lana-banana Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 Parents are calling the cops on each other and you think the kids are fine and dandy? You don't need Johnny; you need your head examined. Johnny made it clear he doesn't want to be with you. Dating shouldn't even be on your mind until you're officially separated and the children are safe. I doubt you're half as good at hiding your feelings as you seem to believe, and even if you were, children are profoundly affected by watching their parents suffer. You really think this isn't going to phase them? You are looking at a tangle with law enforcement, possibly a criminal record, and your response is "I need Johnny". Your priorities are so out of whack I don't know where to start. 9
Simon Phoenix Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 Dear all, I had to delete my last post here as something very serious happened last week. I was busy trying to overcome the Shock stage. My husband reported me to the police. I won't tell much about this, because the cause is still pending. He asked me for forgiveness and it's terrible ashamed of what he's done. He said he acted out of impulse and that he had no real intentions. So, I'm dealing with that, now he's in a depression and he's not going to work. I need all this to finish so I can move on with my life. I want the divorce as soon as possible. Kids are alright, because I'm strong for them. On the other side, I miss Johnny and the stupid relationship we had. I understand, though, it may be over. I've blocked him last Monday when he encouraged me, again, to date others. He also told me: "should I be honest with you or should I string you along more?" Yes, he said that. Still, I can't get over this. I do think it's an escape from my horrible situation. I need him. Very sad days. Very difficult days ahead as well. No, you don't need Johnny and your fake relationship with him. You need to get your sh*t together and focus on the divorce and your kids. Your priorities suck. 3
xxoo Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 irresolute, what are your coping mechanisms? What do you do when things get stressful to help you find your center and peace? How do you deal with your anxiety, sadness, fear, etc? 2
Diezel Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 irresolute, what are your coping mechanisms? What do you do when things get stressful to help you find your center and peace? How do you deal with your anxiety, sadness, fear, etc? She posts on Loveshack. That seems to be about it. 3
ZiggyZoo Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 My mom always said, "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all", so I'm keeping my damn mouth shut. I'm with the others, get your sh*t together for your kids' sake. God, I can't even wrap my head around this mess. I very seriously doubt that you're as strong as your kids need you to be either. You mention them in passing in one sentence, and write EIGHT about Johnny and how you guys "may" be over. If this is at all indicative of your thought process and your priorities, then those kids would be better off with a stable environment where the adults in the house aren't so wrapped up in futile relationships or so depressed that they can't go to work. Or calling the cops on each other... What, really, could your Johnny do anyway? Is he going to swoop in and rescue you all from this mess? 2
TunaCat Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 Legitimate question: What's more important, your kids or this Johnny? Seriously you write a ton about this Johnny, but your kids are barely mentioned. Crappy priorities much? Your kids need to be the most important thing. You made a promise to those kids when you brought them into the world. You promised to protect them and shield them from harm. You aren't doing that. Focus on the kids. Forget Johnny.
Author irresolute Posted April 6, 2015 Author Posted April 6, 2015 I'm trying to keep the routine as always for the kids. I can't do anything (divorce) for the next two weeks, until I know what my legal situation is. Trying to maintain the sanity. I already have a family attorney for the divorce, and we tentatively arranged 50% of the custody. We are doing (at least me, can't speak for him) the best for the kids. Johnny can't save me. He's gone, I know. My like has changed, radically this last two weeks. I'm trying to be strong.
Author irresolute Posted April 6, 2015 Author Posted April 6, 2015 Legitimate question: What's more important, your kids or this Johnny? Seriously you write a ton about this Johnny, but your kids are barely mentioned. Crappy priorities much? Your kids need to be the most important thing. You made a promise to those kids when you brought them into the world. You promised to protect them and shield them from harm. You aren't doing that. Focus on the kids. Forget Johnny. If you can't say something supportive, don't say anything. who are you to say I'm not doing the best for my kids?
Author irresolute Posted April 6, 2015 Author Posted April 6, 2015 Goodbye you all. thank you simon, Zahara, and all the others who helped me.
Rejected Rosebud Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 I'm trying to keep the routine as always for the kids. What is your routine??:confused: I have to ask because according to the "irresolute" I know on LS you spend a LOT of time on Adult Friend Finder, going on dates, having sex somewhere (at your house???), and even being mad and indignant when a guy from Adult Friend Finder seems to be "hiding" you on the street!!! And you are a mom with a routine??? Tell us the truth PLEASE, even the fact that you are using that model's pictures in your album labeled "me" makes it really hard to know what to believe and what parts you are making up!! 1
DrReplyInRhymes Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 Dear all, I had to delete my last post here as something very serious happened last week. I was busy trying to overcome the Shock stage. My husband reported me to the police. I won't tell much about this, because the cause is still pending. He asked me for forgiveness and it's terrible ashamed of what he's done. He said he acted out of impulse and that he had no real intentions. So, I'm dealing with that, now he's in a depression and he's not going to work. I need all this to finish so I can move on with my life. I want the divorce as soon as possible. Kids are alright, because I'm strong for them. On the other side, I miss Johnny and the stupid relationship we had. I understand, though, it may be over. I've blocked him last Monday when he encouraged me, again, to date others. He also told me: "should I be honest with you or should I string you along more?" Yes, he said that. Still, I can't get over this. I do think it's an escape from my horrible situation. I need him. Very sad days. Very difficult days ahead as well. What did your husband report you for, what were his grounds? How can a man report you if he's the guilty one, from what it sounds? Forget Johnny, its evident he doesn't really care, Your escape from reality was fantasy itself, stop with the affair. Permission to speak candidly, as I'm a bit frustrated by you, But is it possible you are actually the crazy one, and your husband is true? It sounds like you had an affair, and he eventually found out, Now he's filing charges against you, and you want an easy out. I have nothing to say further, I'm so confused by your words, And for the people who truly try to help, they are just swallowing big turds. Be true to yourself, **** what everyone else thinks. And improve your situation, your current one stinks. 2
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