He acts caring and protective, but always gave me the vibe that he doesn't like me?

[Ashley S]

Hi everyone! So, I can't even really call this guy a friend (Jerry), but I am 21 years old, and he's 33 years old, I think. He has a wife named Naomi. Anyways, Jerry knows my dad because he use to work for him, and they kept in touch. I would sometimes go to his little house parties he had, but not all the time. Well, he always invited me and my brother to his parties, but he wouldn't pay much attention to me when I was there, which is fine! I am just saying that he gave me the impression that he really didn't like me or something. I always got along with his wife, so I didn't care about his negative vibe towards me.

 

He always seemed to not like me, that's what I always got from him. Every time my dad talks about a guy I am seeing or I am talking to, Jerry always gets really worried, or upset about it. He said "Hank (my dad) don't let her go out with __ He's bad news, I know decent guys that will go out with Ashley." Meanwhile, he doesn't. It's every time my dad mentions a guy he gets really upset about it.

 

Then when I texted Jerry to see if he was having a party, he said "Probably not tonight." I said "Ok, that's cool. Hey do you and Naomi want to go to this college party with me?" He said "No. I am organizing my house. I might have a fire later if someone can bring wood. Don't go, DON'T GO TO THOSE CRAZY PARTIES!!!" Lol, he said it all in caps. I was actually shocked that he had that reaction because before when I would text him he would either not respond or give me one word answers. Anyways, I guess that what I am asking is if he gives me the impression that he really doesn't care or like me, then why does he act caring when guys are mentioned? Why does he seem protective? Is it because he knew my dad for a long time? I am really curious about this because if you knew him, you would be baffled too! Because he always acts like "I don't want her around." He gives off that vibe a lot to me. So what do you get from this? Thanks!

[regine_phalange]

I'd think that he's really conservative.

 

But there's also the possibility that he likes you, if he treats you differently than others (eg talking to everyone except you).

 

Do you like him?

[Ashley S]

I'd think that he's really conservative.

 

But there's also the possibility that he likes you, if he treats you differently than others (eg talking to everyone except you).

 

Do you like him?

 

He is more a guy's guy. He seems to only talk to guys, which is understandable. He always talks smack on everyone, and he always gave me the impression that he never really wanted me around, and he just invited me because he didn't want to be rude. I get along with his wife a lot, so I would go just to see her. But when I would go to his parties, he always gave me a negative vibe because he's awkward and weird with women. Plus, I thought he didn't like me. Yeah, he barely spoke to me at these parties. I don't like him, I was just wondering why he would act that way, and give me negative vibes, but then act all protective, and caring when it comes to guys. Its strange. Thank you for commenting!

[shvrk]

He might just not feel a need to build much of a relationship w you, but you say he's friends with your dad so maybe that's why he shows he cares. He also just knows of the ignorant stuff that happens at "crazy parties"

[Diezel]

And why are you texting a married man?

[Toodaloo]

And why are you texting a married man?

 

Exactly my thoughts...

[Popsicle]

He likes the attention of an attractive singke woman but he is married.

 

Some guys just like to fantasize.

[Ashley S]

And why are you texting a married man?

 

He tells me to text him to see if he's having parties. I don't text him all the time, and I don't have text convos with him what so ever. His wife Naomi, is not a texter. That is why I was shocked when he actually replied with sentences, because he usually gives me a "Yes" or a "No or a "Ok". I am not flirting with him or anything, I don't even like him.