rebel Posted March 30, 2015 Posted March 30, 2015 Basically that... Does anyone have some idea of strategies or techniques to stop thinking about her? Been 2 and a half months and even though I can function, go to work everyday, go to therapy, work through the grief etc, she is alllllways on my mind and everything is a trigger. Even fully excepting it is over STILL results in thoughts and feelings. I want to either NOT think about her, or figure out a way to make her as 'important' as any old ex that jumps in to your brain, then pops out just as easy. Someone must know...
Reality015 Posted March 30, 2015 Posted March 30, 2015 Basically that... Does anyone have some idea of strategies or techniques to stop thinking about her? Been 2 and a half months and even though I can function, go to work everyday, go to therapy, work through the grief etc, she is alllllways on my mind and everything is a trigger. Even fully excepting it is over STILL results in thoughts and feelings. I want to either NOT think about her, or figure out a way to make her as 'important' as any old ex that jumps in to your brain, then pops out just as easy. Someone must know... Basically keep doing what you're doing. I assume you have not been in contact with her in any shape or form for the past 2 and a half months? Just keep reminding yourself that you are coming closer to healing everyday you don't have any contact with her. This is a little affirmation I read everyday to myself "After your breakup, if you sit quietly & listen to your inner voice, you will hear hope inside. This hope is telling you that you will feel better, that you will live once again with passion & that you will experience love again. The information you are being sent from your mind is based on your history & the fact you have overcome obstacles in the past. Your mind remembers the times when you have faced adversity & have come out the other side stronger & brighter. Your heart is speaking out of fear, listen to your mind - it has a strong basis for giving you hope"
Author rebel Posted March 30, 2015 Author Posted March 30, 2015 Great quote! thanks! We are having NC now but haven't been the whole time (were sorting out lease - landlord issues etc). Veeeery difficult because I went out with her years ago and never got over her, found her again so when I think about 'hope', I see how it didnt get better last time and thats what I compare things too.
Reality015 Posted March 30, 2015 Posted March 30, 2015 Great quote! thanks! We are having NC now but haven't been the whole time (were sorting out lease - landlord issues etc). Veeeery difficult because I went out with her years ago and never got over her, found her again so when I think about 'hope', I see how it didnt get better last time and thats what I compare things too. NC is your friend so try & stick to it http://www.breakuprecoveryguide.com/NoContact
MarkV Posted March 30, 2015 Posted March 30, 2015 I was with a girl for 7 years and we broke up. I was in a rock bottom place and my self esteem was smashed. I booked a trip to work in an orphanage in Africa for a week helping sick children. I know it sounds a bit random but it shifted my mind set completely and when I got back I realised that there is more to life and it's her loss that she couldn't share the memories with me anymore. Even though we didn't break up on bad terms, getting out of the environment and doing something just for YOU really does help,good luck
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