DatingDirection Posted March 28, 2015 Posted March 28, 2015 I've been friends with a guy, I went on a couple dates with last year. He didn't want anything serious with me, so instead we became friends. We don't hang out together, but he calls me from time to time, sometimes he will ask me to go for coffee, but I've been busy, so I haven't seen him. I really like him, he's got a lot of qualities that I want in a man. I've made a lot of changes to my lifestyle, gone all natural, eat vegetarian/vegan, and I see my skin and hair look healthy and shiny. My body is changing as well. My mind, is also changing, im happier, full of vitality and feel good. I'm wondering if I should continue to stay friends with him, or tell him, that part of the reason why I pull back to hang out with him, is because in the back of my mind, I kind of wish we dated more, because I like him as more than a friend, in the hopes of it working out and we'd become this amazing couple. I have this intuition that if we were together, we may be happy together, full of fun and passion. Should I tell this to him, or just keep going as I have been, keeping him as a distant friend, hoping that one day soon, he will realise I am a great women to have something great with?
cessna Posted March 28, 2015 Posted March 28, 2015 I'd say yes, be honest with him. I'd appreciate a girl who was confident enough to be honest with me and who refuses to play games. If he is as honest and up front as you are you'll know where you stand which is always the best thing.
GoldenGirl2015 Posted March 28, 2015 Posted March 28, 2015 I've been friends with a guy, I went on a couple dates with last year. He didn't want anything serious with me, so instead we became friends. We don't hang out together, but he calls me from time to time, sometimes he will ask me to go for coffee, but I've been busy, so I haven't seen him. I really like him, he's got a lot of qualities that I want in a man. I've made a lot of changes to my lifestyle, gone all natural, eat vegetarian/vegan, and I see my skin and hair look healthy and shiny. My body is changing as well. My mind, is also changing, im happier, full of vitality and feel good. I'm wondering if I should continue to stay friends with him, or tell him, that part of the reason why I pull back to hang out with him, is because in the back of my mind, I kind of wish we dated more, because I like him as more than a friend, in the hopes of it working out and we'd become this amazing couple. I have this intuition that if we were together, we may be happy together, full of fun and passion. Should I tell this to him, or just keep going as I have been, keeping him as a distant friend, hoping that one day soon, he will realise I am a great women to have something great with? Yes! Please tell him before it's too late and he meets someone else. Take your opportunity now. 1
stillafool Posted March 28, 2015 Posted March 28, 2015 Yes if you see him as more than a friend you should tell him. If he still feels that he doesn't want anything serious with you I think you should stop your friendship because trying to be friends will hurt you. 1
Redhead14 Posted March 28, 2015 Posted March 28, 2015 I've been friends with a guy, I went on a couple dates with last year. He didn't want anything serious with me, so instead we became friends. We don't hang out together, but he calls me from time to time, sometimes he will ask me to go for coffee, but I've been busy, so I haven't seen him. I really like him, he's got a lot of qualities that I want in a man. I've made a lot of changes to my lifestyle, gone all natural, eat vegetarian/vegan, and I see my skin and hair look healthy and shiny. My body is changing as well. My mind, is also changing, im happier, full of vitality and feel good. I'm wondering if I should continue to stay friends with him, or tell him, that part of the reason why I pull back to hang out with him, is because in the back of my mind, I kind of wish we dated more, because I like him as more than a friend, in the hopes of it working out and we'd become this amazing couple. I have this intuition that if we were together, we may be happy together, full of fun and passion. Should I tell this to him, or just keep going as I have been, keeping him as a distant friend, hoping that one day soon, he will realise I am a great women to have something great with? Well, you could stop pulling back and accept his requests for getting together more often. If he is coming to you more and more, I'd let it develop for a little while. Then say, something like, "I've been enjoying the time we've been spending together and I'm not dating anyone at the moment. (Then list some of the qualities about him that you like). But, I'd like to have a serious long-term relationship for myself at some point and you did tell me some time ago that you weren't interested in a serious relationship, have your feelings about that changed?" And let him talk. Putting it this way doesn't pressure him or make him feel cornered. If he still doesn't want a serious relationship and you do, I'd end the friendship because you'll simply be stringing yourself along by holding on to a "possibility" that will likely never happen.
Author DatingDirection Posted March 28, 2015 Author Posted March 28, 2015 Yes if you see him as more than a friend you should tell him. If he still feels that he doesn't want anything serious with you I think you should stop your friendship because trying to be friends will hurt you. Maybe it's the mood im in right now, I feel happy to be on my own, at the same time, im a bit sad today, as id love to share my life with an amazing person. About this guy, right now, I don't think I can handle being rejected, on the other hand, I want to have my opportunity to share with him what I feel, what I feel I don't know exactly, I mean, we haven't spent a lot of time together, so I don't know what will be? im not making sense right now, sorry. I guess what im trying to say, I could tell him my feelings, but right now my feeling is that I can't stop thinking about him, and I am happy being on my own.
Author DatingDirection Posted March 28, 2015 Author Posted March 28, 2015 Maybe it's the mood im in right now, I feel happy to be on my own, at the same time, im a bit sad today, as id love to share my life with an amazing person. About this guy, right now, I don't think I can handle being rejected, on the other hand, I want to have my opportunity to share with him what I feel, what I feel I don't know exactly, I mean, we haven't spent a lot of time together, so I don't know what will be? im not making sense right now, sorry. I guess what im trying to say, I could tell him my feelings, but right now my feeling is that I can't stop thinking about him, and I am happy being on my own. I also have to say, a few months ago I mentioned how much I like him, I was comparing him to someone else I met, which I just touched on, I didn't go into detail about it with him...so he is getting mixed messages I guess.
preraph Posted March 28, 2015 Posted March 28, 2015 I think once a guy tells you he doesn't want anything serious with you, you need to try to stop focusing on them if you want more than just sex. Listen, NO one likes making the "I don't want a relationship" speech, so anytime someone forces themself to make it, it's because they want no misunderstanding on your part and are not about to get serious with you, no matter how long you expose yourself to them.
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