On and off again relationship

[Iluvsushi11]

Hi im new ... I really really need some advice please

My ex and i broke up 3 times and we havent even been together 6 months yet.....

He was the one who broke my heart and i was left devestated n cried every day. But then we got back together for the second time n i thought everything was going to go well again. Instead, i didnt hear from him for 2 weeks so i decided to end it. A week later, he saw my pof dating profile n messaged me begging to call him n have him explain himself. I was not having it n just said theres no need for that. He was acting desperate n just wanted for me to hear him out.

Should i have let him explain himself??? Its been 3-ish days since then n ive heard nothing from him at all (wats new)....... Hes just so distant n cold towards me...but every time i back off for a while, he comes back n wants to get together again. I dont know what to do bc he has my heart n hes my first everything. He was very special to me n i do want him back, but i know he gets emotionally unavailable n i really dont like that. Help

[DatingAdvise]

The quickest way to get attention is to remove yours. Thats happening here due no contact. There is a reason for these breakup's. I will tell you the mistakes that he make, he do it again for sure, its up to you if his behaviour is acceptable or not. At this moment he misses you, the best thing keep him at distance until he grave for you. At the end of the day woman will blow him of because of his neediness, so i think it is better to end.

[preraph]

He's trying to do just the bare minimum to keep you hanging on. He's seeing other women and doing whatever he wants to do, but he doesn't want you to do the same thing because he's a selfish b**tard. He doesn't want you and he doesn't want anyone else to have you and no that does not mean he loves you. It just means he'd like to be able to keep being with other women and that he doesn't love you enough to think you are the one. His ideal situation is to keep you hanging on and be there if he wants you for a day and you not see anyone else while he dates around and does whatever else he wants to do. You are not his toy, dear. Cut him OFF.

 

The only reason you are putting up with this is because you are still young and naive and think you can "earn" his love or make him love you. He is who he is, and it's not good. You can't make him want to be loyal and faithful. One day you will look back on all this time wasted waiting for him to contact you and kick yourself in the butt for letting him waste your youth.

Edited March 28, 2015 by preraph

[DatingAdvise]

You can't blame him. this is the way he looks at the world and childing up with no affection from his parents. Its not your job to fix him and u can't.

 

 

You only have to understand this guy is no relationship material and make a end and say that this is not working for me.

[kendahke]

What did he need to explain? That he can't figure out if he wants to be in a relationship with you? You figured that out for him--there's nothing more to discuss.

 

A guy who wants a relationship acts like it and doesn't break up with you 3 times in a 6 month period.

[Otter2569]

Three strikes - just say no!!!!