicereine Posted April 15, 2005 Posted April 15, 2005 http://www.plentyoffish.com I found this site a few days after I was dumped, obviously wasn't interested in another relationship just yet but what I liked about that site was there are options for what you are looking for; friends, hang-out, long term, short term etc etc. I have met some nice friends from there, some lasted, some didn't. This site is also where I got to know the 2 guys I made a thread about on here. I also used to play pool on yahoo games and made a few friends there. As mentioned before, I think you should put a pic up.
norcaldivr Posted April 15, 2005 Posted April 15, 2005 I beg to differ about match.com. Two guys I work with met their spouses there and after seeing their sucess I tried my luck. Within a week I met a really wonderful person along with the usual number of duds. I also tried craigslist with some success as well. In general I think internet dating favors women because of the numbers. More men are on most of these sites therefore simple supply and demand. One Problem with craigslist is that it is extremely lopsided in the numbers. Women posting often get 50 responses. While this sounds like a great thing for women many of the replies are from totally desparate losers. In general internet dating has some pluses: -If your schedule makes it difficult to get out in the real world it is an efficient alternative. -You can learn something about the person before actually meeting, assuming their profile is accurate. For example I do not want children at this point in my life and most profiles include a question about that. And of course there are the minuses: -No way to guage chemistry until you actually meet the person -Profiles aren't always accurate -Many flakes and creeps. Overall I think it depends on you and your wants and needs. I'm sold on it because I have had success myself and know of others who have as well. Others may not share this view.
Hmm. Posted April 30, 2005 Posted April 30, 2005 I met my fiancee on match.com, and all the dates I went on from match.com before I met her were quite pleasant. If I hadn't met her and fallen in love I'd still be on match.com. Fortunately, I met the woman I'd always wanted and fantasized about when I least expected it! Yahoo personals,compared to match.com, wasn't such a good experience, and everyone I know who's tried eharmony was matched to someone out of their immediate geographical area. Who wants to long distance date? Some internet dating sites are dodgy, but doing research and knowing what your boundaries are will help you separate the wheat from the chaff. Success with internet dating requires knowing who you are and what you want in a mate before you even post a profile. I would add that not posting a photo is a mistake. I'd never respond to an and without a photo, but that's my personal belief. Others might not care, but the fact is a good photo is going to elicit more responses.
Anon16 Posted December 19, 2005 Posted December 19, 2005 The winking feature on dating sites is useless. Read this: http://www.oasisoflove.com/2/articles.php?id=8 Unless you have no privilege to send a real message, no point in winking.
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