Otter2569 Posted March 28, 2015 Posted March 28, 2015 First of all my amazing relationship came crashing down very recently so I do not plan on dating for a while but... My sisters friend has been texting me off and on and wants to call me next week. I've never seen or met this woman. I've asked her to send a selfie on a few occasions and she never has. She recently went to Cancun so I said "Have fun and remember to take some selfies". She sends me sunset pics - nothing with her in it (red flag)?! Would you meet her for a drink? History: About a year ago my sister told her I was single and that we would get along great. I had just met the love of my life (the 11 month love of my life LOL) so never met this woman. We occasionally keep in contact. We are both looking for new jobs so have been texting a lot lately.
fitnessfan365 Posted March 28, 2015 Posted March 28, 2015 Every first meet/date from online is essentially a blind date for the most part. Granted, you talk a bit before meeting. But it's basically the same thing.
Phoe Posted March 28, 2015 Posted March 28, 2015 Yes, I think I'd be okay with this idea. I'd feel safe knowing my trusted friends believed in this person. I'd actually be WAY more okay with it than OLD, since you never know what's really out there with internet strangers...
d0nnivain Posted March 28, 2015 Posted March 28, 2015 If she's your sister's friend ask your sister if she has a photo of this woman. I have gone a blind date. It's not all that different from OLD just that you still have to be polite to the person who fixed you up & there is some chance you will encounter the "date" in the future. So best behavior is a must. Just go meet this woman for a drink. It's 1/2 hour out of your life. Even if she's not your cup of tea you might meet somebody else while in the bar.
Author Otter2569 Posted March 28, 2015 Author Posted March 28, 2015 No one is concerned about the lack of pics? Even with OLD you have some profile pics to look at. If I was asked I have a dozen or more to send in a heart beat. My sister said she is cute and drives a Mercedes. She did send me a pic of her new car.
Male Posted March 28, 2015 Posted March 28, 2015 I met a few women on blind dates so to speak. Years ago, back when AOL and instant messaging was king I chatted up with a few women and they wouldnt send me any pics. But they peeked my curiosity and drew me in with the mystery. Meeting in person I found them to be attractive. I dated one for about 6 mos, and the other woman for about 2 years.
KatZee Posted March 28, 2015 Posted March 28, 2015 I've been on one blind date in my life and suffice to say, never again. First of all, it's NOTHING like OLD. At least with OLD you have photos to look at. Even if the person is a liar and weighs more, or is shorter than they said, or is balding, you've still gotten a general idea of what the person looks like, and you know if you're attracted or not. With a blind date, you're essentially letting someone else choose a partner for you. Attraction is subjective. For me personally, I'm the only one who is going to know best on who I do and don't find attractive. One of my friends keeps trying to set me up and she chooses people and I'm like... really? REALLY? The one blind date I went on was awful. Of course I wasn't attracted to him. He then had horrible manners at that, and really smelly feet. I'd prefer not to be completely shocked when meeting up with someone. And this girl won't even send you a picture of her face? Red flag to me. That's essentially comparable to the "photo from the neck up" only shot on OLD sites. Because they don't want you seeing what's going on down south. (Hint: It's usually a mess.) 2
Author Otter2569 Posted March 28, 2015 Author Posted March 28, 2015 KatZee, I am with you 1000%! for me on OLD: no pics = no reply / no chance. Only face pics = red flag. Several pics with face and body = take a chance.
Gaeta Posted March 28, 2015 Posted March 28, 2015 Before online dating there was blind dates. The younger people may think it's unacceptable to go meet someone you've never seen a picture of but not so long ago it was a common thing to do. I have been on 3 blind dates with men I had not seen pictures and only spoke on the phone. One of them turned in a 4 year relationship.
Phoe Posted March 28, 2015 Posted March 28, 2015 When I was on OLD I only had one pic. A face pic. I had no desire to show my body, be judged for it, and have people pursuing me based on it. So I did not post it, and if a guy asked for a body pic before continuing talking with me, I declined. I have a great body, I work out and take care of myself. But I have no desire to share photos of that for the world. If men didn't want to talk to me because I did not want to "prove my worth" with a picture of my body before continuing to talk with me, that's their problem. Not mine. 1
Author Otter2569 Posted April 13, 2015 Author Posted April 13, 2015 Pics for OLD are essential in my book. At least a few doing what ever it is that you do. I can see how you might think you are being judged but I figure if you have nothing to hide why not put it out there. Im not talking anything revealing or over the top but something that shows your personality. I just like to get a sense of the person I would be trying to ask out. My profile has 5-6 pics...judge for yourself
Toodaloo Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 I have been on blind dates and I would go again! Had some great fun on them... even the ones I was stood up on! 1
Author Otter2569 Posted April 13, 2015 Author Posted April 13, 2015 BTW this woman I found out has a boyfriend (she told me wo on the phone) and is in an on / off relationship. She was on vacation with him which explains why she never sent me a selfie...still very strange to me in the age of smart phones.
Harold of Andraste Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 No way, I would never go on a date without knowing what she looks like first. Like d0nnivain suggested, ask your friend for a picture of her. Just saw your newest post, don't bother at all.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 OP, I'd just go ahead with it and go on a date with her. If she isn't right for you, then you can just drop the friendzone hammer on her. I will say that its a huge red flag she wont send you pictures though. Usually means she's hiding something, and I find it odd you've known her so long but never seen a picture. She could just be hiding her appearance so you don't want to meet her just for her looks.
jay1983 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 Never again in my life would I ever. Hey but I think you should do it just to have a disaster story. Lol
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