mr_dave Posted March 30, 2015 Posted March 30, 2015 Hello everyone. I recently posted that I had been on a few dates with a lady who likes her alcoholic beverages. I've carried on dating her and am very pleased that I did, I'm rather smitten! We've had five very long dates so far over the last month, and this weekend when I asked where she'd like to meet up, she invited me round to hers to cook me dinner/to chill out. I spent the evening, the night, and the following morning with her. It was such an amazing time, I've never got on so well with anyone. We had sex, and despite some problems on my end, she was very affectionate towards me afterwards. I'd smeared and kissed off all her makeup, she had barely slept and her hair was a mess, but she got more and more captivating with every second that passed - I couldn't stop smiling at her. I'm in trouble.. She told me she's not dating anyone else. Unfortunately she has gone to visit her parents over the Easter holidays, and I won't see her for two weeks. I'm eager to see her again soon, and want to keep in contact until then, but I want to give her a chance to miss me too. So far I've been messaging her every other day, but as we've been intimate and she has a lot of interesting things lined up to do with her parents, should I message her more often? Thanks!
Redhead14 Posted March 30, 2015 Posted March 30, 2015 Hello everyone. I recently posted that I had been on a few dates with a lady who likes her alcoholic beverages. I've carried on dating her and am very pleased that I did, I'm rather smitten! We've had five very long dates so far over the last month, and this weekend when I asked where she'd like to meet up, she invited me round to hers to cook me dinner/to chill out. I spent the evening, the night, and the following morning with her. It was such an amazing time, I've never got on so well with anyone. We had sex, and despite some problems on my end, she was very affectionate towards me afterwards. I'd smeared and kissed off all her makeup, she had barely slept and her hair was a mess, but she got more and more captivating with every second that passed - I couldn't stop smiling at her. I'm in trouble.. She told me she's not dating anyone else. Unfortunately she has gone to visit her parents over the Easter holidays, and I won't see her for two weeks. I'm eager to see her again soon, and want to keep in contact until then, but I want to give her a chance to miss me too. So far I've been messaging her every other day, but as we've been intimate and she has a lot of interesting things lined up to do with her parents, should I message her more often? Thanks! No, I wouldn't do it more often, for sure. Every other day, is ok, I guess if she's responding. I'd a let a couple of days go by now at least though and if she contacts you, respond accordingly. When people are visiting their family, hopefully, they are involved with them and busy having fun. I would try not to intrude on that too much. Even if she responds. Wait until the evening she is scheduled to return and tell her you hope she had a great time and you'd like to schedule seeing her after she's settled back in. Offer a day a few days out. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted March 30, 2015 Posted March 30, 2015 When you're seeing someone that goes out of town (especially someone new), it's best to give them space so they can enjoy the trip. The last thing a person wants is someone keeping tabs and always checking in on them. So my advice would be to let her do most of the initiating. If 3-5 days go by and you haven't heard anything, you can send her a quick text. But for the most part, give her space. 1
Vintage79 Posted March 30, 2015 Posted March 30, 2015 When I've been in this type of situation (which was a while ago), it would usually be: I write an e-mail today, she responds tomorrow, I write another the day after...basically, take turns with the messages and alternate days. She's with her family, and given that she's there for 2 weeks, she likely doesn't see them often, so don't try to intrude, as regardless of how you feel about her, you barely know her and I would genuinely hope that her family gets priority. You'll find out pretty quick what her interest level is given her pace of communication - I'd say a message every 2-3 days from you is about right - as long as she's replying in between. More than that - well, probably not a great thing. Best of luck! 1
Author mr_dave Posted March 30, 2015 Author Posted March 30, 2015 Thanks everyone! I'll message her a bit later this evening - as it's the day afterwards. I'll keep it to every other day or so from then on though.
fitnessfan365 Posted March 30, 2015 Posted March 30, 2015 Thanks everyone! I'll message her a bit later this evening - as it's the day afterwards. I'll keep it to every other day or so from then on though. Since you've been messaging her, I'd recommend giving the woman some space. She isn't your GF and you just started seeing her. Let her send one to you on her own time frame. Then respond accordingly from there. 2
Author mr_dave Posted March 30, 2015 Author Posted March 30, 2015 Since you've been messaging her, I'd recommend giving the woman some space. She isn't your GF and you just started seeing her. Let her send one to you on her own time frame. Then respond accordingly from there. She did send me the last message though, which was yesterday evening to tell me she'd arrived there safely. I'd like to send her one message later today (it's the day after the morning after we slept together for the first time, surely I have to? ) then for the next two weeks I'll moderate it.
GTR King Posted March 30, 2015 Posted March 30, 2015 I would not text her all the time but every other day etc to show that your still interested.... if she text you last then text her back soon 1
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