Auspecial Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 Great point to consider, that would definitely be different. I think the point i was making is that with a MMF, only one of us would get enjoyment out if it. Not to say i dont care about her enjoyment, but id rather us both actually enjoy it, ya know? I agree that it excuses nothing, and ive told her that. Cheating is cheating regaurdless of gender. Having said that, she does tell me it doesnt matter that shes bi, because im her type and the relationship supersedes her previous sexuality, if that makes sense. I guess i could keep cautious tho. Okay, so I have a friend (and at this point I use that term loosely,) who: - says she is hetero and bi-curious - is married to a man who is strong but really does cow tow to her - says she does not like sex with him - continually starts up relationships with women, then starts an argument with husband, so they become "separated." Then she is "allowed" to engage in relations with these women, but tells the husband that she is just bi-curious and doesn't really "do anything." - continually starts up relationships with men, then starts an argument with husband, so they become "separated." Then she is "allowed" to engage in relations with these men, but tells husband that she is disenchanted with him, but not actually "doing anything."
Strength in Healing Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 Hands down, 100% a bad idea. Period. Stick with 2. 2
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 My first gf that I was with for a year (back when I was a dunce) said the same thing. She was all for a threesome and hinted that the 3rd person was going to be her female friend that I know. I knew that the experience was going to end the relationship so I decided to not do it. After a few months she broke up with me anyway. The reality is that a person never wants a third person involved unless they have low interest level with their current partner. Think about it, your' ereally into a girl, you're in a relationship for a while, would you want a third person (even another girl) in the picture? Of course no. Nobody wants to share someone that are into. But think if your not really into the person you're dating and you've dated a while, suddenly a third person doesn't sound so bad right? If I were you I would go for the threesome because you're relationship is going to be over anyway. Yup, I'd totally do it. If you're young, might as well cross this one off the bucket list, not everyone gets a shot at a threesome 1
Buddhist Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 Reading that, my impression is you are not on the same page at all. I actually think she has MMF in mind, especially pointing out her jealousy issues involving other women and her shyness at being naked in front of someone else. It sounds like her roundabout way of ruling out a MFF scenario, I could be wrong but that's the first thing that came to mind. She knows your straight but MMF doesn't always involve the two guys having sex with each other. I think before you go any further you need that frank discussion to truly see if you both have the same combination in mind, because if you don't this will go horribly wrong. My next suggestion is to involve a prostitute rather than either a random stranger or someone known to both of you. If she has jealousy issues with other women then you will need a woman who is certain to be there for reasons other than being attracted to you. If she's there for the money, there is less chance that of her forming an attachment to you and wanting to contact you after. If she truly is professional there will be no contact at all after payment has been made. If your gf agrees to MFF, then she will need this surety. Think long and hard about this. Is this fantasy experience worth risking your relationship over? Because by the way she is talking, it sounds likely that it could. 2
dreamingoftigers Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 I don't know about you, but I've lost count of the threads I've seen created by folks who have encountered various relationship explosions because of a threesome. If that's any indicator, it just doesn't seem to be worth the risk. That, and the fact that we're all a bunch of Puritans. Dammit, where's my bonnet? Just when a threesome thread pops up too..... 2
seekingpeaceinlove Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 I admit I've had my fair share of 3somes...but they were all with FWBs. I was exploring my sexuality with people I didn't have romantic feelings for and they were all great experiences. No jealousy, no possessiveness, just pure friendship and pleasure. I've never and could never share someone I truly loved. The risk wouldn't be worth the momentary pleasure. Just my 0.02. 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted April 1, 2015 Posted April 1, 2015 Look...as a guy you're not going to have many of these opportunities, unfortunately it's come your way in a relationship that is your first go, you're in lust with the girl, and quite more emotional than you should be, because little do you know this relationship isn't going to have any relevancy in your future and chances are the threesome will resonate a helluva lot more than the love you had, because by that time you'll see how young and immature and clueless you were at your age at pretty much everything. You should go for it, and take the chance...you're young, you've got a bi-sexual gf, and she's very curious and explorative. My advice to you is not be a emotional insecure basket case and take advantage of it as much as possible, have as much sex and threesomes as you can...because i can nearly guarantee this relationship isn't going to work out, and do not think you are sacrificing much over a threesome. You will both learn and grow from this, just learn as much as you can now...when you're older, people are going to expect you to have already have these experiences and they won't hold anything against you in your youth...they won't even care and neither will you. I know that might seem like a twisted reality, but don't take "love' too seriously when you're young...chances are you'll just end up getting hurt or burned. 1
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