megan4321 Posted March 28, 2015 Posted March 28, 2015 (edited) My boyfriend moved into my house last March but moved out in January and took himself back to his home town. Things had gone a bit array with us. He said that it was his hope that we could work things out, I was unsure. He didn't get in contact with me until last Monday. The beginning of March I met and started dating a new man but I said right from the start that I'm fine with meeting up as friends and just see how it goes. I have purposely keep things very cool with him. I don't want to rush into anything. Situation now. Boyfriend is moving back to my town and wants to meet up and start again. He says he wants only me that he loves me and we are really a great team together. I love him to bits but he has a problem with drink. I told him before he left that if he stayed off the drink and had continued support which would be for the rest of his like then we could start again, initially as friends. He says he is moving back to my town with the hope that we can be together again (he does know that I wont have him back here until I know for sure that the drink has gone!! for good). New boyfriend is getting very keen and making it clear he really would like more than just friends. He wants to see me more, is suggesting things well in advance, has moaned that I don't text him enough etc. in a nice way. I like him, he seems a good guy. I'm feeling a bit tetchy about this. I was going to, this evening, tell boyfriend 2 that I couldn't see him, I had rehearsed what I was going to say. He was so lovely and so pleased to see me I bottled. I don't know what to do? Edited March 29, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator paragraphs
d0nnivain Posted March 29, 2015 Posted March 29, 2015 Go forward in life, not backwards. Your EX already proved himself to be flaky. Who goes through all the expense, stress & drama to move for 4 months? You also don't care for his drinking. New guy seems to have more potential. See where that leads.
Pinkdisney Posted March 29, 2015 Posted March 29, 2015 Go forward in life, not backwards. Your EX already proved himself to be flaky. Who goes through all the expense, stress & drama to move for 4 months? You also don't care for his drinking. New guy seems to have more potential. See where that leads. x2. Bf#1 is flaky and it sounds like the new guy is into you.
badpenny Posted March 29, 2015 Posted March 29, 2015 If you buy a pair of shoes and they don't fit, no matter how much you stretch them, polish them, oil them, try to wear them in, they're never going to be 100% comfortable, so why go back to them? I'm in agreement with the others. Never mind that the ex is more 'familiar'. he's also an alcohol addict. If he drank, he will always WANT to drink, even if he seems to slow down/stop. That's no way to live. Wondering if..... you contact the ex and you tell him there's no going back, you're moving forward and have met someone else. Wish him well, but you won't be seeing him when and if he visits. But you must be firm and not leave him with any impression this is a 'possible'. This is a 'definite'. Then cut off all contact. But all of it. For good.
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