Apaige Posted March 30, 2015 Posted March 30, 2015 Looking for thoughts and feedback. What do you all think of a "commitment" ring at 41? I think it's a little Juvenal! Is it a sign that he/she will ever take the leap? Divorces on both ends, living 30 minutes a part, each have children...not sure what to tell my GF my thoughts on this. I am very happy for her, but a little confused bc I thought teenagers did this sort of thing.
purplesorrow Posted March 30, 2015 Posted March 30, 2015 I agree, juvenile. Is this like a pre-engagement ring? Do you have future plans to marry? 3
Author Apaige Posted March 30, 2015 Author Posted March 30, 2015 I agree, juvenile. Is this like a pre-engagement ring? Do you have future plans to marry? Well, I really don't know. One of my girl friends received the ring from her boyfriend.
mammasita Posted March 30, 2015 Posted March 30, 2015 It's very high school UNLESS it has a fat diamond, does it? JK Maybe neither of them are ready for another marriage and this is just a sign of commitment. I'd ask her simply because id be curious. You can be congratulatory yet inquisitive. 1
purplesorrow Posted March 30, 2015 Posted March 30, 2015 Well, I really don't know. One of my girl friends received the ring from her boyfriend. What purpose does it serve? Buy more time to not get engaged? 2
rester Posted March 30, 2015 Posted March 30, 2015 Maybe he's trying to "claim" her and keep other men away from her. Is she expected to wear it on her left ring finger? I do know women that wear rings on their left ring finger to avoid getting hit on, but the idea of a guy buying a ring for a woman for this reason is odd and possessive. 1
Gloria25 Posted March 30, 2015 Posted March 30, 2015 Isn't this the "friendship" ring I heard about decades ago? People still doing stuff like this? 1
Pinkdisney Posted March 30, 2015 Posted March 30, 2015 How long have they been dating? I don't think it's juvenile, but it also sort of depends if they are planning on remarriage or this is just their version of a commitment. Has your friend mentioned she's waiting for a proposal? At least they're not jumping head first into another marriage right away with children in the picture - honestly that's a GOOD thing.
carhill Posted March 30, 2015 Posted March 30, 2015 OP, that's unheard of in my social circle, regardless of age. We have 'engagement rings'. Now, if the parties are of a mind to never get married and wish to display a commitment symbol, I guess I could see traction for such a ring. My friends who live together, AFAIK, have never worn rings on the traditional wedding ring finger. In fact, much to my chagrin over the decades, plenty of married people don't either!
amaysngrace Posted March 30, 2015 Posted March 30, 2015 I got one before and thought it was sweet at the time. My daughter shcoffed that from me and sometimes wears it now. 1
veggirl Posted March 30, 2015 Posted March 30, 2015 OMG NO. That's what the Mormon teenagers in my high school gave each other. Whats the point in a promise ring? Either you're engaged or not. If you want to be engaged, get engaged. 4
xxoo Posted March 30, 2015 Posted March 30, 2015 Looking for thoughts and feedback. What do you all think of a "commitment" ring at 41? I think it's a little Juvenal! Is it a sign that he/she will ever take the leap? Divorces on both ends, living 30 minutes a part, each have children...not sure what to tell my GF my thoughts on this. I am very happy for her, but a little confused bc I thought teenagers did this sort of thing. Maybe they don't plan to marry, and this is simply symbolic and meaningful for them. Did she get one for him, too? 1
Justanaverageguy Posted March 30, 2015 Posted March 30, 2015 Maybe they don't plan to marry, and this is simply symbolic and meaningful for them. Did she get one for him, too? Yeah that's what I was thinking. If they have both been married before and are in their 40's its quite possible they don't want to go through all the marriage drama ever again. The ring is then perhaps then just symbolic gesture between the two of their commitment to each other - which I think is actually nice. If on the other hand they are looking to get married again and its a pre-engagement ring type deal then its super weird. 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted March 30, 2015 Posted March 30, 2015 I'm not sure why everyone is so disturbed by this...geez. Personally, I don't have an issue with it. Unless this girl wants and is expecting to marry this guy some day, I can see why people have their knickers in a twist. If she doesn't have any kind of plans to formally marry him then who cares what it's called or how juvenile it seems? If it means something to the couple that's all that matters. As someone who has no plans to marry again BUT still believes in monogamy and LTR, I'd be open to wearing a commitment ring. Why not? Marriage and that piece of paper guarantees NOTHING in the end. You're either committed to each other or your not. It just depends on where the couple stands on the issue of marriage and the intention behind the ring.
No Limit Posted March 30, 2015 Posted March 30, 2015 Are those rings those edible ones, like these edible necklaces and stuff? If yes buy her 5 packages of them. 1
Gloria25 Posted March 30, 2015 Posted March 30, 2015 My issue with "friendship", "commitment", or whatever rings is I'm tired of people trying to redefine commitment, love, trust, etc - especially when they want to refine it with silly stuff like a "friendship" ring. Look, commitment is when a man marries you...PERIOD. Living together is what "married" people do - not shack-ups. Buying jewelry as a form of showing love, appreciation - cool, I get it. But getting some "friendship" ring to replace the meaning of an "engagement" ring and/or "wedding ring/band", IMO is just taking it too far. I mean, people scoff at tradition and how things were done a certain way and want to redefine it, cuz of their little whims and/or cuz they can't get what they really want (a wedding ring) so, they take scaps (friendship ring) and hype it up so they don't feel bad that dude won't marry them. 1
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