ADHD, Dyslexia and PTSD How to Deal with Someone Like This When Dating?

[sunshinesunshine]

I really hate to say this, but some people with mental problems are not a good catch.

 

Just because they are beautiful and breathing does not mean they are good relationship material.

 

But everyone deserves love and happiness and should be accepted for who they are no? You guys know there are couples or married couples out there that deal with these situations or worse cases and live happy lives together etc.

[sunshinesunshine]

Don't do it.

 

You're seeing the good inside there somewhere, hoping that with you, he'll get better... right?

 

I lost 12 years of my life falling for the same mental illness trap only to have it all blow up at the end after putting my soul into helping and putting up with it.

 

If you value your happiness and positive outlook on life, you'll avoid the mistake i made.

 

Run

 

How did you get trapped? Why did you stick around for 12 years if you were so unhappy with what was going on?

[sunshinesunshine]

That guy and I have been dating/getting to know each other for 3 months and are now a couple!

[ExpatInItaly]

That guy and I have been dating/getting to know each other for 3 months and are now a couple!

 

You sound happy, so that's good. And how is he getting on with his issues? Have things quieted down a bit for you?

 

To be quite honest, I think you were going to proceed with this relationship regardless of what posters here said. But I do hope you heed some of our cautions and advice. Many of us speak from experience. If he truly struggles as much as he says he does, you are going to need a boatload of patience and self-respect. Use your judgement wisely and never allow him to use his conditions to excuse bad behaviour. You should be researching and reading up on his problems and seeking advice from others who have had relationships mental illness-sufferers. It's not an easy road and you need to be prepared.

 

Best of luck to you both.

[dreamingoftigers]

But I do think him and I are a good match and I have been putting up with him and these issues for the past 2 months now almost 3 months and lately he's been doing fine. So I think it can work just need to be patient as you said.

 

You'll be completely exhausted by it eventually.

 

PTSD sucks in and of itself.

 

Untreated ADHD can easily cause a death knell to a relationship.

 

At 2 to 3 months you guys should be kicking off the honeymoon stage, not saying things like "putting up with him" and "just need to be patient."

 

This isn't your child throwing a temper tantrum. This is an adult you are looking at as a potential partner.

[sunshinesunshine]

Things have calmed down and are going fine now. And I have been doing research and will be talking to others soon.

[Gary S]

But everyone deserves love and happiness and should be accepted for who they are no? You guys know there are couples or married couples out there that deal with these situations or worse cases and live happy lives together etc.

 

- If you would rather be someone's counselor than have a healthy and happy relationship, it's no skin off my back. But please don't have any kids, we don't need anymore broken families.