preraph Posted March 30, 2015 Posted March 30, 2015 I dont get paranoia its just never effected me that way maybe in my starter years but not anymore no matter what kind I smoke its probably because ive grown comfortable with myself while being high while others feel frightful what people may see, I actually increased smoking a lot more when I realized it was giving me better outcomes then my anti depressants they weren't working and at times made me more depressed something about weed snapped me into normal mode, I feel more normal and not down all the time like I said before it effects people different ways, ive met some very active fun smokers and there's the type you describe where they cant even get up to go to the store because their just so out of it, even I as a smoker do not enjoy smoking with people who end up that way they just never want to do anything. My sister says something similar, but I've noticed when she gives in to the habit, she does less work and falls into more recreational things and is even more reclusive at the same time. So in her case, she may feel it makes her feel more normal, but it erodes her work ethic and is a detriment to her being very productive. It is different for different people, that's true. For example, I'm having trouble believing they're saying driving on pot isn't as dangerous as alcohol, because I was a much better driver on alcohol back in the day and my depth perception was all f'd up on pot and would sometimes think I saw pedestrians that weren't there, etc. So that blows my mind, but best I can tell, most people don't have that problem with it. Remember there's a gazillion different types of antidepressants and it usually takes trying some different types, different doses, and different combinations. And that's just for if you have a chemical depression, mostly. If it's emotional pain causing depression, therapy is best for that and maybe just a short round of antidepressants if the doc thinks so. Pot makes me worry about things. So for me, it was for when I was young and had no responsibilities, not for when I had survival to worry about and a living to make. Because I don't care what anyone says, yes, pot does have a hangover -- it just usually happens the same day.
preraph Posted March 30, 2015 Posted March 30, 2015 One thing ive noticed about weed ive never been able to smell it in my clothing no ones ever mentioned it to me either only when ive had it on my person in my bag have people said something and ive never been able to smell it on friends clothing either just in the air while its being smoked or they have it with them im not so sure it gets imbedded in clothing, I smell mine all the time before going out with family and it always just smells like the soap I use not weed. Im gonna ask one of my non smoker friends if they smell it in my clothes even when I have none on my person. Im interested in their answer You can smell it. It is very clingy. My sister for awhile had her boss coming over to pick up work and she thinks she's very clever and no one would smell that, but then I came over one day and the whole place reeked, and i told her anyone could smell it. You could spray febreeze on your clothes, but then you smell like Febreeze!
Phoe Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 I have friends who smoke pot and have no issues being friends with them, but I could never date someone who smokes pot. I don't smoke it and don't have any desire to. I once dated a man who smoked several times a week and my GOD him being stoned out of his mind constantly really wore on me. It seemed to make him not give a crap half the time, and I started to realize that there were lapses in time where he would forget entire conversations that we had, and then tell me that I was totally crazy and psycho and making up conversations that never existed, when in reality, he'd just forgotten them. Because he was high. Made me feel pretty darn insignificant. Not to mention my parents have smoked daily since before I was born, and as a child, sitting around alone at home while my parents locked themselves in their room and got stoned for a few hours, it felt pretty sad. Sometimes I felt really ignored, and like the case above, really insignificant. So, accordingly, I can't have marijuana in my life. 1
PogoStick Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 If she's my dream girl, as you say, then I'd probably still date her. But I agree that 3+ times a week is significant. If it was something done just once or twice a week, typically just once on Saturday while having fun, then I'd be fine with that. Other reasonable times would be while hanging out on the lake for a few hours in the summer, or at an evening bonfire with a bunch of friends. The biggest determining factor is her lifestyle and how it all fit together. At 3 times a week I would guess she is doing it to regulate some emotions, or general feeling of wellbeing. I'd rather her find cognitive ways to regulate herself and save the weed for occasional recreation. 1
Price2Play Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 36m here, I'd say 80% of my exs where occasional smokers. UGH, I'm just over the whole 'dependant' have to smoke woman. It's starting to turn me off. If you are not 'dependant' on it then that's fine but please remember conversations that we previously had. I burned out many many years ago, just makes me uncomfortable, alittle anxiety, goofy a f*ck, thirsty and horny. I'm already a horn dog enough as it is.
Auspecial Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 My opinion on this depends on two things: 1) Is she child-bearing age? 2) Would she be committed to stopping at least three months before conceiving? In other words, is she fully aware and on-board about the dangers of dna mutations with young bodies? Although I have no interest in pot, I have nothing against it except in this area. I'm not saying you are about to have children, but its a concern I would want to be clear on, if I were a young male looking to date a young woman.
Krieger Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 I am going to be honest is i dated a girl and we had a kid I use the fact that she smokes pot to get my kid full time. I set her up and show the judge that she is an unfit mother even if she does it occasionally. I will turn her world up side down and not look back. All is far in love and war and I would really not interested in being a part time or weekend dad. Yea that might be a D bag move but like I said I will do what i have to do in that situation.
preraph Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 That's a D bag move okay, one that's against your child's best interest. The kid needs a mom worse than it needs anything else, and you unfairly deprived your kid of that and should be ashamed. 2
Krieger Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 That's a D bag move okay, one that's against your child's best interest. The kid needs a mom worse than it needs anything else, and you unfairly deprived your kid of that and should be ashamed. Well if she neglecting the child and getting high or getting drunk the child deserves better than that IMO. I have family members that smoke pot and raising kids and there kids did not turn out ok. When you growing pot and get busted by the ATF and hanging out with the Graetfull Dead the band. Like I said I would never date a girl that smokes pot in the first place.
Auspecial Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 Well if she neglecting the child and getting high or getting drunk the child deserves better than that IMO. I have family members that smoke pot and raising kids and there kids did not turn out ok. When you growing pot and get busted by the ATF and hanging out with the Graetfull Dead the band. Like I said I would never date a girl that smokes pot in the first place. As I said, I am not interested in pot myself. I tried it when I was a teen and it just made me sleepy. But, there are many out there who just take a toke every now and again. Plus of course those who truly medically need it. If I were a young man looking to date a young woman, I wouldn't worry about a person who toked 1-2 times a month. Twice/week, I would want to know if they were aware of possible dna mutations associated, and fully on board with stopping at least three months prior to conception.
Auspecial Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 Well if she neglecting the child and getting high or getting drunk the child deserves better than that IMO. I have family members that smoke pot and raising kids and there kids did not turn out ok. When you growing pot and get busted by the ATF and hanging out with the Graetfull Dead the band. Like I said I would never date a girl that smokes pot in the first place. Apparently you have had a particularly bad experience and in that case it is very reasonable that you would never date someone who smokes it.
preraph Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 Well if she neglecting the child and getting high or getting drunk the child deserves better than that IMO. I have family members that smoke pot and raising kids and there kids did not turn out ok. When you growing pot and get busted by the ATF and hanging out with the Graetfull Dead the band. Like I said I would never date a girl that smokes pot in the first place. Well, maybe you won't date one, but you apparently got one pregnant and then retaliated by ripping her heart out and taking her child. I hope she's not so stupid she lets you get away with this. All she has to do is follow court instructions to regain custody. A father who is that callous isn't a good role model or providing a good environment either. You said yourself you set her up. Sounds to me like you were thinking more of yourself than the child and I hope you realize how wrong that was one of these days and make it right. You broke a sacred union there for what sounds to me very little reason and you did it with a lie and set her up. Your kid will not thank you for that once he/she is old enough to figure it out.
GravityMan Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 I've got no moral issues with pot, and back in college I lived and partied with likable roommates who smoked weed. It was back then that I realized that the entire "war on drugs" is a load of crap. That said, I'd still prefer a woman who didn't smoke it. Not a big fan of the smell. However I've got a bigger problem with folks who abuse prescription drugs such as Adderall and Xanax...which a lot of younger people do. I believe 50-60% of all people have smoked pot at least once or twice in their lives. Including many highly intelligent and successful lawyers, doctors, CEOs and politicians. It will only be a matter of time before (a) pot is legal nationwide and (b) it will be the NORM, not the exception that people will smoke pot at least every once in awhile. May as well prepare to get used to it, folks.
Krieger Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 Apparently you have had a particularly bad experience and in that case it is very reasonable that you would never date someone who smokes it. I just been there do that and it did not do anything for me. On top of that I am not in the 7th grade any more I got things to do. I am far from straight edge I done my share of drugs way harder than pot but I know I can't touch the stuff and just lost interest in getting high there more to life than drugs and drinking. I know some people can function on pot good for them but a lot of people can't. All I am going say is this there us a football player at the nfl combine that failed a drug test for pot and was going to be drafted in the top 5 in the draft now he going to fall into the teens and it will end up costing him millions . Sorry to say pot not worth it if it is going to cost you in the ballpark of 10 million dollars .
Krieger Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 As I said, I am not interested in pot myself. I tried it when I was a teen and it just made me sleepy. But, there are many out there who just take a toke every now and again. Plus of course those who truly medically need it. If I were a young man looking to date a young woman, I wouldn't worry about a person who toked 1-2 times a month. Twice/week, I would want to know if they were aware of possible dna mutations associated, and fully on board with stopping at least three months prior to conception. It just way to much of a headache to date a girl that smokes once a week or month .
Krieger Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 Well, maybe you won't date one, but you apparently got one pregnant and then retaliated by ripping her heart out and taking her child. I hope she's not so stupid she lets you get away with this. All she has to do is follow court instructions to regain custody. A father who is that callous isn't a good role model or providing a good environment either. You said yourself you set her up. Sounds to me like you were thinking more of yourself than the child and I hope you realize how wrong that was one of these days and make it right. You broke a sacred union there for what sounds to me very little reason and you did it with a lie and set her up. Your kid will not thank you for that once he/she is old enough to figure it out. Well I do not have any kids but i would not sit there and let her have everything and I do not get to see my kid and have to pay for her drug habit.
Weezy1973 Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 I technically wouldn't care - but, I've never hung around with anybody, or was raised in a "pot smoking" environment. None of my friends smoke pot, so I suspect I wouldn't have much in common with them - or at least enough differences to not pursue a relationship.
neowulf Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 No, I would not date a woman who smoked pot (on a regular basis). 1) I'm not convinced it's as "harmless" as people tend to believe it is. We haven't really done anywhere near enough study into it. Look how long it took to prove cigarettes were bad for your health. 2) There's something, very unsettling to me, about the regular use of recreational drugs. Not sure what it is. Maybe I'm just judgemental. I've managed to make it this far in life without touching drugs, so perhaps it's just a lifestyle choice. 1
contact1 Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 I wouldn't, due to how much I attest smoking. I just honestly can not be around it. And you can always tell when someone smokes, the smell can get in the clothes or hair. I have nothing against it, and support pot being legalized, but as far as a partner, it's a dealbreaker for me, just like smoking cigs.
yankees51988 Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 (edited) Ummm yeah. It has no impact at all in my book. I don't smoke but it isn't bad and less harmful than alcohol. Go ahead and light em up. It's legal where I live anyway, but illegal or not doesn't matter because there is no reason it should be illegal anyway. Pot is just pot, it's no different (and not as bad) as having a drink- it's not like they are smoking meth, lol. I usually smell someone smoking every weekend if I am at a party or at a concert since so many people here smoke. I don't smoke but if someone is smoking a joint right next to me I don't mind. Nobody I really know smokes and just sits on the couch, they will smoke and then climb a 14,000 foot mountain or go skiing/snowboarding so it doesn't really seem to affect people I know much. Smoking or not smoking pot makes absolutely no difference to me at all. Edited March 31, 2015 by yankees51988
SmartDude Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 Woman who smokes pot a few times a week? Absolutley no problem. Woman who has a few glasess of wine per week, along with a bunch of red meat and other foods that age her prematurley? NO F'ING WAY, DONT EVEN TOUCH ME. Pot is a good alternative to alchohol. Alchohol is the silent killer. It is the underlying cause for most health problems in americans, besides stress. 1
ltjg45 Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 Those are valid reasons even though they don't apply to many smokers. But lemme ask you this then: she's ideal for you. Everything you wanted in a woman, but she smokes occasionally. Still a no? Nope. I would still pass. Like tattoos, smoking of any kind is also a deal breaker. I am sure she will find another guy though. Seems like smoking makes people "cool" these days. Good thing I could give two craps about being "cool".
LookAtThisPOst Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 Let's say moderately, so a few times a week. And no, she isn't the stereotype, she's just a regular girl who you would otherwise have no idea she smokes until she tells you. Thoughts? Nope not at all, and they are a candidate of being fired from their employer should they ever administer a little unannounced pee test.
TaxAHCruel Posted March 31, 2015 Posted March 31, 2015 I personally see no reason why not. As it happens me and my partners do smoke but highly rarely. We get given some free on occasion by students of my meditation guidance classes and a few other things. Most of it I pass on. Once every 3 or 4 months however we indulge in some of it.
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