Thaddius Posted March 29, 2015 Posted March 29, 2015 I met a girl online two months ago and I feel crazy comfortable with her. In the last few weeks we've progressed to texting everyday and talking every night. Time honestly just flies when im with her. A week ago she asked me "with the relationship we have now, are you ok with us still seeing other people or do you not want that and only see each other". I've kind of just been enjoying our time together and havent though about anything more so I replied with "yeah, sure thats cool. we can still see other people". (I was under the impression that she still wanted to see others). We still have a blast talking the next few days but then this past Friday, she told me that, that night she wanted me to say that we we'rent gonna see other people and just each other. But because I said it was ok, despite being upset, she eventually accepted it and also accepted a date with a guy whos been asking her out for a while. I thought about this for a while and processed the last 2 months we've shared together and realized that I really like this woman. I also eventually concluded that she wants me to make a move. 2 days later, I told her that I want to change my answer and that I dont want us to see other people and that I dont want her to go on a date with the guy. She was really happy and said that she feels the same way about me the way I feel about her. So, we're not seeing other people anymore. The only problem is that she feels really bad about canceling on the guy she made prior arrangements with. She a very shy girl and is very bad at confrontation. She cant work up the courage to cancel on the guy and even offered to let me do it for her. (I said she should do it). The date is in about 5 days and Im not sure how to feel about it. Inputs?
fitnessfan365 Posted March 29, 2015 Posted March 29, 2015 If I already had a date, I'll be tactfully honest. If I got multiple numbers in real life pick up, and I want to drop one, I'll be tactfully honest. But online is a different story man. People get accusatory, upset, etc when you try to cancel before meeting. So if I want to get out of an online date, I pull the "needy weirdo" routine. Two texts is all it takes. "I can't stop thinking about you!!!!" Then 30-60 minutes later, I send "Why haven't you responded yet??!!" This results in a woman cancelling on me EVERY TIME. That way she keeps her ego intact and thinks that she is avoiding yet another online creeper. So if she doesn't want to cancel on the guy, just have her send consecutive texts proclaiming her love, etc and get him to back out.
Auspecial Posted March 29, 2015 Posted March 29, 2015 She's just going to have to take the leap and do it. "Sorry but I decided to be exclusive with someone I've been seeing." 2
Versacehottie Posted March 30, 2015 Posted March 30, 2015 i don't see why if she had the courage to ask you to be exclusive, why she can't tell this guy she doesn't want to go out with him. You shouldn't do it for her (that's lame and no need to be disrespectful to that guy). But you can do something cute together with her where you help her practice how to do it. Honestly, harder prob over phone but assuming it's a text, there is nothing hard about it.
Redhead14 Posted March 30, 2015 Posted March 30, 2015 I met a girl online two months ago and I feel crazy comfortable with her. In the last few weeks we've progressed to texting everyday and talking every night. Time honestly just flies when im with her. A week ago she asked me "with the relationship we have now, are you ok with us still seeing other people or do you not want that and only see each other". I've kind of just been enjoying our time together and havent though about anything more so I replied with "yeah, sure thats cool. we can still see other people". (I was under the impression that she still wanted to see others). We still have a blast talking the next few days but then this past Friday, she told me that, that night she wanted me to say that we we'rent gonna see other people and just each other. But because I said it was ok, despite being upset, she eventually accepted it and also accepted a date with a guy whos been asking her out for a while. I thought about this for a while and processed the last 2 months we've shared together and realized that I really like this woman. I also eventually concluded that she wants me to make a move. 2 days later, I told her that I want to change my answer and that I dont want us to see other people and that I dont want her to go on a date with the guy. She was really happy and said that she feels the same way about me the way I feel about her. So, we're not seeing other people anymore. The only problem is that she feels really bad about canceling on the guy she made prior arrangements with. She a very shy girl and is very bad at confrontation. She cant work up the courage to cancel on the guy and even offered to let me do it for her. (I said she should do it). The date is in about 5 days and Im not sure how to feel about it. Inputs? She cant work up the courage to cancel on the guy and even offered to let me do it for her. Seriously? She has the courage to accept a date even though she's shy, but can't get out of one and asked you to do it? Do you want to be the one who does EVERYTHING for her? There is much more going on with her than shyness . . . In addition, deciding not to see anyone else based on only online, texting communications? Im not sure how to feel about it -- no one can tell you how to "feel' about anything. In this case, use your head -- a woman asks you to cancel a date for her? HUGE redflag. But, if you are that interested, go on the date and pay attention, don't get anymore invested in this.
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